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take me down to catgirl city where the boys are girls and the girls are kitty.

dont mind me just thinking about the fact that some of yall genuinely believe that the only trans people in 3rd world countries are trans women and have never considered the impact of forced pregnancy, child marriage, fgm and honor killings on trans men and when people like me talk about it you do an obligatory reblog then forget 40 seconds later and start talking about how transmasc invisibility is a good thing.

“In the war film, a soldier can hold his buddy—as long as his buddy is dying on the battlefield. In the western, Butch Cassidy can wash the Sundance Kid’s naked flesh—as long as it is wounded. In the boxing film, a trainer can rub the well-developed torso and sinewy back of his protege—as long as it is bruised. In the crime film, a mob lieutenant can embrace his boss like a lover—as long as he is riddled with bullets. 

Violence makes the homo-eroticism of many “male” genres invisible; it is a structural mechanism of plausible deniability.”

–Tarantino’s Incarnational Theology: Reservoir Dogs, Crucifixions, and Spectacular Violence. Kent L. Brintnall.

who am i if not a guy who wears the same stupid little necklace. All the time.

collection of useful things tumblr has taught me:

even if you can't fall asleep, laying down with your eyes closed will still rest your body

you don't have to brush your teeth standing up

you don't have to do any chore standing up, from dishes to showering

you don't have to shower with the lights on

if you can't brush your teeth, flossing and a tongue scraper gets rid of plaque and bad breath

if you can't do that, mouthwash kills a lot of bacteria

eating "unhealthy" food is better than eating no food

you can make the same meal everyday for however long you still want it

some pills come in syrups or chewables if you can't swallow them

kids nutritional shakes can be a quick way to get fuel if you can't eat/don't have time

if walking hurts/exhausts you on a regular basis, canes and rollers are for you, no matter how young you are

we have free will—if doing something "out of the ordinary" makes life easier for you, do it

“what radicalized you” bro EMPATHY

Something I hope and wish for a lot of trans men is for them to realize that like many other things, masculinity is a spectrum. Speaking as someone who grew up hanging around men for over 20 years, and still do to this day, there is a wide range of ways that cis men express themselves and their masculinity. Furthermore, many men tend to have a very muted form of masculinity.

What I mean by this is that a good portion of men don't feel like they have to be macho dudes, with big muscles, driving trucks, drinking beers with the bros, etc. Most men quite literally will just simply exist, and don't feel like they need to prove their masculinity. It's just a given.

By all means, if you want to be a guy who body-builds, works on trucks, drinks beers, and all that stuff, that's perfectly valid and you won't hear shit from other men about it.

But you're not really under any pressure to do this. There's a lot of men who have typically "feminine" interests, or act more androgynous, and their gender is never brought into question.

If you want to knit, bake, read books, or do any other "non macho" activity, you can.

You're masculine purely by the fact that you're a man.

None of the men in my life have been "macho" dudes, and their gender or heterosexuality are never, ever, doubted.

So to all you trans dudes out there, coming from an ex-dude, with a shit load of male friends, remember this: there's absolutely no rules to being a man. Be yourself, and people will act accordingly.