Words To Live By

Words to live by

Chastity - The Red Pill Version

I didn’t write this, I found this on FetLife and it perfectly encapsulates what Chastity is about for me and in the context of my Master/slave relationship. This is the reality of it for those of us who live it 24/7/365.

OK, so this is not really intended as a rant, but it may come across that way and if so I appologize. For you Matrix fans, if you read this your going to get the red pill version of what male chastity is about. Male submissives (and oddly enough, maybe even a few Dom’s) have fantasies and a fascination with chastity. I see it in my feed all the time. These posters seem to consist mostly of two groups. Those who have it, and those who want it. Those who have it, do it mostly alone. Looking forlornly for that special key holder who will keep them locked up and add that mystique of power and control to their self serving fetish of orgasm denial. Those who want it, daydream about what it must be like, how cool it would be, and are fascinated with the devices that inflict it. There is a 3rd group, those who live it. You don’t see them in the feed, because we don’t talk about it much. The fantasy is long past, and reality is where we hang out (or not so much as the case may be! LOL).

I’ve been locked up for a decade. That is to say, I live in chastity 24 X 7 X 360 give or take a week. I do everything in it, and so does my not so pretty alter self, who toils mercilessly to earn money so that I can spend it! :) I can speak with authority on the subject as well as anyone, and feel that since there is such a lack of real information on the subject out there, I’d post this for posterity.

So this message is for those of you in groups 1 and 2. Here is the reality of where you are going if you should get there.

Truth #1 There is no such thing as a truely secure device. Face it. Your male. You have a God given talent to know how to use a screw driver, a saw, a blow torch… whatever. No matter how you try to lock yourself up, there are only various levels of difficulty to obtaining an orgasm. I read constantly “what is the best device” or “gee, I better try something else, I keep getting out”. Well no shit dingledick! You keep trying! There is only ONE truely secure chastity device, and it is your MIND. More specifically, that special relationship you have with a Dominant partner. You wear that thing because of truth #2, and you don’t TRY to get out.

Truth #2 When your Dom(me) locks you up, you damned well had better stay that way! And no cheating either. No trying to cum with a Q-tip, or whatever ingenious bullshit idea you’ve come up with to sneak an orgasm. Chastity is not a game. It is a COMMITMENT! Those of you who lock yourselves up, are just playing a game. That’s fine. Have at it. But don’t keep complaining that you can cum in it, or that you keep pulling out. Get yourself a real chastity device, and go to a munch, or a play party, or OK Cupid, or whatever you can use to get a PARTNER. Because there is no greater chastity device than #3.

Truth #3. It’s not yours anymore. Huh? What did I just say? Yes. That’s right. It’s not your cock anymore. You sold it. Contracted it out. Lost it. Gave it away. Whatever. Once you have a partner who IS your keyholder, well then guess what. It’s over. All those fantasies you had about being locked up….. About being unable to cum… The game is over, and now your working for a living. Your hauling that thing around between your legs, and the only thing you get to do with it is pee. And you had best be a good gurl and sit down. Yeah, you’ll get used to peeing on your balls when they have swollen after weeks of teasing and play parties, hot pics on Fet, or whatever else makes you loose sleep at night. Oh, and would you like to know what happens when you DO get out, cheat, cum or disobey your Dom(me)? Anger! Tears! ITS NOT PRETTY PEOPLE! Did somebody take your car without your permission? Have a party in your house without you being there or knowing about it? Oh yeah… it’s the same thing! There will be hell to pay! This goes back to what I told you earlier. Use the force Luke! Your mind is what’s going to keep you from being naughty. Because once you’ve experienced dishing out betrayal to the one you love, your never going to do it again! I guarantee you. Now you are fucked. Locked up tight for real, and there is no going back.

Truth #4. Do eveyrthing. Get yourself a device that is comfortable, because guess what? Your going to be living in it. Do you want to walk 10 miles in uncomfortable shoes? Those points of intrigue are going to do you no favor when your laying under a bulldozer taking a transmission out, or just stooping down to get off a ladder into a crawl space. Even the most friendly device is going to pinch and irritate the hell out of you from time to time. But you don’t care because of #5.

