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Ground Rules

Another day of Hotwifing advice and of course..your questions and stories is upon us. Today I am going to address the topic of Ground Rules.

I have heard some major horror stories in the lifestyle from couples who swing and from couples who Hotwife and all due to this one most important topic. Due to the fact that there are 2 people involved in both lifestyles, you have to remember that feelings and emotions matter not just with you, but also with your partner. Without solid ground rules that address the feelings of both partners, this lifestyle can and does destroy marriages and relationships.

As a Hotwife myself, my goal in the lifestyle is not just to fuck other men, but to enhance my marriage with my husband. In fact, the latter is priority number one! And if you don’t do the same, then you are not Hotwifing….you are just dating and playing the field.

To avoid the tragedy, ..set ground rules….both of you! My Stag and I do not have many ground rules now but we started off with a ton of them. And if you are just starting off in this lifestyle, I can recommend a few to use on your own. Experiment with them. Use them if you like. Add to them if you like. Delete a couple if you like. It really is all about what works best for you both as a couple.

A good one to start with is to set the ground rule of ..You do not message or contact men without your Stags approval. And you do not agree to meet anyone without his approval. This will eliminate the possibility of jealousy.

Another good one is that you will not have a playdate without your Stag being present. The truth of this one is that your Stag most likely really will demand this anyway for safety sake.

Another is that there is no kissing (I can’t do this one at all and my Stag has never laid down this rule but there are those who are serious about this one)

Couples who are ok with the wife playing alone, some set a rule for the Hotwife to take pics and video each and every time they have a playdate. (This is one of my Stags rules).

Another good one for beginners is to always include the Stag, whether that be by the sex itself or the constant eye contact or touching. This is used to assure the partner that you are his always and it also helps show affection in a very intimate setting.

Some Stags require their Hotwife to dress super sexy. But I think this is a given anyway!

Another very good one for beginners is to set the rule that anytime one of you is feeling uncomfortable with anything, that you immediately stop and talk about it until you come to an agreement and set the boundary or draw a line in the sand.

Remember you can set whatever ground rules that you like. And also remember that this isnt just about you. Do not get into this lifestyle thinking that your needs are to be met only. That doesnt work. This lifestyle is for you both. Keep each other in mind at all times and you will have a great time!

This will be a weekly posting just for Hotwives, Stags, Bulls, and Swingers. Every Tuesday I will focus on your questions, comments, and stories of the Hotwife lifestyle. Feel free to direct all questions or stories today through the submit feature of my Blog! Thank you and Happy Hotwifing! ♂️♀️♂️ ~LillybGoddess

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Rank Your Slut

How does your wife, fiancé, or girlfriend rank?

SCALE - 1000 POINTS POSSIBLE

750 - 1000 = Nympho Wife

500 - 749 = Slut Wife

250 - 499 = Hot wife

Wildcard: If you do something that is not in the list but is deemed worthy of points for a certain section, the husband may opt to allow it to be used in accordance to the point structure. No more than 2 wildcards can be used per section. Use your imagination!

Preparation - Worth 1 Point - 13 Points Possible

1. Tell husband stories about fucking your exes 2. Read 10 new hot wife stories 3. Watch 10 hot wife adult movies. 4. Buy 5 sexy and revealing outfits ask for opinions from other men 5. Call out another man’s name while fucking your husband 6. Go out in a dress or skirt and don’t wear any panties or bra 7. Buy and wear a hot wife or slut anklet 8. Flirt with guys in front of husband 9. Let a guy hit on you in front of your husband 10. Hand out your number to 3 new guys each month with a note saying you need to get fucked hard 11. Go shopping for sex toys at a an adult store 12. Go to 2 new places each month with hubby looking for good places to flirt 13. Sign up and pay for adult dating sites and Tinder to meet other men

