If You Are Taking The Car To Chicago, Can You Even Call Yourself A Feminist. There Are Women On That

I think.. I did it. I trained youtube algorithm to stop recommending me males! This is my current frontpage:

zero males in sight!! Persistence paid off.

Lowkey thinking about writing up a new version of the masterdoc that cuts out the bullshit. 

(main edits being: no liking feminine men doesn't make you a lesbian, actively dissociating and imagining a woman MIGHT mean something. especially if it happens frequently in otherwise healthy hetero relationships.

Do you have trauma? how young? what ‘lessons’ were you taught from this trauma? “I can only receive attention and care under the condition that I am a sexual resource available to men” If that sentence kicked you in the gut, your sexuality is probably fucked up in general. go to therapy. be very careful with “LGBT friendly” therapists when you do.

  If sex with women makes you feel happy in ways that sex with men doesn't. maybe you have shitty boyfriends. but also maybe that is your inherent sexuality?) I would obviously want to do a fuckload of research before even writing a first draft but, is this even a thing anyone would want? can the masterdoc be fixed at all?

Let me see if i can give you a hint here. If a female doesnt never gets a period she will go to the doctor to find out what is wrong, a male wont. (also you call them cis women. You know, we all know, who the females are)

she says he won't let her get a dog, which is fine, because they're in an apartment, and that's the kind of thing people say about their partners. he won't let me get a dog. and you're at a dinner party and you tilt your head a little to the side just like that dog he won't let her get, because is this the thing that's going to upset you? you don't know every corner of their relationship, she could be joking, they could have had so many healthy conversations about the dog, right, and maybe she's not letting herself get the dog because of money and time and whatever. but, like, she did say let

and she wants to move away from his hometown and he wants to stay and then he tells you with a wink and a conspiratorial stage whisper don't worry i'll convince her and she laughs about it - so clearly this is something they laugh about. but you do just stand there and stare at him like what the fuck, man. you can't say what you want to say which is why do you get the final say on everything because they're both obviously aware of the other person's stance on this and have obviously had private conversations about it and what are you going to do about it except make a scene and then he'll be mad at you and call you one of those bitches behind your back and she'll cut you off, which is a loss that doesn't feel worth it just because he makes you a little skeeved out every 3rd comment

and they both agree he just isn't the type to get flowers which is fine because everyone shows love differently, and are you really gonna judge someone based on their sense of individual relationship responsibility? maybe he's constantly cleaning her car and writing her poems and making her furniture or something. maybe she doesn't even like flowers and this is perfect, actually. and no you couldn't date him, obviously, ew; but like, she tells you she's happy. you almost send her a tiktok that says don't be 25 and the cool girl that doesn't need anything, you'll hate not getting flowers at 30, but that's like, starting drama & you shouldn't start drama needlessly.

and you're a little older than her but not so much older you can pull the whole trust me on this one babe thing and besides that wouldn't have worked anyway (when does it ever) and besides you have trauma so you and your therapist both agree that you're always looking for a problem even when there isn't one. and you tell yourself that just because you see them for 15 minutes every month does not mean you can identify every single red flag based on a single shitty half-joking(?) comment

and besides, what are you going to do? she says i actually wanted another stand mixer but thankfully he stops me when i'm about to spend too much money and you're standing there like are you okay? is this normal? is this just something people say? and again - what are you going to do?

to your therapist you try to language it - it's not, like, any of my business. but sometimes, doesn't it feel like - you should do something. there's got to be something, right? you've tried dropping little hints but they sail right through and you've tried having a single serious conversation and she got upset because why does it matter to you, yes it's different but we're happy, it doesn't need to make sense to you and you're like. really unwilling to push a boundary about it anymore; because the truth is that you know logically it shouldn't matter to you, as long as both parties are happy.

and besides, you've been wrong before. it's just... like, every time you see them both, something else happens, some kind of shiver down your spine like do you even hear each other when you talk. it's their strange, bickering orbit. just the way he's on his phone through dinner or watching sports instead of helping in the kitchen or, fuck, another one of these little throwaway comments he makes about we'll see about that, babe. she laughs when he calls her passions stupid shit and meanwhile she gets him tickets to see the knicks and he tells you well at least she's smart about something and still! it's none of your business.

you say get the dog anyway and she laughs. like, this is is you being funny. and not you saying - no really. get the dog. get the dog and get out of here. pack up and start running.

For gyns who didn’t read my other repost, I’ll post it here.

If you want help with your resume, in regards to reading it over or even helping you make one, I will help you.

If you want help with answering interview questions, I will help you.

In high school & college, I studied on interviews and resumes. I studied it for years. I did many practice interviews, both the interviewer and interviewee. I’ve also did the same with resumes, both making my own in different templates, and reading other people’s resumes.

I am also willing to read over essays, read for mistakes, point them out to help you, or suggest edits.

For free. Just let me know. If you want live help, I can call on discord.

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Would you like to see the interview in which he clarifies he is a gay man? I would be willing to go find it for you. Misgendering is violence and all that.

this is what the lgbT community was founded upon - the backs of brown and black trans women. deny it but it will never make it any less true. denying history is a pathetic hobby

fuckkkkkkkk i hope all you terfs rot in hell 

Sometimes you were an autistic middle schooler who said the wrong thing and that's okay you don't need to kill yourself about it in your mid 20s

youre telling me this woman is so ungodly rich. and did not “read the manual” to be a parent. ALL OF THE RESOURCES EVER. used none. didnt talk to anyone about how babies learn and grow and how you have to parent???? wouldnt that shit be like day one of the simplest parenting class?

cant stop thinking about grimes saying she didnt realize she had to teach her child words