Truth #5. You don’t know it’s there. That’s right. Does your wedding ring bother you? Do you see it on your hand and consciously think about it? That’s what real chastity is like. You live with it so long, you feel naked without it. You don’t WANT to take it off. You don’t want to be without it. You miss it when it’s not on. And yes, you will still sit and pee when its not on. That’s how much she or he has manipulated you with it. Trained you. Changed you.

Truth #6. It’s HOT. SEXY as hell. Yeah. This is the one you were waiting for. The one you fantasized about before I bursted your bubble. When the time comes for sex, your going to turn into that wanton whore that will have you going after anything and everything. Am I a slut? Absolutely! Why? Because I’m despirate! I don’t have a cock anymore. I have a mouth, and an ass, and I want fucked in both holes. Oh, but I can’t cum. I want to. I’m obsessed with it. Somehow riding a cock just feels so good, and I can ALMOST get there, but it’s just not happening. Precum is oozing out of me, and I’m dribbling, making a mess and I am swollen and just absolutely miserable! My legs will give out before my lust for it does. And when it’s over, and you feel like jelly, you’ll thank your partner. And be just as randy and ready for him/her or the next person. This is what your owner has done to you. The monster he or she has created. The great white shark of sex. You are an insatiable fucking and sucking machine. It’s nature’s way of trying to make you asexual. Yeah. Think about it hard enough and you will cum and make yourself pregnant. LOL

Truth #7. You’ll adapt. All that stuff that you complain about will go away. The sleepless nights. The undesired erections. The chaffing, the rubbing, it all will receed into the back of your mind. That little adjustment you make with your hand at night will just be like scratching your head. The way you roll over so as not to break it or your cock when you are swollen from a dream, or the need to pee. And your mind will change too. You’ll stop thinking about things that make you uncomfortable. You’ll stop getting hard everytime you look at something that turns you on.

Truth #8. Your helpless. Your Dom(me) will still know how to push your buttons. And if they want to see their cock get hot and bothered, you won’t be able to stop them. That’s why they hold the key. The power. The control. They adapt too. They will figure out ways to make you regret that you gave them that key. See, to them it is a game. That game you used to play by yourself, well… they play it for you now. They make you hard, and all you want is out. To be stroked. To feel that pleasue that he or she might make you give others. To take a cock in your mouth or ass, knowing what that feels like on the giving end. You know just how to work it. Gurls make the best cock suckers. I can’t help but get hard while giving a blow job. Knowing how absolutely fantastic that would feel. A feeling I know I’ll never have again. Oh, maybe once in a blue moon, she will allow me to feel it. But it’s only to keep the memory fresh in my mind. In fact, ANY pleasure my cock receives is just to torment me for the next time I don’t get any.

Truth #9. You may learn to hate orgasms. You get so used to NOT cumming, that your muscles that do it atrophy. Orgasms can become quite painfull. They can also be mentally dabilitating. Especially when your cum is ruined. I’d rather not cum at all, then have one ruined. It’s crushing. It makes you cry. It may make you angry. Or you may actually laugh. If you do get to have a real, exciting, powerful, unruined orgasm, be prepared to clean it up. There will be a hell of a lot of it, and depending on your partner, they may feel a need for that to be recycled. Only problem now is, that great white has turned into a sea snail. Ick!

So there you have it. Welcome to the gurl factory. Once you sell your soul, other body parts are interchangable. :)

Let me cum maybe?

Hey guys! So my lock up ends tomorrow (5-7-14) at 11:30pm and my next lock up will begin Friday (5-9-14). Do you guys think I should be allowed to cum between then? If you want me to cum like this and if you don’t reblog and whichever gets more by tomorrow at 11:30 decides my fate. Also if you send me an message telling me which you want I’ll add 5 to your side

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explorethekink

8 years ago

The Difference Between A Submissive and a Needy Bottom

It’s time for a little conversation.

