I’ve Been Reading Tarot For Twenty-one Years. I Would Love To Read For You!

Old books in Michael Moon’s Bookshop, Whitehaven

https://mamot.fr/@setthemfree/106014810050613790

https://www.eff.org/deeplinks/2021/03/google-testing-its-controversial-new-ad-targeting-tech-millions-browsers-heres

I follow a lot of BBC Sherlock blogs, and I'm seeing so many fancy manips and gifsets from Hannibal that I'm curious...

…how many Sherlock fans are (or have been) fans of NBC’s Hannibal or the Harris novels it’s based on? REBLOG FOR SCIENCE.

Shout out to all the people who've existed in bi and aspec identities.

All the aspecs who thought they were bi because they experienced the same level of attraction to all genders. They just figured out that level was little to nothing.

All the bi folks who thought they were aspec but later found out what they were experiencing was attraction.

To all the bi aces who figured out how to understand the attraction they feel and that sexual attraction isn't needed for romance

To all the bi aros who came to understand that being sexually attracted to multiple genders doesn't mean they also have to be romantically attracted. And that that's ok.

To all the bi aroaces that experience attraction other than sexual and romantic and find it important enough to label.

I love all of you and I feel honoured to know your all a part of this world.

YOU! ONCE YOU GET THIS, YOU HAVE TO SAY FIVE NICE THINGS ABOUT YOURSELF AND SEND IT TO TEN OF YOUR FAVOURITE FOLLOWERS

So, needlesslycryptic and sunderlorn both dropped this one in my inbox—I’m in the polarizing position of being both unspeakably (DOES THIS MEAN THAT I’M A *FAVORITE*?!) flattered and put out that now I’ve got to run my truant self-regard to ground and put it to work. Thank you both. <3

1. At any paid job, I’m uncommonly diligent. I arrive at the timeclock every day just in time to absently stare through it for two minutes, swipe my card with more force than is strictly necessary, and then I’m in. I work singlemindedly every second of my shift, with efficiency, speed, and focus as my watchwords. When I walk I keep my eyes forward, hands clasped behind my back, and never stop to socialize or chatter. When customers or coworkers come to confer with me or ask a question, I don’t stop working to answer. I do both at once. So, um… I’m not well-liked, but my results are. Hooray?

2. I never gossip, spill secrets, or kiss and tell.

3. If you and I ever eat together, I’ll always eat more—so, your powers of restraint will look greater by comparison.

4. The way I ramble in writing you’d probably never guess this, but I have a talent for silence. Like, I can honestly go weeks without saying a word. Comfortably.

5. I’m… not too shabby a gifter, if I do say so myself. In all seriousness, I tend to devote weeks or months before a holiday to obsessively trawling through my memories for every tiny instance in which my prospective giftee has expressed even the most offhand desire, going years back if necessary, until I light on the thing. And I live my life listening for those moments, mentally tucking them away to be brought out again as needed. It’s worth it to me, too—every time my mother, for example, finally breaks through my very deliberately selected giftwrap and tears up when she sees what’s inside, my skull just echoes with vindicated maniacal mental laughter.

i told my boyfriend i was demisexual so i had to expalin to him that demisexual is the kind of people who feel sexual attraction to someone with an emotional bond, and he said "yeah just like everyone else"... how i am supposed to react to that? i told him that no, because lot of people is alright with one night stands, but he was insisting everyone was like this..

This is a hard one that I’ve struggled with too, because as demisexuals we know that our experience is fundamentally different, but often times harder to pin down than saying we’re strictly asexual. Here’s how I explained it to my mom. I’m not sure how useful this is, especially since it’s about how *I* experience demisexuality, which might be different than how you or others do, but maybe it’ll help.So imagine that sex is coffee right? People love coffee. Coffee is everywhere. There’s a Starbucks on every corner, coffee drinkers in every TV show and movie, and billboards and ad spots about coffee all the time. People who like coffee might be peculiar about how they want their coffee— maybe they like it with sugar or soy milk, or only in the mornings before 10, or only when they’re studying, only from Starbucks or only from their local coffee house, etc. Or they might not care— they might like coffee no matter when or how it’s made. They’ll buy it from anyone and take it in whatever form because they really like coffee. But they all agree that in general they like coffee.

