Ok so this post is extremely long and I put it all together for my blogs Feeling sad page but as I don’t have a huge amount of followers I realize so many people are not seeing this information so I’m posting it here too!
alternatives without harming yourself:
holding/squeezing ice.
splashing your face with water.
getting a rubber band and snapping it against your skin (this could hurt, though it’s better than other ways that people usually choose to self-harm).
take a hot shower or bath.
eat something sour. it will take your mind of the urge. (lemon, sour lollies)
massage where you want to self-harm.
get a red pen or red paint and draw/paint over where you usually self-harm.
remind yourself as to why you shouldn’t do it. (scars, harms organs, leave memories etc…)
describe what you are feeling. (is the urge/pain in your chest, fists, legs, arms, head).
killing yourself will not help. it is not a solution.
you have your whole life ahead of you. you have so many more years that you can accomplish things in. for example;
having a family.
getting married.
to watch the sun rise.
to watch the sun set.
to save someone else’s life.
finish school.
get your dream job.
to laugh.
to smile.
to go camping.
travel to new places.
to wake up every morning to the person you love.
friends.
family.
to keep that promise you made.
to accomplish a goal.
to meet your idol.
to listen to new music.
theme parks.
video games.
chocolate.
to be able to look back and say “i made it”.
what you’re going through is temporary.
in case you need to hear this:
you are loved.
you are wanted.
you are needed.
you are beautiful.
you are handsome.
you are important.
you are not alone.
you are okay.
you are strong.
you are worth it.
you are smart.
you are not a failure.
you are useful.
you are going to be okay.
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let’s unpack what’s wrong with this
1.) “‘endos are trying to steal,’ first off, endogenic systems are not stealing. Anti-endos think they own the rights to the word “system” sorry, they don’t. no one does” while yes i agree, no one “owns” the word/phrase “system” that was not the context of the phrase “endos are trying to steal”, the whole post is about a tag that was made FOR traumagenic systems that was immediately overrun by endos
2.) “‘systempunk’ has devolved into a space full of hate and bashing endogenic systems and those who support them. Nobody with and actual brain that pays attention wants to associate being punk with being HATEFUL. Being anti-endo is not, and never will be punk, okay?” maybe the problem is that system tags were overrun with endo systems, some traumagenic systems (anti-endo or not) said “hey, we want a tag to ourselves where we don’t have to be around people who we either don’t agree with or we’re just straight up tired of seeing” and endos SAW that tag and went “oh a space made specifically for traumagenic systems? we want in!” despite the fact the tag ISNT FOR THEM. i cant talk about the whole punk argument and i wont even try because i don’t know ab it, but i can say that traumagenic spaces are for traumagenic systems regardless of the name. the point of the tag wasn’t the name, it’s the space.
3) "’that all pro-endos do is steal from real systems’ this phrasing right here implies that pro-endo traumagenic/DID/OSDD systems aren't real systems because they don't hate other plurals who's existence wasn't initialized by trauma. How are you going to sit here and FAKECLAIM other trauma survivors who don't agree with you being hateful by saying this? How does that look?” no, the OP is saying that time and time again endos like to infest spaces that aren’t made for them. they are not fakeclaiming. they are not being hateful. they are stating that endo systems decided a tag that was not made for them was theirs.
4.) “Every day anti-endos prove to us more and more that they're a hate group. Oh, and they love to project their actions. They're the ones doing the harm here.
Anti-endos stop harming the plural community challenge: IMPOSSIBLE” actually you’re the one who’s spreading the hate. you saw this post of someone stating that they didn’t like how a tag made for one group was being used by another group. you took it upon YOURSELF to take this post out of context, put words into OP’s mouth and ultimately were the only one spreading hate.
i try to be as kind as possible and i think some endo systems are completely valid but come one people, the point of the syspunk tag was to be traumagenic safe and endos are ruining it. if endos want to be accepted this is not the way to do it. if you guys want a tag, make a tag, dont use traumagenic system’s tags.
endos trying to steal systempunk only reinforces that all pro-endos do is steal from real systems lol
Let's unpack what's wrong with this ridiculous statement from an anti-endo:
1) "endos trying to steal" first off, endogenic systems are not stealing. Anti-endos think they own the rights to the word "system" sorry, they don't. No one does.
