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Lecture 9: PE Fetish vs. SPH and penis size

Premature Ejaculation University Winter 2018 curriculum Premature Ejaculation Concepts 101 Professor Maximus vanSnelst

Lecture 9: PE Fetish vs. SPH and penis size

Welcome back, students!

In this lecture we’re going to talk about the apparent correlation between an interest in the Premature Ejaculation fetish and an interest in SPH, which stands for Small Penis Humiliation. And we’ll take about whether the PE fetish/fascination in general is related to small penis size. Perusing posts, captions, and followers of premature ejaculation issues, one cannot help but detect an overlap between the two. Captions often combine premature ejaculation and small dick size. Commentary often does as well. And many SPH enthusiasts also list PE as an interest/fetish, and vice versa. So are the two related?

Is PE a matter of friction?

Let’s start with looking at premature ejaculation in general. As we all know, PE may be caused by a variety of issues. Among them are heredity, age, psychological issues, formative experiences, or biological/medical matters. There is, however, one constant that brings upon the male orgasm, and that is friction. That’s true for masturbation as well as for intercourse. Without friction, orgasm doesn’t happen. Sure, sometimes an orgasm occurs even if you’re totally still. But that’s because some sort of friction got you excited enough to be ready for orgasm.  

Since friction is an essential part of orgasm, one could reasonably expect premature ejaculation to primarily be an issue for the larger penis. Why? Because, given the same size vagina, a larger penis will experience more tightness and thus stronger friction. And the more friction/tightness during intercourse, the more likely is a premature ejaculation. On the other hand, the smaller the penis, the less friction and tightness, and the less likely is PE. That seems logical.

Or is the fetish a matter of (small) size?

So why then the apparent correlation between smaller size, SPH and PE? Since physics, mechanics and friction dynamics strongly suggest that there are more guys with large dicks who are premature ejaculators, why does it appear to be(come) a fetish primarily for those with smaller ones?

Is perhaps the thrill with humiliation the common factor? Some consider it deliciously embarrassing and humiliating to have (or pretend to have) a small penis and it’s also embarrassing and humiliating to be a premature ejaculator. Then again, there are other humiliating things that are fetishized, yet one doesn’t see them combined with PE.

Here at PEU we have interviewed numerous students for their opinions and theories on the matter. Here are some examples of how respondents answered:

“They’re both a fetish for being humiliated for having an inadequate penis. Whether the penis is too small to please a woman, or just doesn’t last long enough to please her, it’s a cock that serves no purpose.”

“Humiliation and inadequacy seem to be a common theme among many of my blog followers. I see more likes when my captions emphasize these views. You can add cuckolding and interracial themes to small dick fantasies. I would say there is certainly enough evidence to support the connection of all of these to the PE fetish.”

“My evidence is only antidotal, but I have found no correlation between penis size and PE, with roughly equal numbers for large and small.”

“PE is stress/adrenaline-related. But if you looked only at the physical aspect, a smaller penis has the same number of nerve endings over a smaller surface area which should result in more sensitivity and therefore more PE.

“I have spoken to lots of guys over the years about PE. And there is a link between small penis and lack of staminia.”

“3” penis and a 8" penis have the same amount of nerve endings. Obviously more spread out over an 8" penis than the 3" penis. So the smaller condensed area for those nerve ending do result in more chance of PE.”

This is just a small sample of answers. And just to make matters even more complex, let’s not forget that having PE is by no means the same as having a PE fetish. Millions of men suffer from PE and hate the conditions, whereas a small minority like being PE, and some who are not PE at all desire to become so.  

Where does SPH come into play?

Penis size is a given. You are what you are. That’s one thing you really cannot change (without resorting to drastic measures). Penis size is on a bell curve just like height and weight, bell curve meaning most people are average, increasingly fewer are on the far left (small) and far right (large) size of the size distribution curve. So most males never give penis size much thought because they are average. It is only those who are very large (will she freak? will I fit without hurting her?) or very small (can I get in? will she laugh at me? will I disappoint her?) who think a lot about penis size.  

SPH – Small Penis Humiliation — is defined as a syndrome where a male gets a sexual thrill over having, or pretending/wishing to have, a small penis. The sexual thrill is based on the humiliation factor, and the humiliation can take many forms.

It can be self-erotic, as in getting excited over the very thought of having a small penis, contemplating what it means, feeling sexually stimulated over the humiliation of not measuring up, imagining sexual encounters where the lack of size becomes an issue, and just generally not being quite a full male.

It can be interactive, as in actively seeking contact with others over penis size. This can be discussing the syndrome with other males who feel the same, getting aroused simply by the conversation. Or it can take the form of seeking actual reaction from females via chat, vidcam session, sex lines, etc.

Or it can be other thrills, like having to struggle entering a pussy, or being unable to do so in the first place.

Why is the thought of not measuring up sexually stimulating to some men? And why is SPH quite common while there is no female equivalent? Small Breast Humiliation? Loose Pussy Humiliation? Those don’t exist, even though there are many women who are into erotic degrading and humiliation. 

