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if you’re going to make these assumptions that non-asexual people are “sex-happy,” have sex frequently or at all, have uncomplicated relationships to sex, are sexually attracted to strangers or other people they don’t have a strong bond with, etc., then you have to accept that there are TONS of people who fit your definition of asexual who are not part of any identifiable asexual community, who may not ever identify as asexual, who do not necessarily agree with any theories, politics, or systems of identification developed by asexual communities, but whose feelings and ways of relating to sexuality are just as valid as yours, and you have no way of knowing who they are. and when you assume that someone must not be one of these people, must embody every expectation you have about non-asexual people, solely because they do not identify as asexual, you are making very invasive and inappropriate assumptions about another person’s personal, private sexual feelings and that is not okay. and in particular when you do this to lgbt people, women, people of color, and especially people at the intersections of those groups, you are reinforcing ideas about their relationships to sexuality that play a significant role in their oppression.

if chocolate guy made it, it would look less like chocolate

A newly described burrowing frog, Synapturanus danta, from the Peruvian Amazon has a tapir-like snoot and resembles chocolate.

Photo by Germán Chávez.

No because I need to know. When I check the box for organ donation does that include skin. Does it actually include this use or is that just for specifically people donating their bodies "for science"

Because if it does, I'm getting that shit removed from my ID tomorrow. Take my heart, lungs, whatever. I'm not becoming a males surgically constructed fuck hole. No.

i have no words

Let me see if i can give you a hint here. If a female doesnt never gets a period she will go to the doctor to find out what is wrong, a male wont. (also you call them cis women. You know, we all know, who the females are)

I’ve volunteered at our local senior center for years, and once I’d gotten to know the women who came, I’d eventually ask about their husbands, and they’d confide to me that they felt like a nurse, not a wife, because he expected to be waited on hand and foot, three hot meals a day, his medicine handed to him exactly when he needed to take it, her to make all his appointments. And I’d suggest, oh, they have those pill bottles that tell you when you last took your medicine, there are these services for seniors to help get you to appointments, I can sign you up for meals on wheels!

And they’d say, no, it wasn’t that he couldn’t manage his own appointments or pills or dinner, because he’d done it for years, but he stopped when they moved in together/got married/bought a house/had a kid/two kids. A woman told me she dated a man for years, had a child with him, got pregnant again, moved across the country for his job - and the second she had no job, no nearby family, a toddler, and a newborn, his personality did an immediate 180. I heard this story from every woman, the only difference was when it occurred. After marriage? The first kid? The second? When did he feel like she was in too deep to divorce him, and stop pretending to give a fuck about her?

So I started gently inquiring with middle-aged women and younger, trying to figure it out. And they all described the same thing. Some of them were bewildered, trying to fix it, thinking it was temporary. I met a woman who described her husband’s “postpartum depression”, which involved him reneging on his promise to take paternity leave, laying around when he was home, accepting every offer of work travel he could, and yelling at her constantly. Five years later, his “PPD” is still going strong. One woman wistfully told me about how they used to go grocery shopping together and cook a delicious meal together for them and their kid, but when he got a job across the country and they moved, he stopped helping and she became responsible for cooking all meals, or he’d feed their kid a microwave quesadilla for dinner every night. I know a childfree woman who separated from her husband because he started dumping all the chores on her, but went back to him when he promised to fix it and started acting like when they were dating. And then five years later, once they’d bought a vacation home together and were renting it out, he immediately struck again. Only this time, divorcing him was going to be such a financial tangle that she just decided to suck it up and pick up his socks for the rest of their marriage.

There was one single man who came to the senior center with his wife, doted on her, was an absolute Prince Charming until the end. He was so endlessly kind and adoring with his wife, she raved about him. They would look through the classes we offered, each circle on their own pamphlet the ones they wanted to do, and then do the ones they both circled, and he would peek over her shoulder to circle the ones she did - we all knew it, and it was hugely adorable.

