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This is a great list and so very true. You find a lot of this toxicity in Dd/lg and D/s relationships too. It is so important to establish a healthy relationship no matter what relationship type you are in. It is important that your partner is always respectful of you, your needs, your boundaries, your goals in life and that they always support your personal growth. If your partner doesn’t do this for you then you need to rethink your relationship. If you can’t do this for your partner then you need to work on your own issues and trauma first. There’s nothing cool, sexy or romantic about toxic habits. Build good relationships, respect yourself and your partner. Always!

What I mean when I say "toxic monogamy culture"

the normalization of jealousy as an indicator of love

the idea that a sufficiently intense love is enough to overcome any practical incompatibilities

the idea that you should meet your partner’s every need, and if you don’t, either you’re inadequate or they’re too needy

the idea that a sufficiently intense love should cause you to cease to be attracted to anyone else

the idea that commitment is synonymous with exclusivity

the idea that marriage and children are the only valid teleological justifications for being committed to a relationship

the idea that your insecurities are always your partner’s responsibility to tip-toe around and never your responsibility to work on

the idea that your value to a partner is directly proportional to the amount of time and energy they spend on you, and it is in zero-sum competition with everything else they value in life

the idea that being of value to a partner should always make up a large chunk of how you value yourself

Hi!

First of all I would like to apologize if at some point this question bothers you, but I would like to ask for advice.

My partner (M) and I (F) have been together for a year and a half, he is completely vanilla with strong traditional convictions and I have had a past linked to bdsm and the Dom/Sub relationship.

The truth is that when we first started dating I told him about it and he told me that he didn't care, but that he couldn't see himself hurting someone he loved. I didn't bring it up again because I had that part of me asleep, but now I feel like I need that again and I don't know how to introduce it and make him see that it's not pain, but something that goes beyond that.

Could you please give me some advice?

Thanks in advance.

There is nothing for you to apologize for. I’m happy to do what I can to help and you’re not the only one to have run into this issue before. I’ve even had partners that were very vanilla and I had to adjust to what they were comfortable with. I don’t know that any two (or more) partners ever exactly match their kinks and levels. So you have to find what works for the both of you. It’s a growing process for you both and the key is being able to talk about it. The trouble is that talking is often the hard part for most people. Do you feel you can talk about it with him openly and that he will receive what your saying? That’s going to be key and it will be tough if he can’t meet you that far.

Exploring kinks can be a challenge for the vanilla flavored people and especially if they are the victim of traditional brainwashing. Yes I say brainwashing because that’s what I feel it is. People can be so conditioned by their family, culture, religion, society. It’s hard to shake that. Their brains are so conditioned to think of all kinks as bad and they really can’t process how satisfying those desires can be so freeing and liberating and fulfilling. The key for you to open up his world is going to be doing it by small increments. Think of it as expanding his horizon and comfort zone. You just may have to be a bit patient with him and always check in with each other afterwards.

Most partners really want to please each other. Hopefully yours is the same way. So if you sit him down and explain that this is something you are desiring and that you want to share with him and that it will really turn you on I’d be willing to bet that he will at least listen. Don’t start him out with whips or nipple clamps or anything that will make him feel like he’s hurting you. Start him out with some basic power play maybe. For example tell him that it really turns you on when he tells you to suck him and how, or to manhandle you into what position he wants you to be in. Tell him you love it when he pins you to the bed. Or maybe suggest tying you to the bed. Something soft and easy for him to buy in to. I think once he sees and feels how you react to it that he will be on board to try some more. Then you can gradually introduce more into the equation. Do you guys ever sext? Try sexting with him about a fantasy like that. Seeing if you can get his anticipation up. Guide him towards the things you want because remember that he has no clue about that stuff. His ignorance and lack of openness comes from his conditioning. It’s up to you to break that and guide him. Remember that a d/s relationship also requires the sub to guide the dom in her comfort levels. You’re just unfortunately starting from zero experience.

He’s probably not going to turn into the master dom to your sub but hopefully the two of you can reach a happy middle that gives you some of that d/s experience you crave while opening up his world but still making him feel comfortable. I hope you have some success with it. I’d love to hear how it goes and if the two of you are making progress together. I’ll be sending you both some good d/s vibes!

Did you think daddy would let your bratty attitude slide baby girl? I warned you didn’t I? More than once. But you continued to talk back to daddy. Continued to tease when daddy told you to behave. Doing your best to disobey daddy every chance you could. And now it’s time to suffer the consequences, little girl. So daddy is going to have to give you a little reminder of what happens to naughty girls. Pulling your squirming protesting body down and across daddy’s lap. Listening to you whine and protest and plead as I yank your skirt and panties down to expose your soft white bottom. You let out a whimper and try to apologize for being naughty. Promise to be better as the first spank lands solidly on your pretty little ass making it rock and quiver as you yelp out in pain.

“Do I have your attention now, baby girl?”

“Daddy, I’m sorry. Please. No spanks!”

My hand smacks your ass had again making you cry out again. The flesh starting to redden.

“Are you going to continue to interrupt daddy?”

“No daddy, I’m sorry. I’ll listen.” You plead, with tears starting to well up in your eyes.

“It’s about time, baby girl. Daddy has been more than patient with you haven’t I?”