So what makes SPH so unique? What is the thrill over not measuring up? What could it possibly be? Why should there be a thrill over coming up short, no pun intended, in something that is a primary pleasure in life, and a primary source of not only good feelings, but also self-confidence and self-esteem?

And why is it that many males who are into SPH are not actually small?

These are all interesting questions. However, one thing is becoming somewhat clear. Both PE and small penis size can be considered sexual inadequacies. Both can be experienced as being humiliating or embarrassing. So if an individual finds sexual humiliation arousing, and that applies to a surprisingly number of males, then finding excitement in both PE and small penis size becomes much more understandable. More humiliation is better for some males, and for them the one-two punch of having a small dick AND PE is like having a shot of Tequila with a beer chaser.

Bottom line here, dear students? It doesn’t matter. Fetishes are not rational. They just are. They can bring us great pleasure. Physical realities are almost secondary. A man who is not small can get great pleasure out of the concept of small penis humiliation. Just as a male who does not have PE can get great pleasure over desiring to be PE. And it seems pretty clear that humiliation seems related both to PE and SPH.

It’s all about humiliation

Why are some people turned on by humiliation in the first place? Another good question. Almost no one likes to be humiliated in any part of life other than sex. So that’s something to think about. However, domination and submission themselves are deeply ingrained in the human experience. Both are driving forces of civilization. Conquest and yielding yielding and conquest; two sides of the same coin.

I’d love to hear your views on all this! – Professor Maximus vanSnelst

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Guide: leading your beta

This guide is a bit different. It’s for the women who are already with a beta, or may be curious about what having a beta in their life would provide them.

Why have a beta?

There are many very good reasons for a woman to keep betas around. You see this already, many women happily friendzone boys who are clearly beta. They often won’t discard them just because they don’t want to have sex with them. 

Here’s some of the reasons to have a beta:

Money. His desire for you didn’t go away just because you friend zoned him. He will happily pay for things. If he’s not already offering, try outright asking. You’ll be surprised how willing he is to provide money. 

Tasks. Similar to money, but if you need a person who will run errands for you, fix your computer, paint the fence - he’ll happily do it for you.

Self esteem. While his self esteem will be shot, who doesn’t enjoy people doting on them? Empower yourself ladies, get some betas around you.

Training him

Once you know he’s on the hook, it’s time to ramp things up. You will likely need to do a few things here to make sure the hook of his obsession with you is bedded deep into him.

This is the step that many woman will find uncomfortable, but really unlocks the benefits in their life.

Talk about your sex life. This will drive him insane, he’ll be thinking all about what you do with Real Men. He’ll be stroking in private to what you tell him. So be sure to talk about it semi-frequently. Enjoy the little barbed comments you can make too, like “I like that I can tell you this, you’re such a good friend. It feels like I’m telling one of my best girlfriends”. 

Reduce his self esteem. As with the comment mentioned above, continually make small (some times big!) comments that emphasis his beta place in your relation. Some examples:

“Thanks for always being there. Not many men would spend this much time with a woman they aren’t having sex with”.

“It must be hard for you sometimes, with not many woman finding you attractive”

“Some guys are just destined to not procreate, but that’s OK - you can still have a great life”

“Maybe you could try working out to try and be more attractive?” (even if he is actually in shape).

Make him pay. Outright tell him to pay for things. Start with drinks when you’re out, but level it up over time. I recommend:

First have him pay for things when together.

Then level up to taking him with you when shopping and ask him to pay for something. This takes things to the next level because he’s now paying for things that he’s not even involved with.

Then have him pay for some lingerie for you that you just know your boyfriend would love.

Longer term, if possible, have him add his credit card to your Amazon account or similar. This lets you use his money without having to see him. Trust me: he’ll be rubbing himself raw knowing you’re buying things with his money.

Encourage him to stay single. Let’s be honest, despite this fetish, some beta males end up with women. You do not want that to occur. At this point, you will need to take the next step…

Next steps

Once you have started having your beta pay for things, do tasks for you, etc, you need to codify this into your lifestyle with him. That doesn’t mean living together or anything like that, but you need to keep him on the hook.

Here’s some suggestions:

Send him suggestive photos. These could be snap chat messages or similar of you dressing up for your actual boy friend. Things you know he’ll be rubbing himself to.

Discuss relationships with him. This should be easy to do since you already talk about your sex life. Start talking about his. Start telling him how you kind of prefer him single. This combined with your efforts to keep his self esteem low, he likely won’t even try to find a woman.

Discuss his masturbation. This is a big one. It lets you acknowledge that he does masturbate to fill in his time. Encourage him to not ejaculate. Not ejaculating will fuck with his head and make him more hungry than ever to worship you.

Discuss his ejaculation. He will be loving these things, but this is where you really drive home his position in life. When he does make cummies, you want to encourage it to be into the toilet – that’s where human waste goes right? Tell him he needs to keep you posted about this.

I hope this helps all the ladies out here that would love to have multiple men spending money on them, but also want to be fucking Real Men. This type of relationship building can help you live the life you always wanted, and do so easily.