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I have ADHD and I currently have some yet-to-be-diagnosed probably neurological thing going on which is really slowing me down so my house work has been getting away from me and crap piles have been growing. I want to share 3 methods that have been helping me get on top of it today - I've actually almost got my kitchen clean and my floordrobe put away.
Do 10 things. This is a trick my mother would use on me when I was a kid. I don't have to clean my room, I just have to pick up/tidy/clean/put away 10 things. 10 things is nothing, 10 things is easy peasy. Every time I need to get up to go to the bathroom or get a drink or a snack I'm doing 10 things - it builds up. It also leads naturally into:
I might as well. I often end up doing more than 10 things because if I'm putting this thing away in the bathroom I might as well empty the bathroom trash can while I'm there. And if I'm emptying that trash can I might as well take the empty shampoo bottle, that's been sitting on the ledge in the shower for days since I finished it, to the recycling while I'm at it. If I get up to get a drink and do 10 things in the kitchen before I grab it, I might as well refill the Brita jug and while I'm filling stuff with water I might as well fill up my watering can too. Which leads naturally into:
I don't have to do it right now but I'll get ready for it. Just because I've filled my watering can doesn't mean I need to water my plants right now. I've done my 10 things (or more because I might as well) I need a rest. I can go and sit back down and next time I need to get up and I'm going to do 10 things then watering plants is likely to be on that list because the watering can is already full. Say as part of my 10 things I've gathered up a bunch of reusable shopping bags and a bunch of things that need to go to other places in the house - I don't need to put all that stuff away right now, I can sort it into places it needs to go, designate a bag for each place, put the bags down next to me so next time I get up and do 10 things I can easily take them with me and put them away.
If you asked me what I've been doing today I'd say I've been doing nothing on the internet and resting as my doctor told me to. But somehow my house is getting clean and tidy at the same time.
one of the biggest things I can advocate for (in academia, but also just in life) is to build credibility with yourself. It’s easy to fall into the habit of thinking of yourself as someone who does things last minute or who struggles to start tasks. people will tell you that you just need to build different habits, but I know for me at least the idea of ‘habit’ is sort of abstract and dehumanizing. Credibility is more like ‘I’ve done this before, so I know I can do it, and more importantly I trust myself to do it’. you set an assignment goal for the day and you meet it, and then you feel stronger setting one the next day. You establish a relationship with yourself that’s built on confidence and trust. That in turn starts to erode the barrier of insecurity and perfectionism and makes it easier to start and finish tasks. reframing the narrative as a process of building credibility makes it easier to celebrate each step and recognize how strong your relationship with yourself can become
my trick for getting through grad school is learning to navigate the quadrants with all their nuances
one of the biggest things I can advocate for (in academia, but also just in life) is to build credibility with yourself. It’s easy to fall into the habit of thinking of yourself as someone who does things last minute or who struggles to start tasks. people will tell you that you just need to build different habits, but I know for me at least the idea of ‘habit’ is sort of abstract and dehumanizing. Credibility is more like ‘I’ve done this before, so I know I can do it, and more importantly I trust myself to do it’. you set an assignment goal for the day and you meet it, and then you feel stronger setting one the next day. You establish a relationship with yourself that’s built on confidence and trust. That in turn starts to erode the barrier of insecurity and perfectionism and makes it easier to start and finish tasks. reframing the narrative as a process of building credibility makes it easier to celebrate each step and recognize how strong your relationship with yourself can become
Slowly I Married Her, Leonard Cohen
Nøkken by Theodor Kittelsen
in it’s true form and disguised as a white horse
haiku #19, tathev simonyan