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how to become a neat-freak

I’ll be the first to admit i have not always been a tidy person. In the past i said things like “it’s an organized mess, i know where everything is!” As an excuse for not keeping my space neat.

Now i love having a clean space! It gives me peace knowing i have one less thing to worry about - cleaning my room

- start to view having a clean space as a sign of respect for yourself, and your space. There are many important things you need to do on a day to day basis, and that list can be cut significantly by setting a standard of cleanliness for yourself. Im sure you have many beautiful things in your room, and if you’re like me you care about maintaining them. Respect them accordingly.

- as cliche as it is, your bed is the best place to start. It takes up the majority of your room, so having it made daily allows the smaller tasks of putting things back in drawers, taking water bottles downstairs, feel much smaller in comparison. Doing this first thing in the morning is a great momentum tool as well - your brain will view it as a big task checked off your list and continuing your tasks for the day will appear easier.

- know where everything is. Workout leggings and tops in one drawer, pjs in one drawer, dresses on hangers, etc. Being consistent with where you put your things saves you time and energy. No need to hunt for 30 minutes trying to find your favorite top when you can just put it in a specific drawer and remember where it is whenever you need it. Giving everything a place also helps prevent losing small items like airpods, earrings, and house keys

- organize your closet conveniently. For me, this means hanging my clothes in rainbow order. Ive done it for years and i love how it looks. I don’t have to rake through my closet for the black dress i want, i just go to that section and pick it out. I also organize by shade (which comes in handy when you’re me and have 50 shades of pink to choose from😄)

- create a routine. I vacuum my room, wipe my mirrors, and wipe down my desk every week. I typically do my laundry twice a week. I wash my sheets weekly, and my comforter biweekly. Having a routine that you don’t have to write down makes cleaning feel more natural and less forced.

- clean when you aren’t busy. I don’t do laundry on days when my schedule is packed because i know my clothes will end up sitting in that laundry basket and getting wrinkled. Tasks like washing my sheets or cleaning out my closet require dedicated time, so i do my best to plan accordingly.

- blur the line. You are not someone who is messy and wishes to be tidy, you are a tidy person that is human and slips up. The more consistent you are with cleaning your room, your car, your backpack, the more natural it will feel. When people come over they always compliment my room and i take pride in that! I can’t just appear to have my stuff together in every aspect, and then neglect my room. Hypocrite alert.

things to start and stop doing to be the best you

things to start doing:

put yourself first - live for yourself and up to your own standards and stop pushing aside your needs for other people.

set healthy boundaries for yourself and others

always find new skills and hobbies to learn and pick up

have a routine that works for you

never settle for less. if it's not what you want, keep looking forward.

be bold - not letting fear stop you from being great

improve your self talk. compliment yourself more. tell yourself things will be okay.

enjoy the silence more

more self reflection!

learn how to enjoy your own company

socialize more

take yourself out on solo dates

walk with your head high, shoulders back

listening to your intuition when you first brush it off. you can find out the reason later.

start being active. move your body. go on walks, go to the gym, sign up for yoga, dance classes, pilates, etc.

continue talking when someone cuts you off.

put people in their place. if your boundaries have been crossed or you see something that isn't right, don't be afraid to speak your mind whenever you see necessary.

read more books. set a goal for each month.

seek for all sides of the story. never come to a set conclusion at first glance or none at all.

take your own advice.

be assertive. don’t allow yourself to be pushed around. do what's good for you no matter what anyone says, be clear about what you want in life and go for it.

ask questions. don't be afraid to. this applies to everything.

explore different styles that pique your interest. clothes, majors, hobbies, jobs, literally everything.

journaling your thoughts and ideas.

things to stop doing:

seek validation from others

living for others when you should be living for yourself.

passively consume content on social media

having FOMO. who cares if you missed out on the latest celebrity gossip, what person cheated on who, the food pictures people are posting on their stories. does it benefit you for a lifetime? no? okay then.

saying "i'm going to do this" and not do it.

isolating yourself for a long period of time

spending more time on your phone than you are living your life. there's life outside a glowing screen. stop wasting what you have and make the best of it even if it seems "impossible". you can always make something out of nothing.

comparing yourself to others

idolizing everyone. celebrities, public figures, influencers....

letting people's limiting beliefs have a hold over you

choosing to keep the victim mentality.

putting your responsibilities and happiness aside to laze around or for other people.

sticking with your circle when you've outgrown them. i don't care how long you've known them for and how good the bond was. if they're not good for you anymore, leave.

letting people step all over you - say no and don't give in to pleases.

pushing your trauma/problems aside. your problems are no less than others. you are important too. tend to yourself.

guilt trip yourself for resting when you want/need to.

abandon your needs.

insulting yourself for failures and mistakes. it's normal, you're okay.

believing everything you see and hear whether it be online or in real life.

don't take criticism from people you wouldn't take advice from. or anyone for that matter unless it's out of the goodness of their heart (constructive)

Does anyone else feel embarrassed/shy in asks

Like hi I'm shy and idk what I'm doing

✧˖° how to stop self-sabotaging your success (and finally commit to doing the work)

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hi angel, mindy here. let’s talk. because i know you want this. you want to be that student who shows up for herself/himself. you want to stop making excuses. you want to feel proud of yourself when this is all over. so why do you keep putting up roadblocks in your own way? why do you keep pulling yourself away from the very thing you know you need to do?

self-sabotage is not laziness. it’s fear, it’s perfectionism, it’s comfort, it’s this deep, quiet resistance that whispers, what if i try and fail? so you never fully try.

but guess what? we’re breaking that cycle today. right now.

