Tbh For A Long Time I Really Resented The Advice "pick A Partner That You Would Want To Raise Kids With"

KELLY ROWLAND on filming “Brown Skin Girl” for Beyoncé’s Black is King (2020)

Please be mindful of the “spiritual” posts and advice you see on social media and platforms like this ones, even if you aren’t a Christian. A lot of the beliefs that are promoted on here are quite harmful and dangerous to practice, I know that from personal experience. I’m always asked why I don’t believe or subscribe to things like astrology and other new age beliefs, but I was once someone who partook in those things and I experienced first hand the damage that it can have on someone’s psyche and overall well-being. A lot of people are depressed and suicidal these days because they want to cling onto something to get meaning out of, something “spiritual”, so they start making idols of these new ages beliefs: the position of the planets, seeing themselves as the gods of their own reality, etc. 

The most disturbing thing I see promoted on here is flat out witchcraft and the use of spells to get things out of life. Understand that not everything that appears of light is of light. Yes, you may get some things by practicing occult rituals, but at what cost? Trust that sooner or later those things will come back to haunt you. You don’t know what or who you are inviting into your life.

I don’t know who needed to hear this but my spirit compelled me to write this. It’s coming from a place of love and not judgement. If you guys want to dive on these types of subjects and my opinions on it let me know through my inbox. 

Glow up tips/ideas

Here’s my little guide how to glow up in your life:

First, get your life together:

Organise and clean your home -Having clean home will make you feel better and lighter and therefore you will be more positive.

Have a life admin day -Write down all the stuff that needs to be done, all the appointments you need to get and everything that needs to be fixed. Then schedule in a day every month or every two weeks when you tick off these thing off your list.

Do your damn laundry

Create routines -They can be long and strict or short and very opened

Fight procrastination in all the ways you can

Take your mediaction and have regular health check ups

Now it’s time for mental health:

Make sure you eat and drink water regularly

Get a therapist if you feel like you need/want one

Practise your hobbies or find new ones

Listen to your favourite music

Meditate

Create a happy atmosphere for yourself -Buy plants and flowers, let your favourite music play in the background, let in as much ligh as you can.

Warm beverages

Be as positive as you can

Try to complain less

Don’t talk shit about people, especially not behind their back -You spread negative energy and hurt yourself in the process.

Say nice things to people, compliment them as much as you can -Being nice to poeple will affect your own mood for the better.

Talk about what you love, not what you hate

Get enough fresh air.

Glow up your mind!:

Read more books -Does not matter the genre

Watch movies and series

Learn new language -Even if it’s just a few words

Watch documents

Talk to people smarter than you

Try learning random fact every day

Find a new hobby

Think of ways to make your life better and help your surrounding -Minimalism? Zero waste? Vegetarian? It depends on you.

Find a new friend

Help people

And lastly the physical glow up:

Find out how much sleep you need and stick to it -Usually 8 hours are the norm

Play around with make up -You will fail and it might look wonky from the beginning. And maybe you won’t even like it. I want you to experiment.

Make sure to go make-up-less sometimes if you wear it often

Drink water -It won’t magically clear your skin completely but it will get better.

Wash your face in the morning and in the evening, but no soap if possible

Use as little skin products as you can -Sometimes less is more.

Lip balm

Eat vegetables every day -Every. single. day. It’s the best thing I have ever done for myself.

Eat oatmeal -It did wonders for my hair.

Stretch regularly

Exercise -Find something you have fun doing and do it as often as possible.

Avoid food with too much grease and sugar -You can have it but try to reduce it.

Prepare your outfit the night before -It gives you time to think about what you’ll wear and it’s nice to have it ready in the morning.

Get clothes you feel good and confident in

Get your dream hair colour! -Get crazy if you want

Learn to be comfortable with your body

Don’t shower every day -I know, I know… but listen… It’s actually much healthier for your skin to shower every other day and wash your hair even less. Plus it saves a lot of water.

Get a perfume -Have a scent

Get enough sun -You don’t have to be tan but getting sun on your skin is very healthy and it’s visible in other ways than tan.

Smile and spread joy

If you’re happy, show it -It’s contagious

Remember that beauty comes from within. That is why I put these tips in that order.

I hope I helped and have a great year!

“You are altogether beautiful, my love; there is no flaw in you.”

— Song of Solomon 4:7 [ESV].

