Dark Side Of The Loom

polaris; guiding light for lost horses

I can’t stop thinking about this.

Trading random boy knowledge! In my (cis) experience masculinity is more body language/ behavior than anything else and I don't know much about clothes anyway. Tried to stick to more general stuff, but some of it is probably also specific to my region.

1. Upwards nod for people you know, downwards nod for people you don't.

2. If you're holding a door for someone but don't want it to seem overly formal/ like a big deal, use the back of your fist or your foot to prop it. Nobody cares if you walk through before holding it, if it's a push door.

3. Master the frat boy hug, which is appropriate for any situation where a handshake isn't. Clasped hands in front, one side leaned in, and two pats on the back. If you carry, this is also a tactful way to avoid people awkwardly feeling your weapon when they press up against you.

4. Assume anyone wearing a hijab does not want to be touched by you, if at all possible. Don't offer a handshake- right hand over the heart with a small bow. Very small.

5. You can put a phone in your back pocket but don't sit on top of a thick wallet, it will fuck up your spine. Most people have card wallets now anyway.

6. Most guys bond over shared interests and are reluctant to open up too much before a relationship has been established. It's okay not to be into cars/sports/guns/whatever, but if someone asks and you were to say only “I don't watch football,” and nothing else, it'll be heard as “I'm not interested in bonding with you over this.” Consider instead something like “I don't watch much football, but I went to a game once and it seemed pretty cool.” Treat it like you're rescheduling something- give them a way back into the topic or pivot it to something else if they want.

7. Queer spaces have their own rules and they're usually highly localized. If you're in a new area and don't have an “in,” attend a live Rocky Horror performance or a social drag event. They're basically professionals at adopting new queer people. It can be a little intimidating, though!

Hell yeah!!!! Thank you so much!!! A bunch of these I hasn't heard before esp socializing and etiquette

"irreversible side effects of HRT" all of life is irreversible. i cannot go back a single second in time

Ukrainian serviceman Hennadii Yudin stands in the middle of a church in Novoekonomichne, heavily damaged by Russian bombings.

Sources: United 24, Evgeniy Maloletka/AP

for my fellow southern/midwestern USAmericans: ain't it

the japanese “-ne?” particle and the british slang term “innit” serve the same function

We love the Ides of March because it’s the last example of a senate working together to accomplish something.

Crown Prince: IRL i'm the eldest child and also named after a prince

Knut: The name of a polar bear born in the Berlin zoo and what kickstarted my polar bear obsession (also the name of the stuffed polar bear in my profile pic)

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