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Ten Commandments for a husband in a Female Led Marriage

1. Dedicate your life to my happiness and give me your uncompromising devotion. 2. Put my pleasure, my needs and my wishes before your own and never grumble or moan about it. 3. Obey my rules willingly and obey my commands immediately. Treat my suggestions as orders. 4. Never argue with me. Give in to me in all things. Submit to my will and to my authority. 5. Devote yourself to serving me, both in and out of the bedroom. 6. All chores that need to be done at home are your job unless I decide otherwise. 7. Ask for my approval before doing anything, going anywhere or spending anything. 8. Listen to me attentively when I speak to you. 9. Confess all your transgressions to me and never, never lie to me. 10. Request punishment when you deserve it and willingly submit to all punishments I apply.

6 things that don't make you a bad Dom(me)

Tumblr often shows two sides: fake Dom(me)s and perfect Dom(me)s. The reality is much more nuanced and that perfection is a fallacy. During my early days, I wish someone had told me that and had assured me that the following six things didn’t make me a bad dominant.

1. Having limits It may be obviously, but Dom(me)s’ limits, be they soft, hard or fleeting, are as important and valid as those of a sub. You don’t have to be into everything.

2. Needing practice Some people say you’re born as a Dom(me) or a sub. I don’t necessarily agree with this, but what is undeniable is you’re not born with the full dominant skills set. It’s okay to need time to learn how to give commands, tie a rope, swing a flogger, or even control your own stamina. Learning is part of the joy and it’s okay to be a student in dominance until you die; it’s much better that than being ignorant about your skills set (or lack there of).

3. Requiring equal effort A lot of “bad Dom(me)s” are lazy as all hell, barking commands and then not following through. But there are a lot of equally “bad subs” who don’t put an ounce of effort into the dynamic and are simply looking for someone to tie them up and provide orgasms. If you’re putting your all into a lifestyle, you have the right to expect equal commitment.

4. Not always being “on” We all have libidos that come and go. There’s a sense that a Dom(me) is good to go at any time of the day. It is completely normal to sometimes not feel like sex or not feel particularly dominant.

5. Having a drop Subs often drop after a scene, but so too can Dom(me)s. Dropping is completely normal and it’s okay to need your own kind of aftercare.

6. Not being a Dom(me) Great Dom(me)s aren’t always dominant. Many are switched, having the marvellous gift of enjoying both sides of a power dynamic. Enjoying submission makes you no less of a gifted and devoted dominant.

Tumblr provides a meticulously curated snapshot of people’s lives. Even those particularly legendary dominants started off from nothing and have their weaknesses; they’re brilliant because of their flaws, not despite them.

Don’t believe the myths made by others and measure yourself by your own potential.

Yours,

The Gentleman

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a very important read

Obedience is Important

Even though I have been dominant to my husband for a few years, it can hardly compare to the decades of cultural indoctrination teaching me that the husband should lead, and the wife follows. Because of this lifelong conditioning, leading this relationship has been an uphill battle for me. Even though I am dominant and absolutely love being so, my dominance got off to a slow start, and remains slightly fragile to this day. It is something that needs to be carefully nurtured by both of us if it is to continue to grow long into the future.

For me to be dominant, I need to know for certain that my husband is 100 percent fully invested in my leadership and willing to follow. Because of this, I cannot tolerate any form of bratty behavior from him. Being bratty, no matter how playful, still challenges my dominance, and I’m not ready for that yet. I am very loving and quite playful, but any play has to be led by me, on my terms. Disobedience simply cannot be tolerated and I have to be strict with him. I’ll explain why.

Every act of submission or obedience affirms my right to control him, but more importantly, it gives a boost to my confidence, which makes me feel really good about myself, and inspires me to assume further control. Feeling powerful makes me feel sexy, which is one of the reasons why being dominant is so amazing for me.

Alternately, if he were to disobey me, break our rules willingly, or be bratty, my confidence would take a hit and I’d start questioning my own authority, sending me into a downward spiral of self doubt. I cannot be dominant in that mindset.

That’s the reason I have to be strict when I punish him. When he accepts punishment, it reaffirms my right to lead and repairs my damaged self confidence caused by his bad behavior. Enforcing domestic discipline leaves me feeling powerful, which is very sexy to me and, when it’s deserved, I really enjoy using corporal punishment on him now.

Although we have a few rules in place just for fun as an excuse to spank him, we take others very seriously. These are zero tolerance rules that I have thought out carefully and decided I need in place to rule him effectively. As we both value our relationship integrity, our promises to each other mean so much.

For each rule created, he has promised to do his best to obey it at all times, and submit to my punishment willingly for his failures. I have promised to do my best, to punish him each time the rule is broken and to the full extent that we have negotiated. The punishments for zero tolerance rules are intentionally harsh, to ensure the rule is taken seriously.  It’s not only about him breaking the rule, but making me question and feel bad about myself, causing my dominance to backslide, which we both agree should never be allowed.

Because he craves it, he has been very good when it comes to nurturing my dominance. Whenever I physically restrain him, including chastity, he puts up no resistance. Whenever I decide he needs discipline, he surrenders himself willingly. Whatever I dish out, he takes, no matter the punishment. He accepts whatever training I teach him and does his best to be obedient.

Again, my dominance is fragile, but with time, the fragility will dwindle down to nothing when my lifetime of cultural indoctrination is finally fully suppressed. He knows how important it is to me for him not to be a brat. As I lead him into a life of submission, he is doing all he can to help me grow and feel comfortable in a life of dominance and I love him so much for all he is and does for me.

I only have one comment re this, why would you want to stop him???

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