Straight Privilege.

Straight privilege.

You know, I was sitting in class last week listening to one of my teacher relay a funny story to us about her husband. And I thought about how often all of my other teachers will talk about their husbands or say “My husband did this, I went there with my husband” and so forth. Hell, in my Lang class my teacher regularly relates experiences of her and her husband’s to whatever piece we’re studying to help us analyze. And today I listened to a sub talk about how excited she was for her wedding, how great her fiance is, and the house they have.

It’s just a small example of straight privilege to be able to talk about those things. Not just in the classroom, but in other professional settings too. If a queer teacher one day said “My partner and I….”; or a male teacher “My husband and I…” there would be obvious discomfort and that teacher would be accussed of “shoving their lifestyle down the students’ throats”. But because straight teachers do it all the time no one thinks of it.

Don’t get me wrong. I like it when teachers open up about their personal lives because I think that it’s possible to learn better and be more involved in class when you have a more personal connection with your teacher. But now I can’t help but think what an incredible privilege it is to be able to casually say to your students/co-workers/etc “My wife and I had the most hectic weekend” and have no one think twice about it.

When you make an adult decision without calling your mother first.

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50shades-of-truth

6 years ago

more people should talk about dan reynolds

in case you dont know who that is hes the lead singer of imagine dragons and an amazingly outspoken lgbt ally who specifically focuses on trying to help lgbt youth and i never see anyone on tumblr mention him or the work he does.

dan reynolds was raised mormon and in 2012 the first major imagine dragons single “its time” was on glee, and he started receiving letters from gay fans saying that they loved him and his music but that he probably didnt accept them because he was a mormon. he says that this broke his heart and he knew he had to do something.

not only is he really vocal about lgbt support and issues (which is more than i can say about a lot of people in the spotlight like he is) he created the loveloud foundation last year which is dedicated to supporting and helping lgbt teens and educate people about the things they go through, aiming to lower the rates of suicide, mental illness, drug use, etc.

the foundation puts on the annual loveloud festival in salt lake city, and the second one happened this past july. its an all-day music event that donates all of its profit to lgbt organizations (actually good ones, not shitty fake ones) and this year they raised ONE MILLION DOLLARS in one day.

but he and the people in charge of the festival actually GIVE A SHIT. a trans woman was harassed at the festival when she tried to use the restroom, being told she was in the wrong bathroom, and the loveloud festival not only immediately acknowledged it they ENCOURAGED other people to share any unpleasant experiences they had at the festival so they could reevaluate and figure out how to do better next year.

heres his speech from this year’s loveloud:

“…i wish you could understand… i wish you could see how much we care about you, how much we love you, how much we support you, how much we stand with you. i hope that tonight, and today, you know… you know that your sexuality is pure, and its true, and its clean. i hope that you know you are needed; we need you. i dont wanna hear any more stories of youth taking their lives in utah. we must change our culture. we must change the way we see each other. i know this culture! i know these people! i was raised in this world. i know it. i understand religion. i identify with the beautiful aspects of how i was raised. i cherish many of those things today as part of my life, but one thing that will not be part of my life, ‘cause it does not align with my heart, is to tell someone how to love, and who to love. it’s the most simple concept! its the first thing we’re taught! from a young age! all my girls [he has three daughters] know it. they come out of the womb, and they know, you love. you dont tell someone how to love; you just love. let… love and let love, thats it.

i accept you, i see you, i stand with you, i fight with you. til the end, i will fight with you. i love you all.”

i think allies could learn from him and the way he talks about being gay. its not just okay, its pure. its true. its clean. its perfect. specifically addressing the way gay love and sexuality is demonized and slandered.

idk. i just love dan reynolds and i think more people need to know about what he does.

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50shades-of-truth

8 years ago

Currently my life.😧