2) "systempunk" has devolved into a space full of hate and bashing endogenic systems and those who support them. Nobody with an actual brain that pays attention wants to associate being punk with being HATEFUL. Punks don't hate people. Being anti-endo is not and never will be punk, okay?
3) "that all pro-endos do is steal from real systems" this phrasing right here implies that pro-endo traumagenic/DID/OSDD systems aren't real systems because they don't hate other plurals who's existence wasn't initialized by trauma. How are you going to sit here and FAKECLAIM other trauma survivors who don't agree with you being hateful by saying this? How does that look?
Every day anti-endos prove to us more and more that they're a hate group. Oh, and they love to project their actions. They're the ones doing the harm here.
Anti-endos stop harming the plural community challenge: IMPOSSIBLE
ok, i dont want to do another lets unpack so imma just say my side on the anti endo/pro endo
i want to be neutral because i agree (and disagree) with points from both. example, i agree that endos can be real systems and that trauma isn’t always the cause, i also agree that it’s not other people’s place to faleclaim systems and that asking ab system’s trauma is NEVER ok in any scenario. on the anti-endo side i agree that some endos are actively causing harm, spreading misinformation, taking resources that aren’t meant for them.
i would just as easily turn on an anti-endo post as i would a pro-endo post. i do not agree with pointless hate and making people feel uncomfortable in their own communities. that’s the part i dislike most ab anti-endos, it’s a lot of pointless hate (yeah that may be a tad hypocritical but i digress).
i’m not going to go back on my post but i can say that you’re right, the inclusive tags shouldn’t have anti-endos in it spreading hate and it is 100% not their place to do so.
when i said some endos are valid i mean the endos who aren’t fetishising the disorder. i mean the ones who don’t treat it like a trend or an accessory. the endos that are just trying to be a system because it’s “qUiRkY” are causing harm and i’m allowed to recognise that without dismissing the actual endos out there.
endos trying to steal systempunk only reinforces that all pro-endos do is steal from real systems lol
Let's unpack what's wrong with this ridiculous statement from an anti-endo:
1) "endos trying to steal" first off, endogenic systems are not stealing. Anti-endos think they own the rights to the word "system" sorry, they don't. No one does.
2) "systempunk" has devolved into a space full of hate and bashing endogenic systems and those who support them. Nobody with an actual brain that pays attention wants to associate being punk with being HATEFUL. Punks don't hate people. Being anti-endo is not and never will be punk, okay?
3) "that all pro-endos do is steal from real systems" this phrasing right here implies that pro-endo traumagenic/DID/OSDD systems aren't real systems because they don't hate other plurals who's existence wasn't initialized by trauma. How are you going to sit here and FAKECLAIM other trauma survivors who don't agree with you being hateful by saying this? How does that look?
Every day anti-endos prove to us more and more that they're a hate group. Oh, and they love to project their actions. They're the ones doing the harm here.
Anti-endos stop harming the plural community challenge: IMPOSSIBLE
Endos are kind of like some guy showing up at a therapy circle and saying "I don't have trauma but sometimes I flinch at loud noises, and that's kind of like a trauma response, we have so much in common :)"
jesus no
Pro-endo traumagenic culture is "endogencis make a mockery of us" then looking at r/systemscringe full of exclusively singlets basically who. Make a mockery of everyone. It doesn't matter if you're anti-endo, they'll make fun of you for being anti-endo, doesn't matter if you're traumagenic, they'll make fun of you for doing it wrong. There's a perfect example of how it doesn't matter what type of system you are you cannot be the "perfect system" to singlets who just want to hate you. And they'll still say shit like that lmfao???
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If a girl is to do the same superman thing where he takes off his disguise, we just look pervy. Not the same effect
white people go like “is anyone going to redesign this nonhuman evil character as a poc?” and not wait for an answer