And then there are people who don’t like coffee at all. They can’t stand it. They don’t want coffee at any point of the day, no matter how it’s made or who makes it. Nothing you can do makes coffee in any way appealing to them. Coffee lovers are generally baffled by this, and some might insist that people who don’t like coffee just haven’t had the right cup, but the fact is that people who don’t like coffee simply just don’t like coffee.

And then there are people like us: we don’t generally like coffee, and we wouldn’t choose to have coffee on our own. Like the people who don’t like coffee, we can go years without a cup of coffee and it doesn’t bother us at all.

But we have a friend who loves coffee, and we love that friend. And the longer we’re friends, the more we want to have coffee with them. Not because coffee has suddenly become our favorite drink, but because we love our coffee-drinking friend and THEY make us want coffee. So we go out for coffee with them, and we enjoy having coffee because we’re having coffee with them. If we weren’t with them, we wouldn’t want coffee.

"But everybody feels that way" isn’t true. Coffee lovers still want coffee even when their conditions for having coffee aren’t met. Just because they’re not drinking coffee right now, or because they might have preferences for when & how they drink coffee, doesn’t mean they stop liking coffee. But for people like us, if we’re not having coffee with that specific person, then we don’t care about coffee. It holds absolutely no appeal or value. We have to have that connection before we ever want coffee. Coffee lovers might want that connection when they have coffee too, but they also generally want coffee as a thing in itself.

That’s the difference between being demisexual and being an allosexual who likes to have emotional connections with their partners. An allosexual person still likes and wants sex as a thing itself, even if the conditions for having sex aren’t being met. They think about and desire sex outside of the conditions they set for engaging in the actual act. A demisexual person doesn’t care about sex as a thing in itself, because sex is inherently tied to emotional bonding for them. We don’t think about sex as an act involving us unless it’s under those conditions.

That may or may not be the worst analogy ever, I honestly don’t know, sorry. It seemed to work for my mom, but that might be because she really likes coffee *shrugs*

If anyone following this blog has any resources on how to respond to that type of response they’d like to direct the anon to, please let me know so I can post them!

Hope that helps!

9 Questions Meme

I was tagged by wentworthsbitch.

1.What’s your name?

Jack!

2. What’s your URL?

carletoncolton

3. What’s your blog’s name?

I Know

4. Have a crush?

Uhm, in a way - on my BFF. Although, since my feelings in that direction are wholly platonic, it's probably more like a squish. ( ˘ ³˘) ♡ Casandra ❤

5. What’s your favorite color?

I can't choose, really. But black, red, and gold are always at the top of my list.

6. WRITE SOMETHING IN ALL CAPS:

PLEASE HIRE ME. ANYONE. PLEASE. *hurls an armful of cover letters and résumés into the wind*

7. Got a favorite band/singer?

Mm-hm, and it's Damon Albarn. I don't have to look for something to love in anything he does; it just presents itself all matter-of-factly. Blur, Gorillaz, his solo work, his operas, his film soundtracks... Hell, I even like the murmuring, circuitous way he talks.

8. Favorite number?

17, 27, 9... one of those.