✧˖° the illusion of "i’ll do it later"

procrastination is a liar with a pretty voice. it tells you that you’ll do it when you feel more ready, when you’re in a better mood, when the circumstances are just right. but the truth? later is just a hiding place.

so next time you catch yourself saying “i’ll do it tonight” or “tomorrow is better,” stop. ask yourself: what makes later better than now? if you don’t have a solid answer, it’s just fear talking.

✧˖° you’re scared of what happens when you actually succeed

self-sabotage isn’t just about the fear of failure. sometimes, it’s the fear of what happens when you actually get what you’ve been working toward.

because success? means expectations. it means proving that you can do it again. it means stepping into a version of yourself that no longer has excuses. and that can be terrifying.

but here’s the truth: the version of you that’s waiting on the other side of this work? she’s not a stranger. she’s still you, just with more proof of what you’re capable of.

✧˖° your study habits are built around guilt, not discipline

if studying always feels like punishment, if your entire academic routine is built around the feeling of “i should be doing more,” of course you’re going to resist it.

so let’s shift this. instead of studying because you have to, start studying because you deserve to succeed. because you want to feel prepared. because the version of you who walks into that exam room with confidence? deserves to exist.

make studying feel like an investment, not a punishment. romanticize it. find ways to make it an experience you don’t want to run from. pinterest is your best friend, studytok is your motivator and me (@glowettee is your mentor 😉)

✧˖° you wait for motivation instead of creating discipline

motivation is like a guest who shows up unannounced. sometimes, she arrives when you least expect it, and sometimes, she ghosts you for weeks.

discipline, though? discipline is the friend who always shows up. she’s reliable. she doesn’t wait until she “feels like it.” she just does it, because that’s who she is.

so stop waiting for motivation to hit like some kind of magical burst of energy. instead, set up routines that make studying non-negotiable. that make it feel natural. like brushing your teeth, like making your bed, like second nature.

✧˖° self-sabotage is a pattern. patterns can be broken.

if you’ve spent years avoiding hard work, of course your brain is going to resist when you suddenly decide to commit. your instincts are wired to avoid discomfort.

but the good news? self-sabotage is a learned habit. which means you can unlearn it. every time you choose to sit down and do the work, even when you don’t want to, you are rewriting your patterns. you are proving to yourself that you are not the same person who gives up.

and eventually? showing up for yourself won’t feel like a battle anymore. it will feel normal. it will feel like who you are.

✧˖° this is the moment you choose differently

look, you can close this post and keep doing what you’ve always done. you can keep waiting for some magical day when it all feels easy. or you can make a decision, right here, right now.

you can decide that you are done getting in your own way. that you are done letting fear win. that you are done delaying your own success.

because the version of you who is already succeeding? she is not far away. she is right there, waiting for you to step into her shoes.

it’s time, angel. show up.

love you all sooo much <3 i hope this post can help you understand; self-discipline > motivation

with love, mindy

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Morning routine ideas

Creating a proper morning routine can be so much fun, especially now that so many people are starting summer break; it's the perfect time to get used to a new routine! <3

Open your curtains + Window. Fresh air and sunshine are always good for you.

Read something, waking up the brain, haha.

Say good morning to your pets and/or plants. It's something cute.

Wash your face and brush your teeth. Best feeling in the morning.

Drink a glass of water and take your vitamins. I like taking my vitamins on an empty stomach, so a bit before breakfast.

Make yourself breakfast; I never understood how people can go without breakfast. I would be dead by noon, lol.

Try eating breakfast outside; literally so relaxing.

Exercise, go for a walk, try some yoga or pilates.

Journal, Paint, blog. Do something creative that makes you feel good and inspired; I obviously write blog posts, hahah.

Brew a fresh cup of coffee or tea. Slay.

Connect with your friends or family. A simple good morning text is enough and might make their day a bit better :)

Choose an outfit. Whatever you feel comfortable with, your clothes should always empower you!

Put on your favorite perfume; I like 'Thank U Next' by Ariana grande, 'Black Opium' by YSL, or Victoria's Secret body spray.

Make your bed and maybe tidy up your room a bit.

List three things you want to do today. You can also write down more but don't push yourself too much.

Do your makeup and/or hair, I'm currently trying more simple makeup for summer, and I'm loving it!!

Listen to your favorite song, my fav atm is Cry Baby by The Neighbourhood, lol.

Please feel free to add more suggestions in the comments! <3

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