Dangerousangleofadream - Femdom

I’m glad we could do this, sweetie! I know it must be awkward for you that I’m the one your Daddy is sleeping with now, and not you, so I just wanted to get to know you a bit better! How are your chicken nuggies?

Good, I’m glad you like them! How’s your diaper, by the way? Your Daddy told me to keep tabs on them, but I’m not used to dealing with a grown woman in diapers! I can’t believe you actually wear them!

Awww, he did say you’d be shy whenever I mentioned them! It’s okay, no need to be shy! I’ll be changing your stinkies for him when he’s not around anyway! I think it’s so cute you’re not allowed and need real adults to do it!

I’m sure you could, sweetie. But your Daddy said it’s up to me to change you! So you really haven’t been with your Daddy for a year? Like you’re okay with just not getting any from him?

Really? Well, he did say you love your little diaper humpies! I can’t believe a grown woman would let herself be put in diapers, changed by the woman who’s having sex with her Daddy, and be satisfied like that!

If you say so, sweetie! Either way, I’m gonna take you to the bathroom behind me and change that diaper as soon as we’re finished! Then we’re gonna head home so I can put you down for a nap so I can have some fun with your Daddy! Seeing you all humiliated is getting me going!

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When to allow Release

The break in period                                           

Initially, you need to find a comfortable, safe, and hygienic chastity device  which your husband can wear for extended periods. Maybe your husband  has already bought a device before he approached you, maybe you still  need to buy one together. In any case, you should start slowly to let  him adjust and make sure the device is fit for long-term wear and that the size is correct.                                           

First, start a routine every day for a few hours.                                           

If and when he is comfortable in the cage, you can step it up to a full day.

Then to 48 hours. Once he is through the 48 hour period and all is well, now you can make the first big jump:                                           

3 weeks. Absolutely no less.                                          

 What is it about 3 weeks?

Well, firstly it’s long enough that any short-lived fantasties about being locked will be forgotten. Secondly, it goes one full week past the male’s typical 14 day sexual rollercoaster cycle. After sexual release, males experience dramatic drops in oxytocin and spikes in prolactin. Oxytocin is the caring, cuddling love hormone, while excess prolactin is the cause of irritability, decreased testosterone, and a substantial loss of libido. It usually takes between 5-10 days for these hormones to stabilise in the male. If we were to give him a sexual release once per week, these hormones would never stabilize. Beyond the 10 day mark, the positive effects heighten further.                                           

Pushing him to the 3 week mark means he has stabilised and then gone beyond, where we get 10-15 days of high oxytocin and low prolactin levels… which is what we want! You can read more about this in an article on the science of male chastity here.                                           

After that? Up to you!                                           

After the ‘settling’ phase, you should not think too much about lock-up  periods. He gets unlocked whenever you feel like it, although of course  being unlocked doesn’t necessarily mean you will allow him to cum. You have GOT to try the ‘touchless orgasm/release’ technique - probably the most mind blowing thing you will ever do to your man.                                           

Feel  free to go with a fixed schedule, such as one ejaculation allowed per 3 weeks, if that makes things easier for you – but don’t make it too  predictable, so also consider delaying or skipping a release date. For more experienced lovers, it is almost universally held by women who seriously practice chastity for their male that initial enforcement of chastity should be at least  three months of continuous wear without relief after you go through the  break in period of getting a device that fits. This means that for the initial three months, the chastity cage must not come off, not even if  you want to use his penis for sex.  

Find what is right for you. After the ‘right’ amount of time being locked up, your husband would be willing to do almost anything for a release so in that sense the chastity device will have done its job physically but also mentally.                

Some of the women I talked with said their males initially back down from their wanting to be put in chastity when faced with a longer lock ups If so, he is not yet willing to surrender the control to you necessary to make the relationship work through the use of chastity. Don’t push him, just gently remind him whenever he brings up the topic of chastity that you will only do it on your terms. When he agrees, he is ready. You will need to be strong and keep up your end of the bargain.                                               

So, long answer: see above.                                           

Short answer: push for 3 months.                                           

Release schedule after the initial lock-up period                                           

Once you allow him his first release it is entirely up to you how many sexual experiences you allow,  how they occur and how the ejaculate is disposed. But how often should  he be allowed to cum after the initial denial period? There are a few  different views. No matter which system you choose, it is usually best  to ask yourself if it wouldn’t be better to go longer.                                            

Remember, you have the power. He wants you to!                                               

40 Ways to Control Your Sub Partner Outside of the Bedroom

Always exercise caution and negotiate what form of control you want someone to have over you. Please do not rush into something that makes you uncomfortable.