Teasing - Worth 3 Points - 51 Points Possible

1. Let another man smack your ass in public while your husband watches. 2. Let a man grab your exposed boobs in public while your husband watches. 3. Let a man grope your exposed ass in public while your husband watches 4. Let a man feel your shaved pussy in public while your husband watches 5. Fondle another man’s cock in public 6. Rub your ass across other men to tease them in stores or at bars. 7. Bet a stranger he can’t fuck you harder and better than your husband 8. Send your husband a pic of you in lingerie from another man’s phone 9. Flash your ass to another man in public while your husband watches 10. Flash your tits to another man in public while your husband watches. 11. Greet the delivery man at the door in nothing but a t-shirt 12. Openly Skype and flirt with a guy while hubby is in the room 13. Openly talk dirty to another man on the phone in front of your husband 14. Send nude photos to another man 15. Let another man watch you fuck your husband on Skype 16. Get naked in the car and show off to truckers as you pass by 17. Make a guy cum for you on Skype

Basic - Worth 6 Points - 96 Points Possible

1. Call husband while sucking a cock 2. Call husband while getting fucked 3. Send texts telling your husband what another man is doing to you 4. Send pictures to your husband at work and at home while getting fucked 5. Show up at another man’s house wearing only a coat and heals - let hubby see you leave like that 6. Make another man cum without taking your clothes off 7. Have 3 quickies in one week with other men 8. Leave used condoms on your husbands side of the bed 9. Leave wet spots on your husbands side of the bed or pillow 10. Pick up a man by telling him he can cum inside you. 11. Make husband take one of your lovers out for beers before you fuck him / them 12. Send your husband a pic of you nude and say I am ready for you. Then say oops was not meant for you 13. Say you are going to the store and then 10 minutes later text your husband a nude pic at some guys house 14. Make movies of you fucking other men and share with your husband 15. Challenge a stranger to cum inside you in only ten thrusts (in public or car) 16. Pick up and fuck a guy on Craigslist, adult dating site, or Tinder

Advanced - Worth 12 Points - 360 Points Possible

1. Suck one cock while getting fucked by another 2. Skype your husband and let him watch you fuck another man 3. Make your husband listen to you get fucked from the other room 4. Have your other man send your husband photos of him fucking you 5. Have your man text your husband describing how he is fucking you 6. Give a guy a blow job in his car while your husband is in the back seat 7. Call a man over and give him only a blowjob until he cums on you. 8. Let another man fuck your ass 9. Let your ex cum inside you 10. Don’t clean up before letting your husband fuck you after getting fucked 11. Blow another man in the changing room while shopping with your husband 12. Beg your husband to come home from work only to have him find you fucking another man 13. Get a discount on renovations by fucking the contractor. 14. Send pics to your husband of yourself covered in cum 15. Suck a man off at a theater 16. Make your husband hide in the closet as you fuck another man 17. Fuck a man in his office, tell hubby. 18. Make your husband wait in the car while you go fuck another man 19. Send a picture of your wedding ring hand holding a massive cock 20. Send your hubby a pic with another man’s cum on your wedding ring 21. Fuck a man on your anniversary 22. Fuck another man right next to your husband while he sleeps 23. Pick up a guy and fuck him in the back seat while hubby drives you home 24. Fuck 5 different men in one week 25. Fuck 3 different men in one day 26. Jerk a man off in a hot tub across from your husband 27. Fuck a man in a hotel room with the curtains open and the lights on. 28. Fuck a man in the car in your driveway 29. Make hubby lube you with his tongue before you leave to get fucked. 30. Let another man call you names like slut or whore - while hubby can hear

Extreme - Worth 16 Points - 480 Points Possible

1. Greet your husband at the door with another man’s cum dripping from your face. 2. Fuck a stranger in an elevator 3. Fuck a man from your husband’s work 4. Rent a hotel room and make your husband watch you get fucked all day without him joining 5. Make two guys cum at the same time 6. Get fucked in every hole at the same time 7. Tell hubby how great your new man fucks and how big his cock is while he watches 8. Hang out in a hotel bar and get picked up by a business man. 9. Make your husband lick your pussy after another man filled it with cum 10. Make your husband fuck your cum filled pussy 11. Make your husband lick cum off your tits or ass. 12. Suck and fuck cocks at a glory hole 13. Take on a man or several men at an adult theater 14. Shop for a house just to fuck the realtor 15. Make your husband watch you get fucked while wearing your wedding dress 16. Take a pic of you and a big cock. Send it to friend and say it is not your husband 17. Share your hot wife/cuckold stories with a close friend 18. Go to a sex club and get fucked by other men 19. Fuck another woman by herself 20. Have a threesome with another man and another woman 21. Fuck two other men with your husband 22. Fuck in a gang-bang of 5 to 10 men 23. Go on a vacation with another man for sexual adventures - text and send pics to hubby at home 24. Get fucked in a bar, club, or pool hall 25. Become another man’s sex slave - be at his beck and call for 3 months 26. Make 5 guys fuck you and cum inside your pussy before letting your husband fuck you 27. Make husband lick your clit while another man fucks your pussy 28. Allow another man to pull your hair, smack your ass and choke you - rough sex 29. Make husband 69 with you while another man fucks you doggie style 30. Declare to your husband that you belong to him but are owned sexually by another or others

