I Think We As A Collective Need To Stop Telling Young Marginalized People Without Friends That Their

I think we as a collective need to stop telling young marginalized people without friends that their isolation is self-made and will end if they start to be more outgoing when this is actually more often than not a result of being raised in small bigoted communities and poverty.

People younger than me from liberal metropolises have advised me that if I want to find other LGBTQ+, disabled and neurodivergent folks I should join a local queer space, mental health group, book club or tabletop group and then I had to explain to them how I have to work until my mid-twenties to afford moving to a place where those things exist. I live in a conservative small-town and my options for meeting new people irl are "school / work" and "parties". Which is where the bigots are.

But simultaneously we're told that isolation is inherently detrimental to our happiness, that every year spent in that state is wasted, that even when we don't feel miserable, we secretly are without realizing it. That a life without a certain amount of irl friends and social activities isn't worth living. That we must spend every waking minute trying to exit isolation. That we're wasting away. Which is bullshit.

Stop treating social isolation of marginalized teens and young adults as a sign of personal failure to be outgoing as well as a state of inevitable and constant suffering. Start treating it like the structural problem it is. Stop demonizing being alone. Start normalizing online friends as real, valuable friendships. Start normalizing the idea that times spent alone are worth living as well. Because some of us are going to be here for a while, whether we like it or not. Hand out hope, not pressure.

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1 year ago

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1 year ago

they call me the forgetter because

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1 year ago

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this post is for all of my transmascs and my trans men. all of you with wide hips, with long hair, with big tits, all of you who embrace femininity while still being wholeheartedly, beautifully, transmasc. all of you who decide to wear dresses because you love it, all of you who absolutely fucking rock it in thick eyeliner, all of you who don't want surgery or hormones, all of you who use all kinds of pronouns, and you're still so wonderfully transmasc.

and then. this is for my masculine transmascs. all of you who bind and layer to look masc, all of you who are on T or want surgery because it'll make you happy, all of my bears, my punks, my butches, my leathers, all of you beautiful, beautiful fucking people who are so proud and so confident in your masculinity. you are not dangerous. testosterone does not make you evil or predatory or harmful to others. you are also not immediately obligated to be a protector for others. you are allowed to enjoy your masculinity and still be loved the way you deserve to be loved.

this is for my black, asian, indian, latine, muslim, jewish trans men/mascs, my disabled transmascs, this is for my trans men and mascs who don't feel comfortable in the community all the time. you still deserve to find comfort in who you are and your identity because there will always be a place for you. you will always deserve love and support for who you are. trans men and trans mascs we are not lesser people we are not evil we are not endangering women/femmes, we are not less worthy of protection for being trans. i love you because of who you are.

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1 year ago

creature in fiction: *is portrayed as bad and mean*

8 year old me: but what if there was a good and nice one :0

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ihadhopeoncetoo

1 year ago

man as an afab nb with long hair and no intention of cutting it and tits too big to bind i rly have no way to not look cis. cis people rly see me on the streets n think we have the same vibe….. frightening.

oh dear ima stop this post right here to say i found a stinkbug on my ceiling

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