Teasing Tactics

Teasing is the most delightful part of chastity play. Don’t cheat yourself by skimping in this area. Indulge in it liberally and you’ll be rewarded and he will swoon. Women are natural teases so it’ll come easily to you. But in case you’re wondering where to start, here are a few ideas to get you started.

Beginners

When you’re just starting out with chastity the teases don’t have to be complex. His head will be exploding with WTFs and TCBRs (This Can’t Be Real) so often that the slightest hint of teasing won’t go unnoticed.

There. All locked up. You’re in for some fun!

The fact that his little guy won’t be having any fun is not lost on his fevered mind. Variations on this that you can use all the time are, “Have fun!” “Don’t have too much fun!” “Enjoy!” “Enjoy your month!” etc.

Are you going to thank me?

Thanking you for taking away his favorite toy will seem insane and hot. He won’t know which but he will thank you.

Hmm, is that a banana in your pocket or are you just happy to see me?

The fact that you can feel his bulge but his bulge can’t feel you is a mind trip. He’ll wish he could act but he’ll be thwarted.

Is there something I can do for you?

He knows you obviously don’t mean that but he want to ask for it anyway. Make sure he knows not to.

It’s Friday night! I wonder what people are doin’ tonight, don’t you?

Reminding him he’s not like other men and doesn’t enjoy the same freedoms is very empowering for you and diminishing for him. Try it often. Other variations, “Guess we don’t need these condoms anymore. Maybe my friend Mary’s husband could use them.” “

Do you ever wish you could just bend me over and…?

Of course he does and reminding him every hour doesn’t help! And neither does bending over in front of him every chance you get. ;-) Other variations, “Sometimes a guy just has to take what’s his.” “Don’t you just want to break out of that thing and ravish me?”

Wish you could have played with me tonight but alas. Guess I’ll have to make do with the Hitachi again.

Continuing to have a healthy number of orgasms while he goes without is a great way to illustrate the proper balance. Stating that you wish he could join when it’s your will alone that keeps him locked is a nice irony.

Middle Stages

The big threat that scares chaste men who have gotten a few months into the lifestyle is that it has gotten out of their control. They fear it may eventually become permanent and there is no way they can stop that from happening. Use this to great effect.

We’re going to be on the road when your release day comes up. Guess you’ll just have a dry February this time.

The ease with which you casually throw away the orgasm that he has been hoping for over the past weeks will blow his mind.

I can tell by the look in your eyes that you want out. Tisk tisk. That’s going to cost you.

Adding time for the tiniest of infractions lets him know you mean business and you’re not to be trifled with. “Ask again and I’ll double it.” “You’re five minutes late. Too bad for you that’s going to be an extra day.”

I haven’t decided but then again I haven’t given it much thought

Uncertainty is a great weapon. Let him wonder. Let him stew. Never let him know what he can expect. “Don’t think too much about it. I haven’t.”

Do you ever wish we didn’t have to do this whole routine with unlocking and relocking?

Hinting at permanence can be very scary for him and very exciting. “What’s the longest time you could handle? What if we doubled it?”

I was doing some math. Do you realize you only have XXX orgasms left in your entire life? Maybe less.

Knowing the exact number can seem so finite.

Advanced

Eventually the chastity will become his life and his passion. At this point you don’t need to tease him about it anymore. It’s what he wants more than just about anything. At this point you can tease him about how far he’s fallen, what he’s lost, what he’s given up and what he’ll never have again. Erotic humiliation is a curious kink that women find baffling but most men understand intrinsically.

After all this time in that little cage, I wonder if your penis is still the same size.

Size. The universal insecurity. Poke fun at his size and you’ll get him growing futilely in his cage. Other variations include, “Last time you were out you seemed noticeably smaller. Did I do that to you? Oops! Oh well. No, I won’t let you out so you can try to recoup.” “You used to fill me up. I guess it’s just as well that you don’t anymore since you’re not going to have that opportunity much more.”

That guy over there, the tall one. He’s hot. I would totally love to…

Cuckolding is either a genetic weakness in some males or a socialized weakness in all males. in any case, many men are wired so that when their mate is presented with a sexual opportunity with another man, something flips inside and they suddenly become vicariously aroused. It’s probably an evolutionary pressure release valve that kept tribal men from killing each other over infidelities. But in modern times it means you can twist men that much more.

That guy’s hot, don’t you think?

Without a penis he’s just one of the girls now, functionally speaking. Embarrassing for him but hey, oh well. It’s nice to be able to talk freely without worrying what he might hear or think.

You know how you made me watch that girl/girl porno with you? Well Susan just told me of this hot stud flick that just came out, all guys. Even guys with guys. You game?

When access to the penis is restricted, other forms of pleasure are magnified. Homoerotic situations suddenly seem like viable alternatives to the locked straight man, much to his alarm. This will probably be the slowest and longest slide down but it will happen.

