Waiting For The Day The People Closest To Me Pick An Animal They Feel Best Represents Me, Only Way To

bf and i are on s4 of my su rewatch (his first full watch, he'd seen bits and pieces growing up) and i just had to draw my favorite gem 🥰🥰🦪

bismuth and pearl!!😳

5000 years ago.

demisexuality can be so hard to explain because it’s misconstrued as you just wanting to trust the other person before you have sex with them. and I get why the misconception happens. But demisexuality differs in that there isn’t sexual attraction at all before that bond forms.

I think what people have difficulty with is the idea that there are people out there who aren’t experiencing sexual attraction at all until a certain point, if ever, because we’re taught that sex, libido, and sexual attraction are all the same, both in and out of queer spaces.

And when you’re learning about asexuality and demisexuality, you may learn that people have romantic and aesthetic attraction separately from sexual attraction, and that sexual and romantic attraction aren’t necessarily intertwined, and that may challenge your worldview on sex.

But “I trust you enough to have sex with you” isn’t the same as “I’m not sexually attracted to anyone but you, and the reason I’m sexually attracted to you now after we’ve established this close bond is literally because of the bond of trust we’ve been able to form”.

It’s easy to see how those can get conflated. On the surface, if you’re unfamiliar with asexuality, they may sound the same. But it’s important to acknowledge the difference between “no sex until I trust you” and “no sexual attraction unless I trust you and maybe not even then”.

Demisexuality is housed under the asexuality spectrum. It’s part of the gray area between being allosexual and asexual. It’s part of why the definition for asexuality includes “little to no sexual attraction”. It’s a mostly asexual experience with an asterisk.

While being demisexual may have impacts on a persons sexual activity, even demisexuals have a varied relationship to the act of participating in sex. Libido and sexual attraction are not always intertwined either, which can make telling the difference tricky.

I think of sexual attraction as libido that has a compass. Since I rarely ever experience sexual attraction, but do have libido, it’s noticeable for me when that libido actually has a direction to go, rather than being a floating, nebulous, independent thing.

Remember, not everyone is demisexual. There’s a difference between waiting to have sex and not having sexual attraction at all until a certain point. This also inherently ties demisexuality to romantic attraction and relationships, and not all demisexuals are alloromantic.

But if you read what demisexuality is and think “everyone is like that” or “that’s just being a woman”, you either 1) are demisexual 2) don’t understand what it is or 3) both. And it’s okay to not know. Just as long as you’re willing to try to learn.

Quick reminder that it's always morally correct to punch nazis.

Listen, if a Bad President can come in and take away our rights and we're dependent on a Good President replacing them in four years to give us back our rights, then we do not have any rights.

If politicians can take or distribute them, then they're not "inalienable" and they're not "rights."

We don't have inalienable rights we have conditional privileges, divvied out according to the whims of whoever currently holds the reins.

And if we want to have actual rights, then we must build a system in which no one has the power to take them away to begin with.

i like color pencils :]

I want to phase AGAB language out of my normal use because I'm not intersex and AGAB was meant for intersex people. Does anyone have any good alternatives? I use "person with a uterus" or "person with a penis" or any other anatomy based language when it's relevant to the conversation but there are aspects of my body and experience I want to talk about that aren't just about my organs.

I'm a person who is perceived as a woman. I check off all the boxes for what is considered "standard female anatomy" (big quotes here, I don't think a standard should define us) I grew up raised as a girl, I haven't physically transitioned at all, etc etc etc

I want to be able to acknowledge and expand on these parts of my existence without referring to myself as a woman bc I'm not. I also don't want to be put in the "woman-lite" category. I don't see my body as being gendered even if other people perceive it as being woman gendered. I've considered the term "female-bodied' to describe me but my worry is that language could be used against trans people. I don't like the terms masc or fem for me either because I don't feel masculine or feminine. I don't connect to those terms.

I constantly feel like when I try to explain my experience I run into all sorts of linguistics barriers and it's deeply frustrating to me

I am going to get even louder about my beliefs, to my friends, my family, to strangers, on the internet. I am a punk. I believe in trans rights, gay rights, equality for all sexes, freedom from gender norms, the right for any person to do whatever the fuck they want with their own bodies. Abortion is a human right. I respect pronouns. I believe in science and the impending climate collapse we are heading towards if we don't change everything (which I doubt we will) I'm queer and neurodivergent. I'm getting a degree in environmental science because I want to make a difference.

I also feel incredibly hopeless right now, I want to do so much but I don't know where to start besides sharing information on the internet. It's not enough, I need to go out and make a difference but I'm barely keeping my head afloat. This is what the system is designed to do. Keep us barely surviving so we can't organize against them.

I don't know where to go from here but I do know I'm not going to stop fighting. And neither should you. This is not going to be an easy fight and many people will lose their lives. We cannot stop fighting.

Don't forget disabled people, don't forget queer people, don't forget people of color, don't forget immigrants, don't forget all the people who will die because they can't get abortions. don't forget the people who are going to be the most impacted by this.