Then she died, and he tried to alter her will to give her family farm that she’d inherited from her mother to their son instead of their daughter, who had been running it for years.

And after all these stories, I kind of just had to accept it. All of these women were intelligent, and aware of male violence, had vetted the men they were dating, and thought they were getting a good one. Literally making the same mistake as their mothers, over and over again, because they thought, “well, I checked him out! I dated him for years before we got married/had a kid! I lived with him, I know what he’s like! I looked for red flags!” not realizing that, yeah, so did lots of women.

But the problem is, we’re not talking to each other enough, so every woman is evaluating her relationship under the assumption that he will continue to act the same way he’s acting right then. Which makes sense, but doesn’t seem to be a good predictor of behavior in men. Every single woman would tell me, “oh, he turned out just like his dad, you have to look at the dad,” “it’s because he went to vietnam, I shouldn’t have married someone who went to war, “it’s because his mom did all the chores, you have to look at the mom,” “his parents were abusive, you have to marry a man who goes to therapy,” “i think he didn’t really want kids and was just going along with me, you have to make sure the guy suggests kids first,” and they were blaming themselves for not being able to see it - although, as far as I could tell, it was pretty universal.

And I had to accept that I was not smarter than them, I didn’t have any innate talent for reading people that they didn’t, there was no secret red flag, and I wasn’t going to do any better at vetting men than they did. I find it confusing, that men can put on a mask for years. I couldn’t do that, it would be literally impossible. But all my evidence suggests that many men are capable of this, and many women aren’t great at seeing through it. So why would I even bother? I don’t find it to be worth my time to invest in a relationship that has a countdown clock on it. I don’t want to put in the time to bond with a façade. I have like. real shit to do.

She even still has perfectly plucked eyebrows and eyeliner.

i feel that “female character who angers the male fanbase” post so much

wandered to kotakuinaction since i read that tumblrincation got banned on reddit so i was all hmm what are the culture warriors angry about

and under some article about the horizon game some dude described THIS:

as “an ogre that cannot even be called a human”

“How do we account for the fact that many women view their relationships with their male partners as egalitarian? In fact, within intimate heterosexual relationships, both women and men generate the fantasy of the egalitarian relationship. Studies by Elizabeth Grauerholz (1987) help us to understand this phenomenon. Grauerholz asked “if men possess greater power than women, why is there a tendency for both men and women in heterosexual dating and marital relationships to report an equal distribution of power in their relationships?” She found that, for both sexes, perceived egalitarianism within the relationship increased as perceived likelihood of finding another partner who was as good or better than their present partner decreased! This finding suggests that, when people feel they lack relational alternatives, they improve their evaluations of their current relationship. As women’s perceptions of getting a partner who is any better decrease, women’s perceptions of being in an egalitarian relationship with a male partner are prone to distortion in the direction of misperceiving the relation as more egalitarian than it is.”

- Loving To Survive by Dee L. R. Graham

i think radfem wlw should date other radfem wlw and rule the world.

-thoughts of a high macie

<3

I highly encourage turning on the tumblr setting for showing timestamps on posts and replies. It helps keep things in context. It's really easy to feel overwhelmed when you see post after post of bad news with no reference to when it's happening - there's a sense of urgency and panic because it all seems current, even if logically you understand that there's lots of post churn due to the nature of the queue/reblog system.

Arizonans, help save reproductive rights in our state

A group, Arizonans for Reproductive Freedom, is hard at work to get an initiative on the ballot for November to amend our state constitution to include a right to reproductive freedom for every individual.

They need 356,467 signatures by July 7 to get it on the ballot.

You must sign in person. Fortunately, events are happening at offices and businesses throughout the state, mostly in Tucson and Phoenix, to aid this effort. You can find each one and volunteer to collect signatures at https://azreproductivefreedom.com/.

Because Maricopa County has the most people, I’ll copy that county’s locations below, but OTHER COUNTIES HAVE SIGNING LOCATIONS AVAILABLE AT THE LINK.