“But daddy!”

Smack lands my hand, once, twice, three times until you’re squirming your ass hard trying to pull away from the spanks.

“I asked you a question, baby girl.”

“Yes daddy. So very patient with me”, you whimper, biting your lip as the tears run down your cheeks.

“Why do we have rules baby girl?”

“Ummm” you stammer trying to think up a good answer. “To protect baby girl. To keep her safe and take care of her, because daddy only wants what’s best for baby girl.”

“Very good baby girl. That’s right” I praise as I massage and rub your pink stinging cheeks. “Now it seems that you forgot that today so I need to give you a lesson to help you remember. Are you ready for that?”

“Yes, daddy” you mumble as you bury your face in the couch pillows.

“I think ten more spanks should do it don’t you, baby girl?”

“Noooo, daddy. Just five please. I’ll be good!” You plead trying to look back at me with your big eyes full of tears.

“Daddy says ten, baby girl” and with that the spanks commence. Daddy’s hand alternating ass cheeks and placement. Counting as I spank you again and again. One arm pinning you down as you squirm and writhe under daddy’s hand. Your whimpers and sobs coming between spanks until daddy has given you your spanks.

Daddy rubs your cheeks softly now as you lay collapsed on daddy’s lap. The other hand slipping up to caress your hair and wipe the tears from your cheeks. “Are you going to be daddy’s good girl now?”

“Yes daddy! The best baby girl ever. I promise! I’m sorry for being bad”.

“It’s ok baby girl. Daddy loves you.” I stroke your forehead and cheek letting my fingers trail over your lips.

“Ummm. Daddy.” You whimper. “There’s something I have to tell you”

“What’s that baby girl?”

“Ummm don’t be mad, but ummmm I really wanted spanks. I needed them.”

“I know Princess” I assure you as I slowly slip my hand down over cheeks and push my fingers down between your legs and through your soft folds feeling your little pussy dripping wet as you let out a guttural moan and quiver, trembling with need for daddy. “That’s my good girl! Now it’s time for daddy to make it all better!”

Daddy’s princess..

where do you find the inspiration for the things you write?

Hi there and thanks for the ask. It’s a combination of my own experiences as a daddy and dom, my desires and my fantasies. I enjoy writing and sharing them and I try to set a good example of what a supportive and caring Dd/lg relationship should be.

How I love this. Feeling the curve of your ass as you go down on me, licking and sucking and feeling daddy throb in your mouth. Watching me precious girls hungry mouth devour me with abandon. Struggling to take in every inch of me. My rough hands caressing your perfect ass, feeling your soft skin as you wiggle under my touch. Spreading your legs apart to push my fingers into your soft folds. Feeling how wet you are for me. Your folds already dripping with desire. My fingers slipping through them to the little nub of your clit, feeling you moan around my cock as I caress you. The vibration of your mouth on my cock making me throb, making you suck deeper.

Such a good girl for daddy. Daddy’s precious little slut. So eager to please daddy, making you so wet for daddy. Do you like when daddy praises you as you suck me? I can tell you do from your moans and your tongue. I can tell from your wetness as my fingers thrust into you. Rocking them back and forth before slipping them back to your clit. Giving it a little spank with my fingers, feeling you gasp around my cock and moan again as you grind against my fingers, hungry for more.

So tell me baby girl what do you want for your reward? Do you want to feel daddy’s cum flooding your little mouth? Do you want to hear daddy’s gasps and moans and growls? Do you want to feel daddy grabbing your head and pushing you down as I throb and explode in your mouth, my hot cum flooding down your throat. Or do you want daddy to pin you down to this bed and to fuck you senseless? Taking your yummy little holes just as I want, fucking you until you’re cumming again and again on daddy’s cock. Fucking you until you’re a sobbing little mess that is dripping with daddy’s cum. So which is it baby girl? Because good girls deserve rewards and daddy going to make sure you get what you want.

Do you know beautiful you are, baby girl? How absolutely perfect you are, just as you are? Every beautiful curve, your full hips and breasts, your luscious ass, perfect! You are just as you are meant to be and you should be proud of your body. Flaunt it, use it, show it to me and let me show you how much daddy loves it, craves it and wants to use it. Let me trace every curve with my kisses, my tongue, my fingers. Let me devour you, explore you, find every sensitive and erotic spot until you’re lost to the pleasure, a moaning, dripping, desperate mess. You are perfect just the way you are, baby girl! Let daddy show you!

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Happy Thanksgiving to all my Tumblr friends and family! Hoping you all have a wonderful day, eat way too much yummy food and enjoy being with your loved ones! And maybe even enjoy some naughtiness! Don’t forget to be thankful for all that you have!

Those intimate moments are the best. Getting lost in each others caress. Letting the world melt away as you lay there vibing together, talking about the anything and everything, or just laying in silence while you marvel at the comforting feel of your partner’s body against yours.

Daddy’s lap is where you belong, baby girl! Close to me, in daddy’s arms, so I can hold you close and kiss you hard! I don’t care where we are, my lap is your place! Bring your luscious little bottom here! Let me feel you wiggling and squirming for daddy! Let me feel your warmth against me, your soft arms around my neck as you lean in close! Let me taste your lips and feel your head on my shoulder! This is where you belong, baby girl!