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How To Ask Her To Become A Slutwife

There are only 2 ways that a wife can become a slutwife.

The first is initiated internally, within her. Internal drive is something inside of her makes her desire to sleep with another man, to have attention from another, to seek a relationship outside of marriage. Internal drive is often the cause of cheating and also a great indicator of slutwife potential. Internal drive is absolutely necessary for a good slutwife.

The second is initiated by external influence. External influence is done by things that influence her internal drive and eventually make her seek the attention of another man and look at the possibility of sleeping with another. External influence can lead to cheating when the husband is not involved, but can lead to a very good slutwife/cuck style relationship when the husband is very involved.

That being said, you can safely assume that her internal drive needs to be kicked in, while simultaneously being a big part of her external influence, in order to get the slutwife of your dreams.

Now, there is only one realistic way of activating her internal drive and being her biggest external influence, you have to ask her to be your slutwife. Why? Because if her internal drive was raging, she would have asked you or already be cheating on you. If that is the case, you don’t need much from this post. For everyone else, it will be up to you to make it happen. You have to push forward.

When people ask me during private conversations, this is usually the biggest hurdle they have trouble getting over. How to ask?

Asking out of the blue can be very intimidating to most, because that is what most envision asking the question. In reality, there are many ways to lead-up to asking the question and warm her up to the idea. Here we will cover a few.

1. Let’s Watch Porn - Contrary to what some think, women can enjoy porn as much as men, they just perceive things differently. We have a natural curiosity towards sexuality and anything taboo, so exploring through porn is very common. Set up some time with your partner to explore porn together. Find out what she is curious about, see if there is something on her mind. If she mentions something, explore that topic. If she doesn’t know, guide her towards your goals. Topics like hotwife, threesome, size queens, and BBC are good starting points. When watching a video on a hotwife, mention how hot you think the scenario is and how much it turns you on. If watching BBC type video, mention how hot you think it looks watching a white woman being a slut for a black man, how black men seem better equipped for porn, and how they seem to have better endurance/stamina. Remember, regardless of the topic, only explore one topic at a time, give her mind time to absorb the idea. Towards the end of the video when you are both feeling hot, mention how you think she could do things better than the girl in the video, to give her a perspective of herself in that situation. Finish by giving her some very pleasurable sex and saying that you can’t wait to set up another night like that. This type of activity will open up the floor for bringing up the idea of her having sex with another man after doing it a few times.

2. Someone hit on her - If you are with a woman who’s looks rate anything above a 1, chances are she will be getting hit on at some point. You may witness it, or she may tell you about it some time later. The point is to be excited about it when she tells you, and ask her to give you every detail. You can then proceed to eat her out and give her a proper orgasm as you mention little suggestions where she could have done more. (Little things are her smiling more when she gets hit on, giving her phone number, adding him on facebook, wearing something slightly more revealing, etc.) This will teach her that you are cool with her having attention from other men, it turns you on, and that you think about her taking it slightly further. By eating her out while talking about it, it aligns these experiences with other good and pleasurable experiences, thus building a correlation between being hit on and pleasure. This opens up the doors for her to seek more attention and eventually pushing further. As far as asking her to be a slutwife when the time comes, you can go back to one of these scenarios and mention how you imagine her going all the way, how hot the idea sounds, and what are her thoughts on doing it in real life.