Maricopa County

Stop Dark Money Office 514 W Roosevelt St M-F | 10am-2pm

Maricopa County Democratic Party 1301 E Washington St M-F | 12pm-4pm

Brick Road Coffee 4415 S Rural Rd Suite 10 M-F | 7am-10pm Sa-Su | 8am-10pm

Copper Star Coffee 4220 N 7th Ave M-Su | 6am-5pm

Gracie’s Tax Bar 711 N 7th Ave Tu-Sat | 4pm-7pm 10pm-1am M-Sun | 4pm-7pm

Monsoon Market 3508 N. 7th St. Suite 140 M-Su | 12pm-5pm

Urbana 44th St. #202 M-Sa | 10am-6pm Sun | 11am-5pm

Urbana Scottsdale 44th St. #202 M-Sa | 10am-6pm Sun | 11am-5pm

Hidden Track Bottle Shop 111 W. Monroe Street #120 M-Sa | 12pm-6pm

Foothills Recreation & Aquatics 5600 W Union Hills Dr Sunday | 8am-11am

Toasted Mallow 1034 N Gilbert Rd #3 M-Su | 12pm-8pm

Salon D’ Shayne 1616 N Central Ave #101 Hours vary

Changing Hands Bookstore 300 W Camelback Rd M-Su | 10am-8pm

Thunderbird Lounge 710 W Montecito Ave M-Su | 4pm-2am

Tres Leches Cafe 1714 West Van Buren Street M-F | 8am-2pm Sa-Su | 8am-8pm

people who live in areas where there are native lizards should never take that for granted. you can just go outside and see a little guy hanging out. what’s better than that?

I think people often underestimate the potential educational value of senseless memes. For example, thanks to Spiders Georg, literally every teenager on Tumblr has a reasonable grasp of what a statistical outlier is and the sorts of problems that outliers can introduce into a naïve analysis. There are grown adults who don’t get that - I deal with them on a daily basis.

One of my favorite parts of the Hunger Games was how, in the beginning, Katniss was jealous amd resentful of the townies for not having to work in the coal mines. Then, over time, she realizes they aren't the true enemy. Then she sees the other district kids as so much better off than she is, because at least they don't come from district 12. But then she realizes they aren't the enemy either. And then she hates the other victors, before realizing they have all been exploited just as much as she has. So the enemy must be the Capitol citizens, who benefit from the exploitation of the districts, right? Wrong again. They are just uninformed and pampered people who have been kept in the dark about the true horrors faced by the rest of the country. Most of them, when push comes to shove, are perfectly willing to help the war efforts.

And slowly, over the three books, all theses separate factions of downtrodden people start to see each other as allies instead of enemies, and that is what propells them to eventual victory over the true enemy, the government that tried to pit them against each other. Just fun, totally fictional things to think about that have nothing whatsoever to do with our current life.

the original gay pride flag includes sex and that’s about as ace exclusionist as you can get

Remember this system would actually probably rely on the filianic year, So you would have to google the weekday of march 21st (or any other 1st of a filianic month) before your birthday. Which for you specifically would actually be Sai Raya

On the Chapel of Our Mother God website, it's been said that "the Janya ruling the year of one's birth is considered as significant as the ruling animal of one's birth-year in Chinese astrology" - how on earth can I determine which Janya rules my birth year? I'm still trying to understand the years and days in Deanism/Filianism and I don't know how to determine this for a year that was 3 decades ago.

Rayati! Thank you for sending me this ask, because while I knew about this vaguely I never actually bothered to think about it that much, and it really is interesting to me.

If I recall correctly, the Janya who rules over a certain year depends on the day of the week that year begins. For example, a year that began on Sunday, Rayadi, was ruled by Sai Raya. So a quick Google search of "What day of the week did [birth year] start?" should work.

