“Perhaps That's What All Human Relationships Boil Down To: Would You Save My Life? Or Would You Take

“It is an art of the most exquisite kind to touch someone’s soul before touching their skin.”

— a.y.

It’s time to give up

“Art is how we decorate space. Music is how we decorate time.”

“If you expect nothing from anybody, you’re never disappointed.”

— Sylvia Plath, The Bell Jar

Good or not, grief is definitely another country. It makes no sense at all. You can smile through the funeral, crack a joke as you bury your loved one, and then, weeks later, catch sight of an Oreo cookie and start howling in public because you’ll never eat an Oreo with your father again. The Oreo cookie is more painful than the dead body. Marilyn French writes about this disconnect in The Women’s Room: “Rituals mark feelings, but feelings and events do not coincide. Feelings are large and spread over a lifetime.”

In Defense of Good Grief, Livemint  (via lastminutegenius)