Many of these forms of control are more extreme and appropriate only for those in trusting, long term commitments. Absent of consent these things are not appropriate and even when consensual may only appeal to a specific set of masochistic subs that crave such forms of controlling and seemingly abusive behavior.

1) Use apps to keep control of their location

2) Require them to keep a food log and report to you what they eat

3) Make them share their email, Facebook, Tumblr, or other social media account passwords with you. Set up the security questions and recovery email so that only you can reset them.

4) Keep a safe where you can lock up some of personal items as punishment

5) Plan their outfits for them. Budget what money they can spend on clothes or just do the shopping for them so they never wear clothes they pick for themselves.

6. Gain admin access to their bank account so you can track their spending.

7. Set up a protocol for their behavior in public: how they should address you, when to speak to others, what sort of eye contact they should make. Punish them in private for breaking protocol.

8. Make them wear a fitness device so you can track their activity and sleep schedule and hold them accountable to it. Set a bedtime for them.

9. Keep them locked up in a chastity device.

10. Pick out their barber or hairstylist for them. Make them groom themselves to your liking.

11. If they work outside the home, have them set up their paychecks for direct deposit into YOUR bank account. Transfer a small stipend to them to restrict their spending.

12. Keep tabs on who their friends are and what relatives they speak to on a regular basis. Intervene when there’s a relationship that isn’t to your liking.

13. Use “parental” controls whenever necessary to limit their access to pornography so they will channel their attention to You alone.

14. Set up a protocol for punishment when you’re in a public area. One code word could mean they must get to a private area like a restroom for a spanking or lecture. Another code word could mean they’ll get punished later at home.

15. Find other submissives in the BDSM community that can befriend your sub and then report back to you on their private conversations. Use them as spies to find out how your sub REALLY feels.

16. Make your sub keep a diary that you have access to so you can read their personal thoughts.

17. Order for them when you go out to eat at restaurants.

18. Say things that subtly demean then when you’re with other people, like “he can’t ever think straight” or “they’re not very good at math.” You can also tell embarrassing stories. This will make them feel flustered and keep your power dynamic balanced properly.

19. If you decide to not be monogamous, create an arrangement where only you can decide who will fuck them and when.

20. Make them wear fetish or bondage gear under their clothes when they’re in public.

21. Make them check in with you at specific times when you’re apart.

22. Control the amount of water they drink and when they get to pee. Have fun watching them squirm when you’re out in public together. If they wet themselves- laugh, pretend you don’t know them, and leave them to find a ride home on their own.

23. Make them recite mantras to themselves throughout the day such as “I am property. I will serve my owner. My body belongs to Master.”

24. Enroll them in classes such as cooking or massage therapy so that they can serve you more fully.

25. Set up a protocol for how they will refer to themselves in public and in private. They might have a different protocol for each. Make them change their name or use a nickname if you wish when in public.

26. Give them a strict daily schedule. When they wake up. When they fix you breakfast. When they exercise. When they leave for work, etc.

27. Restrict what type of access they have to transportation. For example, if they can get to work by bus, make them sell their car and not renew their driver’s license to affect their ease of getting places without your permission.

28. Find a place where you can keep them chained up, such as a basement or closet space, when they won’t be fully necessary.

29. Use punishments accordingly to control their behavior. Some subs may require physical discipline while others may just require a lecture or restriction of privileges.

30. Try hypnosis as a means of reprogramming your sub’s mind to fully surrender to you.

31. Install surveillance cameras in your home that only you have access to. Even if you don’t regularly rewatch the footage, this will be enough for fuck with your sub’s mind.

32. Keep food and other household items locked up so that the sub can only access them with your permission.

33. Try to strike feelings of jealousy in your sub when they’re slacking. Pull up Grindr and scroll through it in front of him of find another sub to fuck and tell them how AMAZING the sex was.

34. Marry them so you will be in a legally binding agreement and cement their commitment to you. Find ways to arrange the pre-nup so they’ll be at an extreme disadvantage to leave the relationship.

35. Teach them to be very complementary and respectful to you while around other people. Reward them when they sing your praises and describe what an incredible partner you’ve been to them.

36. Give them incentive and appreciation for the service they’ve done for you. This will provide extra motivation for them.

37. Tattoo or pierce them if you wish.

38. Be the head of the household who decides any major financial decisions or if you decide to move homes. Consider the sub’s input but veto it if necessary.

39. Find ways the sub can make extra money on the side for you.

40. Remind the sub that you do these things because you love him.