I’ve been getting a lot of messages. And I think it’s important that we define some structure. There needs to be a better understanding of submission. In fact, if you ask me why I do not have a boy right now, the most common answer is geography and because the boys in my area frustrate the hell out of me.

Why do they frustrate me you might ask? Because for many of them their concept of submission is a rough fuck. Sex and dominance are mutually exclusive. There are deeply sexual elements. Our hormones are at a very high level. We have primal need that engage in in these moments. But we do not need to engage in intercourse to express our dominant and submissive attributes.

So when you message me, and your first comment to me is that you me to fuck you, my immediate thought is that you are just a hungry bottom and not a submissive. You are more concerned with your needs and desires than understanding what I means to be submissive. You just want to get something you want.

I am not saying that when you have a positive interaction with a dominant you cannot beg him to fuck you. Most boys do. However, they do so because they have earned that right to appeal to the Man.

Remember a submissive means bring joy to a Dominant. It means being their for him. It means making him feel good because doing something for another makes you feel good. You feel balanced. You feel connected.

If you want to express yourself as a submissive. Your first thought (or message) should be, what can I do to make him happy?

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explorethekink

9 years ago

Sounds like you have an amazingly supportive keyholder. Should be an interesting could of years.

One day down. 800 to go

About 150 years ago, when they started building the transcontinental railroad, they said it could be done. They said it would take too long. They said it would cost too much. They said…. They said….

The transcontinental railroad was built and most of it is still in use as a Union Pacific RR line that runs about a mile from where this boy currently sits.

When this boy posted the original Chaste New Year post, the boy thought, There’s no way this will make it to June.

When the boy removed the one year limitation, the boy thought, this might make it to December 2016.

The boys keyholder @roddymcc thought “this is a great time to really keep the boy locked” and put the boys chastity in sale. The boy thought, that the boy might be locked through spring 2017.

The gentle Men and boys of tumblr thought otherwise. And now the boy is starting on a very long journey. A journey of almost twenty eight months. A journey that will see the boy locked for two full calendar years. And then some.

They boy said, “it can’t be done.” You said, “yes it can. And you’re going to do it.”

All aboard for an interesting and chaste two plus years.

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explorethekink

9 years ago

Creative Chastity

I have had some mixed results with locking up a boy’s cock in a cage. For some, their cocks had been too large to comfortably fit into the cage. Some boys tried it and found metal and plastic cages just too uncomfortable. For one boy, he figured out that he could actually slip out of it at any time.

Having a lot of those troublesome experiences has lead me to the conclusion that there are people who just find the idea hot but it loses its luster in the execution. Conversely, the chastity players who have really found meaning in it, for whom it’s become a daily part of their life whether or not a Sir is their keyholder, find ways to make it work. And that is the key. Find how to make chastity work for you and understand and accept that your chastity play may not look exactly like what’s on tumblr, but is valid nonetheless if it gives you what you want to get out of the experience.

I write this article for readers who are interested in chastity but are having some difficulty with the standard lock and key. When the standard approach gets difficult, it’s time to get creative to find a way to make chastity play work for you!

- Shorter goals: The first adaptation to chastity play to make your goals more doable is simply to make the locked periods shorter. The denial makes the eventual orgasm sweeter anyways. You will see many players online bragging about the length of time they can stay locked. If that’s what gets them off more power to them, but if you just want to experience some denial for awhile and enjoy having sexual feelings enhanced due to the horny build up of not orgasming… then does it really matter if you’re locked till the weekend or till 2050? Hell, you may even eventually find a sweet spot where you stay locked up (for example) for 3 months at a time and that’s what works best for you. Your dominant might tease “Oh man, 2 more weeks till you’re out boy. It’s been a long 2.5 months so far. Remember when we watched porn each night for a week before bed? Good times.” If shorter goals are enjoyable and you get the experience out of it you want, DO WHAT WORKS.

