I Don't Know Why This Particular Person Keeps Appearing In My Dreams. I Have A Recurring Dream About

Can we please stop associating being a good person with how much you're willing to suffer in silence for other people? You can be a kind person and still say "no, I don't have the time/energy to help you with that." You can be a kind person and still say "this makes me uncomfortable, please stop." You can be a kind person and still say "I disagree and here's why." You can be kind and still say "I'm not okay with this." Being kind is about treating people with kindness and respect, not about being the human equivalent of a doormat!

“But in that moment I understood what they say about nostalgia, that no matter if you’re thinking of something good or bad, it always leaves you a little emptier afterwards.”

— John Corey Whaley

"Take time to take care of yourself before somebody else" Okay!

People can’t monitor what they don’t have access to. You cannot complain about “monitoring spirits” when others view the content you willingly post online. Likewise, somebody interacting with every post you make doesn’t mean they have true, clean appreciation for you either. Maturing is realizing that we have more control over what we allow others to see about us, and to not be easily flattered by low-effort actions in social media.

fortunately i will only ever get prettier, healthier, and happier. and i hope you do too!

**IMPORTANT

Pakikipag-pustahan

Nakipag-pustahan kana ba? Yung pustahan na makakasakit ng isang tao. Na ang pustahan eh paunahan kayong dalawang makuha ang loob ng isang tao. At pag-napasagot eh kailangan hiwalayan para matapos ang pustahan at masabing ikaw ang panalo? Ngunit paano kung sa gitna ng pustahan bigla kang na-inlove sa kanya? Sa taong pinag-pustahan at pinagtitripan nyo. Anong gagawin mo? Itutuloy mo paba ang pustahan? O ititigil ito at aaminin sa kanya ang totoo?

Napakasakit sa pakiramdam na pagtripan ka ng mga tao, lalo na’t ang damdamin mo ang pinaglalaruan nila. Yung gagawin nila ang lahat gumaan lang ang loob mo pero katapos tapos eh sasaktan ka lang nila at iiwan. Sobrang sakit diba? Paano nalang kung yung taong mahal mo eh minahal ka dahil sa isang pustahan? Hindi mo masasabi yan dahil sa ngayon likas na ang mga manloloko. Kaya wag kang magtiwala sa mga salita, hangga’t hindi mo nararamdaman na mahal ka wag na wag kang mafo-fall. Para hindi ka masaktan ng wala sa oras. Para hindi ka tawaging TANGA.

Payo lang sa mga nakikipagpustahan, dapat buo ang loob mo sa pakikipagpustahan mo, kasi once na nafall ka mas magiging complicated yung sitwasyon. Kung ako sayo don’t play someone’s feelings. Kasi magbabounce back yan sayo hindi man sa time na gawin mo yun pero isang araw makakaranas ka din kung anong naramdaman nya nung pinagtitripan mo sya.

STOP DOING THIS IN INJURY FICS!!

Bleeding:

Blood is warm. if blood is cold, you’re really fucking feverish or the person is dead. it’s only sticky after it coagulates.

It smells! like iron, obv, but very metallic. heavy blood loss has a really potent smell, someone will notice.

Unless in a state of shock or fight-flight mode, a character will know they’re bleeding. stop with the ‘i didn’t even feel it’ yeah you did. drowsiness, confusion, pale complexion, nausea, clumsiness, and memory loss are symptoms to include.

blood flow ebbs. sometimes it’s really gushin’, other times it’s a trickle. could be the same wound at different points.

it’s slow. use this to your advantage! more sad writer times hehehe.

Stab wounds:

I have been mildly impaled with rebar on an occasion, so let me explain from experience. being stabbed is bizarre af. your body is soft. you can squish it, feel it jiggle when you move. whatever just stabbed you? not jiggly. it feels stiff and numb after the pain fades. often, stab wounds lead to nerve damage. hands, arms, feet, neck, all have more motor nerve clusters than the torso. fingers may go numb or useless if a tendon is nicked.

also, bleeding takes FOREVER to stop, as mentioned above.

if the wound has an exit wound, like a bullet clean through or a spear through the whole limb, DONT REMOVE THE OBJECT. character will die. leave it, bandage around it. could be a good opportunity for some touchy touchy :)

whump writers - good opportunity for caretaker angst and fluff w/ trying to manhandle whumpee into a good position to access both sites

Concussion:

despite the amnesia and confusion, people ain’t that articulate. even if they’re mumbling about how much they love (person) - if that’s ur trope - or a secret, it’s gonna make no sense. garbled nonsense, no full sentences, just a coupla words here and there.

if the concussion is mild, they’re gonna feel fine. until….bam! out like a light. kinda funny to witness, but also a good time for some caretaking fluff.

Fever:

you die at 110F. no 'oh no his fever is 120F!! ahhh!“ no his fever is 0F because he’s fucking dead. you lose consciousness around 103, sometimes less if it’s a child. brain damage occurs at over 104.

ACTUAL SYMPTOMS:

sluggishness

seizures (severe)

inability to speak clearly

feeling chilly/shivering

nausea

pain

delirium

symptoms increase as fever rises. slow build that secret sickness! feverish people can be irritable, maybe a bit of sass followed by some hurt/comfort. never hurt anybody.

ALSO about fevers - they absolutely can cause hallucinations. Sometimes these alter memory and future memory processing. they're scary shit guys.

fevers are a big deal! bad shit can happen! milk that till its dry (chill out) and get some good hurt/comfort whumpee shit.

keep writing u sadistic nerds xox love you

ALSO I FORGOT LEMME ADD ON:

YOU DIE AT 85F

sorry I forgot. at that point for a sustained period of time you're too cold to survive.

pt 2

It's my 4 year anniversary on Tumblr 🥳

Yeyyyy! It's been 4 years since I made an account on Tumblr. Can't believe it. Can't wait for more content to make. Thank u, Tumblr! 🥳🎉✨