3. Asking her to Show Off More - You can always ask your wife to show off a bit more, then compliment her on how hot she looks. This doesn’t mean asking her to go full slutmode right off the bat (we will cover more on how to get her there in another post). You will simply ask her to show off a bit more. For example, have her pull her blouse down to show off a bit more cleavage, or let her skirt ride a bit higher than normal. Go out with her and mention how sexy she looked, how you caught a few guys staring, and how much it turns you on. This will no doubt bring a “Aren’t you jealous?” Your reply will be that you are not because you love her, know that she is yours, and that it turns you on when other guys admire your sexy wife. Tell her how proud you are to show off how sexy she is and that you do not believe you should keep such a beauty all to yourself. Over time, as you get her to dress sexier and she becomes more comfortable, this will set things up for the slutwife topic (More on that soon).

4. The Sex Shop Experience-Another way to ease her into talking about her becoming a slutwife is by taking her to an adult store. Not into a cheap small store that looks raunchy, go into an adult megaplex with a variety of stuff. The two of you will go on a date to explore different sexual kinks and to simply look around. While there, see if she is curious about anything in particular, costumes, toys, bondage, etc. and go with it. No one should know her kinks better than you, so go with it. If she is following your lead, start by going to the dvd section and explore your fantasy. Show her some BBC/3 some/ or slutwife DVD and tell her how it looks really interesting. Ask her what she thinks about it. Move on to the costumes and ask her which she finds sexiest. Go with her answers and suggest something sexy yourself, than have her visualize herself wearing it. If its something she could pull off on Halloween, mention how she should wear it on Halloween and turn some heads. Go to the toys section and see if any catch her interest. Go with it. Then point out some large dildos as well. Have her hold them and ask her how she thinks one would feel inside of her if she took her time to ease it in. Tell her how much it would turn you on to see her take one. You should aim to buy something that interests her from each section, to show her how much you lover her sexuality and want her to explore it. At the same time, you are dropping small hints as to your desires and feeling out her interests.

5. Who Would You Sleep With?-You will ask the question that if she could have sex with any one person in the world with zero consequences, who it would be. She may likely choose a celebrity. If she can speak about it openly, ask her to name another. Have her pick out about 3. If she insists that she couldn’t, then tell her that if she had to, due to a life and death situation, who would she choose. You can also apply a world catastrophe situation where you are gone and she is needed yo help repopulate the world and she has her pick of men. The only point here is to get her to talk about how she would have sex with other men. She may counter by asking you who you would sleep with. You will respond with a girl you have seen in porn as a hotwife, going black, doing a gangbang, etc. and you will say that because you would think back and ask her about that scene she did and it would really turn you on.

6. What is your Fantasy?- Last but not least, ask her what her fantasies are. It is important that you know her fantasies and curiosities if you don’t already. If you have done some of the stuff above, you might have done enough to get her curious about the hotwife scenarios, BBC, huge cocks, threesomes, etc. if not, just get to know her fantasies. When she asks about yours, this is where you tell her. Your fantasy is for her to be a sexy slutwife. Remember that you are not demanding anything, you are informing how hot you find the idea. (Go back to post #1) there is a chance she may be into it and willing to explore it further. If not, tell her how you would still like to roleplay that along with her own fantasies.

With the tools above, you should be able to ease into letting her know you love the idea of her becoming a slutwife and gives you a set up to gauge her interests. It also serves towards becoming her biggest external influence and could possibly kick in her internal drive, This on it’s own may not be the home-run, but it certainly sets things up to get her to fulfill your fantasy.

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UNUSUAL NSFW ASKS

Wanted to create some more unique questions for y'all. Feel free to reblog and ask :3

What are the ideal nudes that someone could send you?

Have you ever humped a pillow until you came? Would you?

Hottest food someone can eat?

Genie granted you three NSFW wishes. What are you wishing for?

Something you did in bed and would NEVER do again?

Something you did in bed and would LOVE to do again?

Something you never did in bed and would rather never do?

Something you never did in bed and would love to do?

Look around yourself. You are EXTREMELY horny. What unusual object are you using to get off?

What slasher killer would you love to get railed by and why?

What kink/fantasy of yours are you the most embarrassed about? Why?

What’s the weirdest thing that turned you on? Did you masturbate to it? Would you do it again?

What is your darkest kink?

What body part would you worship on other people to the end of time because NGHHHH?

Are you happy with the type of genital you have? If not, would you want the opposite? Why?

You masterbated yourself to starvation. What’s the top number 1 food you crave RN?

What’s the best term that describes you sexually?