9. Favorite drink?

I've been irrevocably seduced by coffee, I think, over the last few months. *gazes moodily into Star Trek mug*

Tag 10 other people:

Nine times out of ten I'd make my excuses when it comes to tagging, but ... this once, I figure I'll take my chances. So. Ten random followers I've never talked to, and wouldn't mind hearing a little bit about:

betteralwaysearly

ipackmycase

wristnipples

assassinofromeaor

endeavourmorsecod3

double-zero-agent-alison

hippiefreak23

lisaraiqiu

gnarlystarships

wanderingmind13

Spitfire by @mayakern

What do you do when you're a dragon and the prince you're in love with is getting married? Fuck his wife.

titles/chapter headings: Cinzel Decorative headers/page numbers: Organik body text: Cardo

What can I say about Spitfire? It’s truly an amazing piece of work that is a brilliant high fantasy, queer af and completely engrossing. It gave me everything I ever wanted out of a novel; plot, genderfluid characters, PINING like you wouldn’t believe, great sex scenes, DRAGONS, and just. Women. What more do you need out of a fantasy book?

The design on the covers and the spines are heat transfer foil, the bookcloth is duo, there is variegated thread that I used to sew the signatures together, 3 colour endbands and handmade marbled papers. Spitfire deserves nothing less.

If you’d like to read it, the first 30% is available on AO3, and you can purchase it on Amazon. Go get it!!

I can’t wait to see what happens in Firebrand ✨

Want a quality Starfleet uniform without the $200 price tag? Here’s your chance to get a great uniform for only $5!

Hey folks! I’ve decided that if I want to improve the quality of my uniforms, I need to get my hands on a serger. A serger is designed to finish the edges of cut fabric and prevent fraying, even through repeated wear and machine washing, which is something any good cosplay should be able to do! Unfortunately I’m already breaking bank (on Trek cons and fanseries, haha), so to help cover the cost, I’m raffling off a custom Starfleet uniform!

The Rules:

I’ll ship anywhere within or beyond the United States

You must be 18+ or live with someone 18+ who doesn’t mind you sharing your address (this is just a legality thing)

You do not have to be following either of my blogs, but if you like Star Trek and cats, you should check out my main @slightly-oblivvyous​

The raffle ends on July 2nd when I return from New York and the winner will be chosen by Random Number Generator

How to Enter:

To enter, donate at least $5 USD (currency converter) to my PayPal here (use this link if you don’t have PayPal). Put your tumblr url and preferred email address in the “Write a Note” field so I can contact you. (This is important!) Multiples of $5 count as multiple entries, so $9 only counts as one entry, but $10 counts as two. Reblogs don’t count as entries but are greatly appreciated.

Prize Tiers: The prize for the raffle depends on how many people participate. I must get at least 30 donations (or $150 total) for the raffle to go forward.

At 30+ entries, one winner will get a FREE* TOS uniform or TNG crop top

At 50+ entries, full jumpsuit-style uniforms (DS9/VOY, TNG) become available along with jacket-style tops

At 75+ entries, there will be two winners; the Grand Prize winner gets a uniform of their choice and the second place winner gets a TOS uniform 

If there are 100+ entries, I’ll offer two Grand Prizes and cry

The winner(s) will be chosen on July 2nd and will receive an email with a link to my commission form to pick out their uniform(s)!

*NOTE: If you want a rank above Ensign, you’ll have to pay for rank braid – I have to order it online and the higher ranks ain’t cheap. Sorry! (Still, even if you went for Captain, you’d be getting a hella rad uniform for $30. That’s not bad.) And if you’re outside the US, you’ll have to cover part of the shipping cost.

Even if you can’t afford to enter or aren’t in the market for a uniform, please help a fellow Trekkie out and signal boost! LLAP!

Asexual Awareness Week: Day 2

[IMAGE: A 9x9 aesthetic layout; the images are as follows, top to bottom, left to right: A person launching a Chinese lantern, A crumpled up piece of paper with “Don’t Forget Me” written on it, a bed of flowers of varying shades of purple, “You are good enough” written on a purple note, A white neon light in the shape of a realistic heart, A hand covered in purple, blue and white paint, A hand rising out of purple and blue smoke, A notebook and palette of purple paints, A newspaper with “You are born and then you die, but in between you can do anything you want. It’s society that creates rules for us, but you can break out of that” in enlarged text.]