- Key willpower: When the length of the goal isn’t an issue, often willpower is the big obstacle. Being so horny makes it hard to make the decision to stay locked. Where willpower is an issue dominants are often not involved in a chastity player’s life. The purpose of sealing away the key is to provide an obstacle which while not insurmountable gives you sufficient pause to reassert your willpower. There are two pretty reliable options:

Envelope: Put the key in an envelope, seal it, give it to a friend, and tell them to give it back to you in a week. If they ask about it you can make something up if you like. One of the favorite stories a submissive told his buddy was that he’d put a credit card in there he wanted to not be tempted to use until date X. His friend was more than happy to hold onto the key to the box with his credit card in it without ever realizing what the key actually unlocked.

Timed safe: This sounds like a much more expensive option than it is. One of the safes that have been making the rounds lately is a safe for kitchen use to help control temptations. I’ll include a link at the end of this section. You can just toss the key inside and set a time limit. The safes are about $55 so they’re not impossible to save for, but they’re also expensive enough for you to probably think twice before shattering it to get the key.

http://www.amazon.com/Kitchen-Safe-Locking-Container-Height/dp/B00E92JXHG

- Comfort: The holy trainer (link at the end) and metal cages are the two most comfortable cage types. If you are interested in a holy trainer, please consider that first off there will be some international shipping involved which is unsurprisingly expensive. Additionally, I the official website DOES NOT accept opened products for return. Be certain you get the right size before you order it. In light of that, I strongly suggest you take a trip to a sex store in your city or a local kinkster event and get fitted for a cage the first time you get one. You may have more options there in terms of what you can buy a sales person who can give advice, and the opportunity to talk about how active you’ll be in it, or some of the issues with comfort you’ve had. Lastly, if you aren’t already aware, chastity cages are generally most comfortable when you have little to no hair while wearing them as it reduces the likelihood of getting pinched or having hair pulled.

http://www.holytrainer.com/en/male-chastity-device.asp

- Sir’s orders: When Sirs are involved with chastity play, you can have a Sir leave you unlocked but absolutely forbid access to your own genitals without his supervision. I have been surprised how well this works for some people. They simply needed to be told no and that was all it took.

- My grip: When a dominant is in charge of orgasms, you may also find that Sir will do the masturbation for you. When I’ve offered this choice, I restrain the submissive’s hands (and in some cases legs) add a little baby oil, and stroke until they cum and then just keep going. They can orgasm in exchange for continuing to be stroked after orgasm. If I’m feeling generous, I’ll offer them mercy in exchange for something later on of my choosing. It should be of no surprise to anyone that mercy is almost never worth it later on but it still gets chosen fairly often.

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explorethekink

10 years ago

I came to Tumblr to have a nice orgasm before bed, but instead I saw that my previous picture (http://mathmanchastity.tumblr.com/post/115142573494) had a note. :(

I guess I will go to bed locked in steel tonight and hope that I only end up with one day locked up.

Feel free to reblog this picture as well. Each note on it will be another day locked in chastity.

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explorethekink

11 years ago

Day 2

Just finished my second day in my cage. I'm shooting for 58 more. Already I'm incredibly horny. If I hadn't left the key at work, I'd probably be far too tempted to unlock now. I told my straight roommate about being locked up tonight. He thinks I'm a bit crazy, but I think I may have perked his interest a little too. I also just joined a gym, so now I'll have something to do with all this pent up energy. My goal is to have a good start at getting back into shape before I get unlocked again. Now I just need to figure out something to do with my key before I surpass my self control. Perhaps I need to find a key holder to help me out.

Reblog If Willing

If you would be willing to fall asleep and wake up to a hypnotic suggestion or effect that you can’t seem to shake on your own, reblog this so I know how to design a Choose-Your-Own-Adventure to putting you mind back together and removing the suggestion.

What effect did you have in mind?

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explorethekink

8 years ago

Missed key day last week, so we did two sets of keys for both weeks today. I’m still locked up (going on two months now), and starting to go really crazy. And after four more keys destroyed, there aren’t very many keys left.

I’m wondering now if all the keys that unlock me are already gone. Perhaps my fate is already sealed and I just don’t know it yet… The suspense is almost driving me as crazy as the horniness. It’s starting to sink in that I might be locked up for a really long time. Here’s hoping I have better luck next week.