POV: Mister Devon Price, PhD, Telling Me That I Am Right About Everything

trying to remind myself to not say “i’m sorry” when i really mean “i just expressed my feelings, and i’m worried about how you’ll respond because i’m used to being dismissed or gaslit due to past unhealthy relationships”

How to see the next step ahead

Source: https://martinrue.com/to-be-productive-be-prepared/

Motivation by itself gives us the willingness to do something, but nothing more. Once we make a start, the game changes and it becomes about knowing how to make progress.

Knowing how to make progress and making progress are two different things, but we often conflate them and treat them as the same thing. We basically jump into the task and start. Only, it’s not really starting because we’re repeatedly stopping to think about design, architecture, security, how it will look, how it will work, which database to use. The list goes on.

But knowing how to make progress before you start is important. Before you start your next task, complete the following in as much detail as possible:

Describe exactly what the new [feature/bug/thing] will do

Describe exactly how it will do it, giving as much technical detail as you can think of now

If it has a visual element, quickly sketch out how it’ll look

If you can do this before you start, you’ll have a good idea of:

What you’re doing and what the definition of complete is

What to add (or what to change) in order to make it happen

Roughly how it looks or feels, which often clarifies details of the point above

Hi everyone,

I found some more information about autistic burnout. According to this article:

“Autistic Burnout is usually a consequence of camouflaging or masking for either an extended period or over a period of time without a break, as it takes a huge amount of effort. It can also be a result of sensory overload, executive functioning demands (juggling too many tasks at once), or stress associated with unexpected change(s).

Over time, burnout can affect a person's overall health as the body's resources are being used, and not being replaced, which also leaves nothing spare for any recovery.”

I’ll leave the link here in case you’d like to read the entire article.

I hope many of you find this helpful.

Autistic Burnout

WHY YOU SHOULD WRITE HORRIBLY:

1. You’ll never write anything if you don’t

No way! She's got no socks on.

Wondermint thinks these flowers look out of this world!

Support the ones with special interests that are praised, sought for or impressive; the ones whose special interests are mundane and everyday things, or even frowned upon and support Autistics who can't explain their special interest. Support Autistics with no special interest, too.

I'm not the first to say this. I won't be the last to say this.

But if you support Autistics, you need to support all Autistics.

Support the ones with moderate needs, the ones with high needs. The ones that are loud. The ones that haven't learnt any social skills and are seen as embarrassing by allistics.

Support the ones who are hyperverbal and talk way too much about their special interest.

Support the ones who are nonverbal and communicate with AAC and struggle to be heard.

Support the ones with stereotypical behaviours and then ones who mask so hard they deny they're autistic at all.

Support the Autistic parents who are exhausted all the time and the Autistics who still live with their parents.

Support Autistics all the time. Not just when they make you feel good.

The autistic feel of never asserting boundaries, not because you don’t understand that you deserve to have your boundaries respected, but because the social script of asserting boundaries while making sure that the other person doesn’t feel attacked is one that you never got the knack of delivering, so your only two options are “doormat” or “bitchy and difficult”

Imagine internalising that guns are the solution to your sensory problems

I'm trying to write a story. What if there was an autistic character who grew up around violence due to living in an area with gang warfare and has frequent experiences with bullying at an inner city school? Also their parents are very neglectful or abusive towards them.

That sounds like it could be a ver interesting story.

Selfish is good

I think you know that but being selfish with all things is expected in this world so be selfish. If you're not being selfish you're doing someone a favor, even if you don't know it.

And there’s nothing wrong with it. I’d do that in a heartbeat. Just be mindful.