For anyone who needs a refresher of the Filianic week, here you go:

Rayadi (Sunday,) ruled by Sai Raya

Candredi (Monday,) ruled by Sai Candrë

Vikhedi (Tuesday,) ruled by Sai Vikhë

Matidi (Wednesday,) ruled by Sai Mati

Thamedi (Thursday,) ruled by Sai Thamë

Sucridi (Friday,) ruled by Sai Sushuri

Rhavedi (Saturday,) ruled by Sai Rhavë

My birth year began on a Sucridi, making Sai Sushuri the ruler of my birth year. Neat!

To give the least insane argument against this, Ambiance nice. Sometimes you can legitimately love the sensations of silk on your skin and soft flickering natural light while reading. Now the line for me would be how comfortable you actually are. The second you are wearing pore clogging gloop on your face or a weird ass ‘sexy’ pose, yeah thats just for the image. but yes I would much rather enjoy a wonderful meal in a fancy candlelit restaurant than inside a waffle house. Even if it was the same exact meal.

I feel like "romanticize your life" actually means "perform for an imaginary voyeur." Men don't do this shit.

So my female only filianic server is up. DM me if you’re interested.

Déanic Ask Game ミ☆

❓: Are you a Déanist or a Filianist? (I know all Filianists are Déanists too, technically, but bear with me here.) Do you follow a blended path?

📖: Do you have a favourite verse from the Clear Recital? If not, maybe a favourite teaching or chapter?

🙏: Do you prefer recited, pre-written prayers or spontaneous prayer? Do you have a favourite prayer? Have you ever written your own?

🪞: Do you have a preferred “image” of Déa, such as Mother Mary, a particular goddess, etc.?

😇: Do you have a patroness Janya, or a Janya you feel the closest to?

📿: Do you own any prayer beads? Did you buy them, or make them yourself? How do you pray them?

🎁: Do you celebrate the Déanic holidays, something else or a mix of both? Do you have a favourite holiday?

👣: What has your religious journey looked like? Did you walk any paths before this one?

💬: Do you have a favourite Déanic or generally religious quote?

👐: What makes you feel close to Déa?

📺: Is there any fictional media that gives you Déanic vibes, or otherwise reminds you of Her in some way?

🫂: What’s your favourite part about being in the Ekklesia?

💭: Free space! Ask your own question, if you’d like!

Honestly, a crafts god exists. It's Athena. Literally you just want to worship Athena.

no but if 2022 is okayish and it’s all because a straw goat burnt down what do we do then. where do we go from that point.

For those who are curious of an actual translation of this mindset: "The only safe prostitution is legal prostitution; Like abortion it does not stop when you make it illegal. Regulated prostitution would be more protected against murders. Therefore the women trying to prevent legalization are foolish and evil"

Now this is still insane, but at least a thought that is understandable if just misled? Like we hate it when side is made to be cartoonified evil. We should at least be fighting the stupid argument they are actually making.

ya’ll i can’t anymore 

“ Less than 20 percent of the world's landholders are women. “ My bet here is that the 1% figure is measuring amount of land owned, that men own disportionately more land per single land owner

Discontent You create from discontent. Most of your life has been spent being uncomfortable in your own skin. This body is just another house that's never felt like home. You don't know how to be at ease in this world or this life. Art is a way of running away, of forgetting yourself and escaping to a more comfortable place. To cope with an unhospitable reality, you create more welcoming worlds to consume your work and your waking hours. But the foundation of your art has always been your discontent with the real world and your life within it. Lurking behind the inviting scenery you dream of is the desperate desire to be anywhere but here. It is a world constructed as a respite from this one. Such vivid fantasies are the dream of one who considers reality a prison.

hey everyone 👋 take my uquiz i finished and then forgot about for months. it's 28 questions with 15 results and there's no lyrics or pop culture references so it should be friendly to non-americans and people like me who are just out of touch

That character goes on to time travel and break the timeline into like 10 terrible dystopias (including one in which the future is completely barren- implying she kinda killed the entire planet) Is then forgiven because she had a friend move away when she was 10 and that made her sad. So she gets to live in the castle and learn friendship from Princess Twilight She then gets frustrated with her friendship homework and literally mind controls twilight’s 5 friends to get her homework done. She gets to continue living in the castle

Everyone in the village, with the exception of Starlight herself, lives "cutie unmarked" and talentless under the imposed banner of equality. To reflect this, all of the houses in Our Town are arranged into two parallel rows that form an equal sign.