You can do only ONE thing to your partner sex-wise for an entire month. What is your pick?

Would you be able to go full month just pleasing your partner daily, without getting anything back?

What hairstyle you find attractive?

What video of you would you love to take sometimes? Why haven’t you yet?

What’s a toy you’d love to use? Why?

What’s your favourite thing about a quickie?

Have you or would you ever masturbate with toothpaste/tiger balm/numbing balm etc.?

Have you ever kissed someone of the same gender? What’s the best part on it?

What’s the most flattering thing someone’s said about your naked body?

What’s a part of clothing you would love to see your crush/partner in?

What does your ideal one night stand look like?

Do you have a favourite CNC scenario? Which is it?

Favourite position to give oral? And to receive?

What’s your fantasy celebrity threesome?

What is your most unusual turn on?

Do you have some songs you wanna get railed to?

What’s your opinion on anal?

Do you like to have rough sex? What you love the most?

Do you like to have sensual sex? What you love the most?

What’s your opinion on sexting?

Do you like getting teased in public? Why or why not?

What’s your biggest sexual pet peeve?

What are you favourite pet names to be called during sex?

What’s the best orgasm you had in past months?

Do you like going commando?

What language is the sexiest?

Is FreeUse hot? Why?

What would you love to roleplay as in bed?

What scent you find arousing?

Favourite way of being degraded?

Favourite way of being praised?

Favourite thing to do when dominating?

Favourite thing to do when being dominated?

Have you ever tried something only for it to become a hard limit of yours? How so?

Would you be willing to try something off limits? If yes, what would the circumstances have to be?

Do you like to be intoxicated during sex? How? Why?

Would you like to expose yourself/get exposed? If yes, are there some limits?

Best romantic evening setting, go!

Best sexual evening setting, go!

Would you watch porn with your partner? What would be your pick?

Would you ever participate in a goon day/weekend?

Would you ever participate in Locktober?

Would you ever participate in NoNutNovember?

Do you like tattoos or piercings on your partner? What would be the best places for them to have them?

What is a sex-challenge you would create? Would you do it with your partner or solo?

What is something you always wanted to ask your partner but didn’t had the courage to?

What is something you would love your partner to forget about you?

Is there a kink/fetish you would like your partner to have? Why?

Is there a kink/fetish you would like your partner NOT to have? Why?

Considering you ABSOLUTELY WOULD HAVE to do the next thing your partner will ask you to. What do YOU wish that would be?

Do you trust your partner enough to be their no-limit sex slave for 24 hours? Why not? What would be the limits?

Would you let your partner pimp you out?

THIS OR THAT?

Ropes or Cuffs?

Furries or Robots?

Fully naked or Fully clothed?

Take Erotic photos of someone or Let someone take erotic photos of you?

What’s a better gag? Panties or Socks?

Creampie or Throatpie?

Cuck someone or Get cucked?

Blunt pain or Sharp pain?

Obedient sub or Bratty sub?

Forever watch porn or Forever read porn

Proffesional or Amateur porn?

Feet or Hands?

Lights on or lights off?

Have a harem of men or Have a harem of women?

Truth or dare or FapRoulette?

Multiple orgasms vs Orgasm denial?

Nylons or Fishnets?

Pet or Slave?

Worship ass or Worship feet?

Mommy/Daddy or Master/Mistress?

Bites vs Slaps?

Bruises vs Cuts?

Latex or Leather?

FOR PEOPLE WITH VAGINAS:

Do you like your clit touched? How is it best?

Favourite way to jerk off?

Best thing about having a vagina?

What’s the nicest compliment you ever got about your vagina? What you think should be complimented on it?

FOR PEOPLE WITH PENISES:

Favorite blowjob technique?

Favorite way to jerk off?

Best thing about having a penis?

What’s the nicest compliment you ever got about your penis? What you think should be complimented on it?

BONUS QUESTIONS!

Are you satisfied with your sex life? If not, what would you change? If yes, is there something you would still like to improve to make it even better?

Are you satisfied with yourself in bed? What you think you lack? What you think you excel at?

Did you found out something new about yourself?

Considering you and your sex life, is there something you are so PROUD OF you would brag about it on reddit? (Or tumblr lol, Stole this from reddit)

Considering you are going to have sex today, what are some things you would love to experience?