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when people kinda disappear from tumblr that means they’re either doing really well or really bad

It makes me sad that people think radical feminists/gender abolitionists hate trans people and want them to die. In reality we just don’t think gender exists and biological sex is the only real reality. Everything else is just personality and interests.

A male can never know what it’s like to grow up socialized as a female. They will never experience going from girlhood to being sexualized by grown men in a matter of a year or so. They will never menstruate. They will never miscarry and they will never go through child birth. They will never experience sexism. They have and always will benefit from the patriarchy as long as it’s upheld.

If women aren’t a real social class then how did men know who to not allow to vote or to buy property? How do men know who to assault on the street? Women have been forced to marry men, bear their bastards, and depend on the male to make the income because we weren’t allowed to work. For Christ’s sake, western women weren’t even allowed to wear pants for decades. We were burned at the stake and called witches for simply for being female.

Women (transmen) are trying to identify out of their biological sex because they don’t like the way society views women and expects them to look or behave. You can’t identify out of oppression.

I think everybody should have the freedom to dress how they want, to wear makeup, or express themselves any ways they see fit. But liking “feminine” things does NOT make you a woman. And liking “masculine” things does NOT make you a man. Please just be human and stop complicating it. I love people and I’d never want to intentionally offend anybody but people need a wake up call.

Gender can be a touchy topic. Ever since chopping off my hair I’ve been asked multiple times “when I’m transitioning”. I’m 100% confident in my identity as a masculine female. Hell, cutting my hair short, almost makes me feel even MORE female.

A big ambition of the LGBTQ+ community is to eradicate gender roles. My confusion lies in the fact that since I cut my hair, which enhances my masculinity, the only reasonable explanation must be that I am transitioning. However, it is perfectly okay for me to be a masculine female, just as it is to be a feminine male. It is also okay that I desire to look more like a man, without wanting to identify as one. I love having female body parts - yeah, I wish I had smaller boobs and narrower hips, but for me that’s just for aesthetics.

I feel as though we as a community have lost touch with those of us who fall in between the lines, and not even to the point of identifying as non-binary. Some of us may never find a label that fits us perfectly, and that’s fine, we’re all just somewhere on a spectrum. Someone’s identity should never be assumed or questioned - and it is entirely up to them to decide who they want to be. I’ve never felt more happy with myself as I have since cutting off my hair. Hopefully some of you can relate to this message and I’m always open to discussion in the comments.

Jane Birkin in "Melancoly Baby" (dir. Clarisse Gabus - 1979).

today i saw a tiktok that said something like "you guys keep falling in love with andrew garfield. you know who else fell in love with andrew garfield? sarah lynn. and look where that got her." un-fucking-real.

one of the best things you can do for yourself as a woman is refuse to see your own suffering as virtuous. like no, the fact that you’re practically working yourself to death because your husband is useless and your basically a married single mom with an extra kid isn’t proof you’re a good mother.

no, the fact that you’re willing to let your boyfriend hit you during sex and call you names doesn’t make you a “cool girl”.

no, the fact that you pour hours of your time you’ll never get back and so much money into altering your appearance solely on an aesthetic level so you can be a “baddie” or whatever isnt a flex.

your life is yours, a solid sized chunk of us live very privileged lives as women where we’re allowed to obtain education, live independently, etc yet so many of us still actively make ourselves suffer is so infuriating, confusing, and disheartening. i want better for all of us. every single one of us.

tumblr is awesome because u get to hear all about the inner lives of random women

The way this one image and the promise of december 13th have me ready to fall back into this obsession

being on radblr is like unfollows someone, keep seeing the person on your dash via mutual in laws, decides i over reacted, refollows, no i was right, unfollows, idk, refollows, um, unfoll