When Twilight Sparkle and her friends visit the town, Starlight and her followers show how content their lives are there. As they explain through the song In Our Town, they "do not separate [themselves] by more than name," they "dare not compete," "no one is superior," and "you can't have a nightmare if you never dream."

MY LITTLE PONY WHAT

Your average woman spends....

7 hours a day on her cellphone

49 hours a week,

210 a month,

2520 per year,

And finally, 25200 per decade. That's 2.9 years of her life spent on Instagram, Tiktok, YouTube, et cetera, doing useless activities that she'll not even remember, out of 10 YEARS of her life.

Even dedicating one third of that total time spent on screens on activities that provide an actual feeling of furfillement would reveal itself to be incredibly more fruitful.

We're assisting to a massive collective time sinking right now, and it should worry every single one of us. Even you, dear reader.

Your average woman is putting off excercise, skipping cooking healthy meals and going for the junkfood, avoiding studying new things that will enrich her life by going on Instagram Reels, odds she's skipping socialization opportunities with family or friends, she's probably missing out on activities because she's being overwelmed by the SELF-CAUSED lack of TIME. Your average woman is very likely to report lack of focus and feeling less productive than she feels she could be. She's also likely to report having mental health issues, from anxiety to depression, compulsion or apathy, or general lack of energy even.

Those two different issues, time wasting and lack of satisfaction with one's life, are absolutely linked.

And in my honest opinion, dedicating maybe one hour or two per day to reading, self-improvement, journaling, meditation, excercise, actual in-person socialization, and so on is going to help a LOT those issues.

Your average woman is actually simply NOT doing any of that.

And you probably deduced that being average isn't a great thing in that case.

You owe yourself your own happiness and furfillement. You owe yourself time to yourself.

You owe yourself an excellent focus, you owe yourself accomplishment and success.

You know how to do it. Eliminate anything that's on the way. Uninstall Tumblr and Pinterest and Tiktok and Facebook and Twitter and... You get it. You're way more likely to WASTE your precious time and STEAL yourself from great opportunities because you dead-scrolled.

Then, with the remaining apps, electronics, etc, severely declutter their use down to what you DO actually appreciate, to what you consider important.

Technology offers great benefits but it did stole our collective time. It made us insolated from each other, it made us hyperfocused on the fake PLEASURE that electronic device "interactions" offers, and made us skip the ACTUAL PLEASURE that life offers us.

I am not writing this to be angry at YOU in particular, I am personally pretty angry at the WHOLE situation that led us to that. And I personally feel pretty helpless facing this whole situation, people are aware of this themselves but they don't really realize how bad it actually is.

aaaaaaaaaaa!! im so excited, Ive loved your art for years now!! an oracle deck from you will be soooo nice <3 <3 This collection already looks great!

Some designs from my oracle deck in the making.

These two are LITERALLY identical, (also some of those beiges on the left are suspiciously similar but that could be lighting)

Pepe Silvia Charlie but it's me explaining to my girlfriend that each of my 6 blue/White striped Oxford shirts is extremely different from the others

youre telling me this woman is so ungodly rich. and did not “read the manual” to be a parent. ALL OF THE RESOURCES EVER. used none. didnt talk to anyone about how babies learn and grow and how you have to parent???? wouldnt that shit be like day one of the simplest parenting class?

cant stop thinking about grimes saying she didnt realize she had to teach her child words