22.02.2022 ; Tuesday

people forget that there are literally no rules to being queer. if you feel queer, congrats, you can be queer. its not my or anyone else’s job to investigate or interrogate you. you are the sole authority on your identity 

death sounds more appealing than period cramps

Dating a dark academic:

If you have watched Pride and Prejudice (2005) and have been disappointed that you will never get to experience that kind of a courtship, well, you were wrong.

Unlimited oversized warm sweaters and blazers for you to borrow (steal) from their closet.

They write the BEST LETTERS. Expect long letters in dark ink and loopy handwriting, probably written on a coffee stained ancient piece of paper with heartfelt declarations of love to make you cry.

Dates at the museums and art galleries. (Stolen kisses in the restricted section.)

If you're also someone who loves to read, your dark academic will gift you loads of paperbacks with flowers pressed between the pages or a well loved copy of their favourite book with little notes scribbled in the margins (that's a gateway to their soul, keep it carefully).

Visiting gothic libraries together and roaming hand in hand while staring at the antique books with thick spines and reading together in the dimly lit corners.

They'll take you to nearby castles to watch the sunset and have a romantic little picnic.

You will act tired of them declaring their love for you by quoting Wordsworth or Keats or Wilde but you'll love it secretly.

Listening to soft classical music together with your hands wandering around or making out in the rain with them.

You can walk hand in hand in strange new streets to discover quaint little cafes but they'll always order a strongly brewed cup of tea or a tall mug of black coffee wherever they go.

They have a classy sense of fashion and though you tease them by calling their outfits pretentious, they are always the best dressed person in the room (but you won't ever admit that).

They'll give you little gifts (yes, exactly like 19th century's courting rituals) like chunky beautiful rings with a pretty gemstone, or an antique silver pendant, a vintage scarf from their favourite thrift shop or a beautiful piece of art they've made or a heartfelt poem they've composed for you.

They can appear to be broody and dark (Mr. Darcy-like) but don't worry they're just a big softie on the inside who'll melt as soon as you hug them and blush profusely when you suddenly kiss their cheek.

I just saw the most Galaxy Brain gender take ever, from a cis man on reddit

[ID: a screenshot of a comment from reddit, with no username visible. The commend reads: This doesn’t make a ton of sense to me either. Setting aside the question of whether gender/sex is assigned or observed at birth, the gender I was assigned at birth was ‘boy.’ The gender I have now is ‘man’. Boys and men have different gender roles, and few adults identify as boys anymore. From this standpoint, every adult has a different gender than the one they had at birth. End ID]

Framing “girl” and “boy” as separate genders from “woman” and “man” is such an amazing take. it’s a framework that accommodates and explains so many trans experiences. Some trans people never were their AGAB. Some feel like they were their AGAB, but that that changed (usually when puberty hits, which is when you start “becoming a man/woman”. The accepted societal path is that girls grow up to into women, and boys grow up into men. But some girls grow up into men, and some boys grow up into women. This guy was a boy who grew up into a man, which generally works out pretty well for people. Some boys and girls grow up into people who aren’t men or women, even! It’s like this random cis guy skipped right over transgender 101, 102, 201, etc. and stumbled directly into Transgender Nirvana.

all this thor talk and im not understanding a thing :(

more posts like this on my instagram

𝐈𝐍𝐃𝐈𝐀𝐍 𝐀𝐑𝐂𝐇𝐈𝐓𝐄𝐂𝐓𝐔𝐑𝐄 -----

Architecture belongs to culture, not to civilization. - Alvar Aalto

tagging : @akuutaguava , @arachneofthoughts

“What if I slept a little more and forgot about all this nonsense.”

— Franz Kafka

niche things I love about Indian culture

(Besides the awesome fashion, food, mythology, architecture, music, and philosophies)

-in Hindi, “ladies and gentlemen” is “goddesses and gentlemen” (देवियों और सज्जनो)

-how you measure age by how many monsoons you’ve seen (“he is of 10 monsoons”)

-good morning WhatsApp forwards. Yes, this is a controversial one. I just think it’s cute as hell

-how 2 Indians can each know like 4 languages but still not be able to communicate with each other because they don’t share a single common one

-men wearing lots of jewellery especially gold hoop earrings 👀👌🏽

-nose rings (I got mine when I was a kid WITH my parents’ approval)

-the fact that Indian English uses so many archaic words and terms. And also so many terms that sound like they’re from the year 2050 (like “biodata” for resume)

-“where should I put this?” “On my head.”

-the expression “sucking my blood” in Punjabi when someone is annoying you. “Stop sucking my blood,” “He’s really sucking my blood.” Also “He’s eating my brain” in Hindi is a good one too

-how shop owners serve you food and chai and how the men drape saris over themselves to model them for you

-impromptu poetry sessions (“वह क्या बात है!”)

-there’s a reason so many animes are inspired by Hinduism and Buddhism. The original spirit bombs and other magical energy weapons were in the mahabharat lol

-really off the wall units of measurement. Lakh makes perfect sense. Crore makes a bit of sense. But why is a mahakalpa 311,040,000,000,000 years. Why does an akshauhini consist of 21,870 chariots; 21,870 elephants; 65,610 horses and 109,350 infantry. That is so specific

-the fact that no one’s gonna top the party we’re gonna throw when the queen dies

constantly opening and closing this app like a fridge