i know we all know how much pat considers pran's feelings and needs with their new relationship.
but the first thing i noticed when the curtain dropped and they had to face everyone in the theatre is that once pat processed what was happening, the first thing he did was to look at pran to see how HE was processing it all.
his first thought was to know how pran was feeling, how he is reacting so that he'd be able to know how to act himself.
i love that throughout the entire episode, we saw once more how this is a give and take relationship from both sides. they're both fairly new at this yet they try to understand the other, prioritize the other, they COMMUNICATE.
pat knows how much more difficult it is for pran to process their relationship (mostly because of their families and friends) although pran wants it as much as pat does.
i just thought it was a really nice detail that just showed once more how much of a walking green flag pat is and mostly how important pran's feelings are to him.
Nanon’s acting in this scene was breathtaking.
The subtlety and nuanced approach he took to containing Pran’s sorrow and tears was incredible. He sustained Pran’s struggle to keep from crying and maintained his composure until the perfect moment.
The audience could see Pran struggling but Pat couldn’t and that was so believable. The tears are waiting to tumble from Pran’s eyes were there but were small enough for Pat to not notice, something that is amazing to see as a viewer.
There are so many layers to his performance as Pran, whether it’s his approach to the lines, the micro mannerisms and gestures he uses to show the audience how Pran is actually feeling.
This scene made the audience share in Pran’s pain, whether you wanted to or not. It wasn’t a question of feeling what Pran was feeling. Nanons performance immersed you in it and reached beyond the confines of the screen.
the domesticity ✨😭
INCORRECT MOD SUBTITLES PART 23/?
yeah Tan, better get that checked XD
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Constantly stuck between “Let these characters be friends! Platonic bonds are just as strong as romantic, and not everyone needs to be dating in order for them to have a valid, close relationship” and “eheheh gay”
me looking forward to the next episode but then realising its the final one:
Can you talk more about “I don’t want to fall for a man” because I am curious about your thoughts!
OOooh YES I CAN!
So I am an out and proud bi woman, and I grew up in a household where my parents (even my terrible one) told me it was okay to be gay.
BUT I also grew up in a conservative town full of anti-gay rhetoric and lots of conservative ideas, so no matter how much my mum told me “it’s okay if you like girls” everything outside the walls of my house told me that that wasn’t true.
I didn’t hate gay people, I wasn’t outwardly homophobic, in fact I outwardly was very supportive of the lgbt+ community, but the internal homophobia was VERY real. I convinced myself that everyone looked at girls like that, that even if you’re not gay, everyone knows that girls are just attractive, that’s just a fact. In my defence, it is, but I digress.
There’s an annoying trope that comes up in so many Thai BLs like “I’m not gay I just like [INSERT NAME HERE]” because as everybody knows, you’re 100% straight if you are in love with, live with, marry and grow old with another man. These are indisputable facts.
Almost none of them ever say they are bi or demi or pan, it’s pretty much always “not gay just you” or “oh I’m gay now, weird that” despite expressing interest in only women before that, and firstly that’s a massive amount of biphobia so jot that down. Secondly, it’s an incredibly heterosexual way to portray lgbt+ stories, and it’s honestly just boring to see at this point, like I had such high hopes for Tonhon Chonlattee and then it played itself out in the straightest way possible and I was just sort of baffled? by the time it finished.
But Zhou Shu Yi doesn’t say “I’m not gay” he says “I don’t want to fall for a man”. When he tells Gao Shi De he has feelings for him, he doesn’t say “I’m not gay I just like you” he says “Because it’s you. I have no choice.” and those are VERY VERY different things.
“I don’t want to fall for a man” is the kind of phrase that I think almost everyone in the lgbt+ community has thought some variation of. It’s something I thought a lot growing up - “I don’t want to like girls” “I don’t want to be a lesbian” “I don’t want to have a crush on [insert name here]”. I imagine - although I can’t confirm this - that it is NOT a phrase that straight people would be so intimately familiar with. For straight people who never question their sexuality, the statement would be “I’m not gay” not “I don’t want to be gay”.
Why would you worry about wanting something if you know you don’t?
It’s a fear response to knowing you have those feelings but not wanting to address it: “I don’t want to feel that way because if I admit that I do, then it’s admitting that I’m different and that my life is going to change.”
And when Gao Shi De says “I thought you didn’t like boys” Shu Yi doesn’t say “I don’t, I just like you” he says “Because it’s you.” It’s not a dismissal of queer feelings or people, it’s an admittance that Gao Shi De is the thing that makes him stop wanting to suppress the thought of falling for a man, that he’s already fallen so there’s no point trying to run away from it anymore.
Honestly it’s some of the best bisexual/demisexual representation I’ve ever seen? On this tiny Taiwanese BL with nowhere a big enough fanbase that deserves WAY more? and I just… It made me feel SO seen, it acknowledged a part of queer culture that I don’t often see on TV, even in BLs and I think that’s beautiful.
Are you guys friends? BAD BUDDY (2021), dir. Backaof Noppharnach
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