The Streets Are Not For Me, I Belong In My Room Sleeping

Found this on facebook but reposting to SAVE A LIFE.

Or at least some of y’all’s GPAs.

You’re welcome.

"does it bother you to walk past people openly smoking crack outside your apartment buulding" no cause im a mindyourpilled fuckingbusinessmaxxer

my brain is awesome just legitimately googled “how to have fun” brother we are cooked

To all the trans people who see this tonight, no matter what happens, we will survive. Trans people will still be here 4 years from now and 10 years from now and 100 years from now and tomorrow. We have always existed and we always will. The world cannot unlearn about us; we are too public, too loud, too beloved, too present. Ill be here tomorrow. Please stay here with me.

Dealing With Executive Dysfunction - A Masterpost

The “getting it done in an unconventional way” method.

The “it’s not cheating to do it the easy way” method.

The “fuck what you’re supposed to do” method.

The “get stuff done while you wait” method.

The “you don’t have to do everything at once” method.

The “it doesn’t have to be permanent to be helpful” method.

The “break the task into smaller steps” method.

The “treat yourself like a pet” method.

The “it doesn’t have to be all or nothing” method.

The “put on a persona” method.

The “act like you’re filming a tutorial” method.

The “you don’t have to do it perfectly” method.

The “wait for a trigger” method.

The “do it for your future self” method.

The “might as well” method.

The “when self discipline doesn’t cut it” method.

The “taking care of yourself to take care of your pet” method.

The “make it easy” method.

The “junebugging” method.

The “just show up” method.

The “accept when you need help” method.

The “make it into a game” method.

The “everything worth doing is worth doing poorly” method.

The “trick yourself” method.

The “break it into even smaller steps” method.

The “let go of should” method.

The “your body is an animal you have to take care of” method.

The “fork theory” method.

The “effectivity over aesthetics” method.

I wonder how deeply the stereotype that it’s easy for trans men/mascs to pass is rooted in survivorship bias. I came out and started to transition long ago under the old WPATH standards, which demanded social transition prior to medical transition for trans men. My therapist directly told me that if I were a trans woman, she would have written the letter for HRT for me almost immediately; instead, I had to jump through hoops for years—I missed the window to gain significant height from T because of this. (Informed consent/DIY was not accessible to me; this is another discussion.) If I were not already a bit tall and butch by sheer luck, would I have been able to persist as a trans man? Would I have gone back into the closet, to some miserable end? Would I have lived at all? If I died, what name and pronouns would have been on the obituary? The 2015 US Trans Survey gets trotted out a lot—but one figure that always jumped out at me was the age graph from page 46. Look at how young the trans men skew—only 10% are 45 or older. (The non-binary category is of course even worse.) How different might that be, if things had truly been safer in the past for trans men?

Source: https://transequality.org/sites/default/files/docs/usts/USTS-Full-Report-Dec17.pdf

holding my own face in my own hands and screaming “there is no connection without an open heart! you must be brave! you must be honest! you must be true!” in the mirror

not ignoring you not replying to you but a secret third thing

People do not see masculinity as being as fluid and complex and nuanced as femininity and it’s annoying as hell. Because of patriarchy’s stranglehold on masculinity and radfem theory’s stranglehold on queer spaces, people really think with their whole heart that only femininity is subversive or experimental, or frankly, queer, and that masculinity is only a power grab and nothing more. Embarrassing!