What are your ideas?

I’d love to hear them.

40 Ways to Control Your Sub Partner Outside of the Bedroom

Always exercise caution and negotiate what form of control you want someone to have over you. Please do not rush into something that makes you uncomfortable.

Many of these forms of control are more extreme and appropriate only for those in trusting, long term commitments. Absent of consent these things are not appropriate and even when consensual may only appeal to a specific set of masochistic subs that crave such forms of controlling and seemingly abusive behavior.

1) Use apps to keep control of their location

2) Require them to keep a food log and report to you what they eat

3) Make them share their email, Facebook, Tumblr, or other social media account passwords with you. Set up the security questions and recovery email so that only you can reset them.

4) Keep a safe where you can lock up some of personal items as punishment

5) Plan their outfits for them. Budget what money they can spend on clothes or just do the shopping for them so they never wear clothes they pick for themselves.

6. Gain admin access to their bank account so you can track their spending.

7. Set up a protocol for their behavior in public: how they should address you, when to speak to others, what sort of eye contact they should make. Punish them in private for breaking protocol.

8. Make them wear a fitness device so you can track their activity and sleep schedule and hold them accountable to it. Set a bedtime for them.

9. Keep them locked up in a chastity device.

10. Pick out their barber or hairstylist for them. Make them groom themselves to your liking.

11. If they work outside the home, have them set up their paychecks for direct deposit into YOUR bank account. Transfer a small stipend to them to restrict their spending.

12. Keep tabs on who their friends are and what relatives they speak to on a regular basis. Intervene when there’s a relationship that isn’t to your liking.

13. Use “parental” controls whenever necessary to limit their access to pornography so they will channel their attention to You alone.

14. Set up a protocol for punishment when you’re in a public area. One code word could mean they must get to a private area like a restroom for a spanking or lecture. Another code word could mean they’ll get punished later at home.

15. Find other submissives in the BDSM community that can befriend your sub and then report back to you on their private conversations. Use them as spies to find out how your sub REALLY feels.

16. Make your sub keep a diary that you have access to so you can read their personal thoughts.

17. Order for them when you go out to eat at restaurants.

18. Say things that subtly demean then when you’re with other people, like “he can’t ever think straight” or “they’re not very good at math.” You can also tell embarrassing stories. This will make them feel flustered and keep your power dynamic balanced properly.

19. If you decide to not be monogamous, create an arrangement where only you can decide who will fuck them and when.

20. Make them wear fetish or bondage gear under their clothes when they’re in public.

21. Make them check in with you at specific times when you’re apart.

22. Control the amount of water they drink and when they get to pee. Have fun watching them squirm when you’re out in public together. If they wet themselves- laugh, pretend you don’t know them, and leave them to find a ride home on their own.

23. Make them recite mantras to themselves throughout the day such as “I am property. I will serve my owner. My body belongs to Master.”

24. Enroll them in classes such as cooking or massage therapy so that they can serve you more fully.

25. Set up a protocol for how they will refer to themselves in public and in private. They might have a different protocol for each. Make them change their name or use a nickname if you wish when in public.

26. Give them a strict daily schedule. When they wake up. When they fix you breakfast. When they exercise. When they leave for work, etc.

27. Restrict what type of access they have to transportation. For example, if they can get to work by bus, make them sell their car and not renew their driver’s license to affect their ease of getting places without your permission.

28. Find a place where you can keep them chained up, such as a basement or closet space, when they won’t be fully necessary.

29. Use punishments accordingly to control their behavior. Some subs may require physical discipline while others may just require a lecture or restriction of privileges.

30. Try hypnosis as a means of reprogramming your sub’s mind to fully surrender to you.

31. Install surveillance cameras in your home that only you have access to. Even if you don’t regularly rewatch the footage, this will be enough for fuck with your sub’s mind.

32. Keep food and other household items locked up so that the sub can only access them with your permission.

33. Try to strike feelings of jealousy in your sub when they’re slacking. Pull up Grindr and scroll through it in front of him of find another sub to fuck and tell them how AMAZING the sex was.

34. Marry them so you will be in a legally binding agreement and cement their commitment to you. Find ways to arrange the pre-nup so they’ll be at an extreme disadvantage to leave the relationship.

35. Teach them to be very complementary and respectful to you while around other people. Reward them when they sing your praises and describe what an incredible partner you’ve been to them.

36. Give them incentive and appreciation for the service they’ve done for you. This will provide extra motivation for them.

37. Tattoo or pierce them if you wish.

38. Be the head of the household who decides any major financial decisions or if you decide to move homes. Consider the sub’s input but veto it if necessary.

39. Find ways the sub can make extra money on the side for you.

40. Remind the sub that you do these things because you love him.

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