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that's what a lot of trans man exclusion boils down to - punishment for not being sexually attractive to people who are attracted to primarily women, punishment for passing or not passing, people getting angry and disgusted at you for being on T or getting gender affirming surgeries because they think they are sexually entitled to a body that makes you dysphoric and think you're stealing something from them/society by transitioning...

so you're treated like you owe everyone forever to make up for daring to be yourself and 'taking a woman away from people who wanted one' by not being one , punishment for being trans and not being a cis woman while people try to gaslight you and say it isn't happening & that your life is easier for being a trans man and that you need to shut up and be stoic and never talk about your feelings or you aren't a real man....

But at the same time you apparently have to be a good example of non toxic masculinity for cis men because you aren't allowed to exist in your own right you only exist as an object for others you're a sex toy or a human shield or a lesson they can learn about themselves while they disregard the things they could also learn about you

returning to flight rising tumblr <3

The guardian is named Valkyrie, he is a chronical asshole who values nothing but your number of kills. The imperial is Xisuma, ye olde librarian of Lucia. He’s endlessly patient, which is worrying considering how many times he’s had to rearrange it entirely after magical accidents. The aberration is Kibble, with heads named Kindle and Giblet. They are disasters and super in love with the aberration that is one part their partner and one part their boss. They are an assistant to that aberration and overall just a great dragon. 

transmascs have historically been erased by claims of them simply being women trying to escape oppression, and what is the discourse going on right now? oh that transmascs are actually just cis women trying to escape oppression, and being transmasc is somehow a more privileged position? thats interesting isnt it

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i don’t know who this guy is. but i do kinda dress like that

everyone take my 114 result ‘which character are you’ uquiz

petition for people who find the g-spot being called “g-spotters” the same way a person who shot a snipe is/was a sniper

Suddenly being hit with a massive wave of hate against trans men for some reason. I'm MtF, but if you hate trans men or have some bad take about them then just block me right now. idc how many followers i lose over this, it's awful as fuck. i'm literally dating one and he's nothing like anything u ppl are saying

GO LOOK AT MY HUSBAND HES SO TALENTED PLS GO GO GO GO

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i clicked on the original tweet just to see if anyone else felt as weird about it as i did because at this point i’m just tired of seeing people going on and on about trans men dating cishet men who try to convince them not to transition as if it’s a funny joke about a trans man doing something silly and not a manipulative and generally very unhealthy relationship dynamic that can hurt the trans man involved really deeply (as forcing someone back into the closet tends to do.)

did i find anyone else feeling that way? no. there were a few people pointing out that it was weird in general, and plenty saying it’s a weird thing to say about a cis woman, but nothing expressing any sort of concern about the tired stereotype it’s perpetuating.

but you know what i did find? replies like the one in the second screenshot, using the tweet as their chance to tell the world how much they hate trans men and how repulsive they find the idea of ever being compared to us. and replies like the third one, shaming trans men in relationships like that as if the fact that they’ve found themselves in an unhealthy relationship makes them deserving of public shaming, as if their relationship is hurting anyone other than them.

stereotypes like this just feel like yet another way of indirectly calling us stupid little girls who don’t know what’s good for us, and the fact that a picture of a woman is being used (even jokingly!) as an example of what trans men “like that” look like should make the implications of rhetoric like this all the more obvious.

it’s relationships like these that keep us miserable in the closet for so long and drive up our sexual assault rates even more. they’re not funny and if anyone is going to be making jokes about them, it certainly shouldn’t be people who have never been in that situation. if you actually cared about us you’d be looking for ways to support the trans men you know who are in relationships like that instead of hopping on twitter to joke about how stupid they must be.

i don’t care if it’s a joke. if it victim blames trans men for the transphobia we face in our personal relationships, adds to the common idea that we can’t be trusted to make decisions about our own lives, and invites even more blatant transphobia against us by people who unabashedly admit they see all trans men as “disgusting and phony”, it’s not fucking funny.

(i also want to note that the people making these jokes never like to mention that this also happens to trans men in relationships with queer women. they also hate those trans men, of course, and are happy to express that when they get into fights about trans men who date lesbians, but they’ll never talk about it in the context of this particular stereotype. it’s always a man being manipulative in a relationship and pressuring trans men to not transition, as if a woman would never be capable of such a thing.

they also like to conveniently ignore the existence of older trans men who transitioned after already being in a committed relationship with a cishet man and were able to make that relationship work despite their transition, because acknowledging that would require recognizing that trans men can be in seemingly contradictory relationships and genuinely be happy with their partner. who needs nuance when you can simply choose to judge all trans men for our relationships regardless of what they’re actually like?)

do you think they also would call me “a trans man being purposefully misgendered” with this kind of vitriol because i’m still living with parents who don’t recognize my gender instead of moving out before i’m ready to be financially independent? at this point, i’m starting to feel like they might, with the way every decision a trans man ever makes is the subject of a public debate and people have decided that trans men are secretly using being misgendered as a weapon to somehow hurt other trans people.

as a general rule, i’d say the only people who should be making “X looks like a trans man” jokes about literally anyone/anything are trans men, and posts like this show exactly why those jokes being made by anyone else (even by other trans people) just isn’t a good idea.