Jeeez.

watercolor asks

zinc white; how are you really feeling today? no one-word answers please!

cadmium yellow; when you think of the word “happy” what’s the first thing that comes to mind?

lemon; what’s your comfort food?

hansa yellow; what’s your guilty pleasure song?

yellow ochre; name an artist/band whom you just discovered & can’t get enough of!

naples yellow; where do you feel most at home?

raw sienna; with whom do you feel most at home?

golden ochre; describe the relationship you have with your closest friend.

golden deep; what’s your favorite season?

cadmium orange; what do you like to do on your days off?

orange lake; do you have anyone you can turn to when you’re sad?

titans; do you prefer slow mornings or relaxing evenings?

shakhnazaryan red; are you currently binge-watching anything?

red ochre; are you more right-brained (creative) or left-brained (analytical)?

burnt sienna; is there a painting that brings you peace when you look at it?

english red; what animal do you relate to most?

vermilion; what’s your favorite accent?

cadmium red; do you have a “type” when it comes to a significant other?

scarlet; describe your current crush/es.

ruby; what does your ideal first date look like?

carmine; what does your ideal second date look like?

madder lake red; would you ever kiss someone (or accept a kiss) on a first date?

rose; what’s something really positive going on in your life right now?

quinacridone rose; what’s something you’re really looking forward to?

violet rose; what does your dream house look like?

violet; is there any place in particular you’d like to settle down?

blue lake; what would you like to do/accomplish before you settle down?

cobalt blue spectral; what is the most beautiful place you have ever been to?

ultramarine; when was the last time you were in a good mood? do you know/remember what sparked it?

blue; what’s the most recent dream you remember?

bright blue; what does your dream family look like? any kids or pets? how many of each?

blue cobalt; do you like your name? would you give yourself a different name if you could?

prussian azure; what’s your favorite scent?

azure blue; what’s your favorite type of tea, if any?

turquoise blue; if you could start a garden, what would you plant?

cerulean blue; if you were guaranteed to have a viewership, would you start a youtube vlog?

glauconite; describe your body without using any negative adjectives.

yellow green; picture yourself walking in a field. what do you see & hear in this scenario?

green light; are you in a comfortable place in life? if not, what do you think might make it better?

green; name three countries you want to visit; do you have any actual plans in place to visit any of them?

emerald green; do you speak any languages besides english? are there any additional languages you want to learn?

oxide of chromium; what’s your favorite book?

olive green; are you currently reading anything? how do you like it so far?

mars brown; what’s a movie that always puts a smile on your face/makes you laugh?

burnt umber; what’s something you plan to do before the day is over to take care of yourself?

umber; have you drank enough water today?

voronezhskaya black; what or who is your go-to outlet for when you need to vent?

sepia; name five things that always make you happy.

indigo; what’s the best/sweetest compliment you have ever received?

payne’s gray; describe your aesthetic?

black; post a selfie because you are so beautiful!

:-D I always want..

Reblog if you want a "why are you so..." in your ask.

Ermm... truth much.

As a black woman who likes white men why don’t we see many black women/white men pairings, without the white guy trying to come off as this urban stereotype?

What should you be reading to maximize your language learning?

It’s easy to get overwhelmed by the sheer amount of literature we can learn from. Baby books bore you, but you’re not ready for any type of novel, so what’s left?

Here are some tips 

For beginner/A1/A2 learners

Watch a YouTube video in your target language, then read the comments

you’ll already have vocabulary from watching the video, most of the comments will probably use that vocab

it’s a short enough text that you won’t get fatigued

the only downside is that sometimes people utilize abbreviations and slang terms, but even these are good to know

Read news headlines and if you find one you understand almost fully, try to read the full article

sometimes the vocabulary used is not common in everyday usage, but it’s a total win for an A1 learner to fully read and mostly understand any text

while vocab is not used everyday, it will give you the ammunition to talk about that particular topic

Watch Netflix in target language with subtitles in the same language

believe it or not, you will learn to read better, especially because you don’t have to understand written description of visuals (usually uses very niche vocab) or emotion

and now you can slow down or speed up 

I watched DARK in German before I felt like I could read a book, and I understood 85% of it. This is because I looked up some vocabulary in the first episodes and they continued to use it throughout the show so it really cemented in my head to the point where I don’t even think about it. Now, I had to rewatch some conversations the characters had, but that’s much better for understanding than switching it to English or looking up full phrases and sentences. 

For intermediate/B1/B2 learners

read fanfiction

it’s ALWAYS good to read about something you’re interested in so if you like any major movies, books, television, this is the perfect option for you

most people use relatively basic language and you can choose the length 

find a comic book or graphic novel

like watching tv, that visual aid really helps with understanding of the plot without all those tricky descriptions

read a book in your target language that you’ve read and loved in your native language

this is by far my favorite way

you don’t have to worry about trying to understanding the bigger picture because you already know what’s happening/what will happen, you really have to discover the meaning of each sentence and then you begin to picture the scene using only your target language

Check out my other post for methods of how to get the most out of reading !

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I miss you, Jesus. I am sorry I’ve been doing things on my own again without thinking about you. Help my ungodliness and help me focus on you. Re-work my heart so that you become its center, now and forevermore. Amen.