Jem-jams - Gay And Tired

one (1) ragdoll kitty... now at least 47% more festive!

When a trans woman says “do not call me dude or bro,” that is not an invitation to explain to her why you are going to call her that. Simply do not use the words. If you are told “do not misgender me,” it does not matter how much you explain how you aren’t misgendering her when you use a term that’s misgendering her. It does not matter if you don’t think you’re misgendering her by using a masculine term in a gender neutral way.

All you are telling her is that you do not care about her as a person and will misgender her as long as you feel like you are justified in doing so, which is the exact same logic used by transphobes in misgendering trans people. You cannot tell someone what their gender is. You cannot see their true gender, better than them, and decide what words you want to use.

When you say you are using bro or dude in a gender neutral way, you are not calming her down. You are telling her that she is to blame for the dysphoria caused by your misgendering.

All you need to do is not use the words she tells you not to use. Oftentimes it’s two words. All you need to do is not call one person two specific words. It’s tiring seeing people willing to die on this hill, defending their right to misgender trans women because they can’t let go of two words for a little bit.

I mean, it's not that many insecurities right?

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Alright one last thing. The Transfem Sonic mod currently only has daytime Sonic. While I would love to see them do werehog Sonic as well, there’s something poignant about having the werehog be male. It was especially so in the Adabat cutscene after Chip regains his memories.

Sonic: “I’ll bet it’s thanks to you. Even when I’m like this, I’m still myself.”

Chip: “You’re too strong to lose yourself.”

(Also let’s just ignore that Dark Gaia’s power making werehog Sonic male could lend itself to some bioessentialist bullshit that transfem people are “still male” at their core, because that’s wrong and I think the positive reading of it I described earlier is better)

While it has not improved my opinion of the game, I have discovered the transfem Sonic mod for Sonic Unleashed Recompiled (thank you for featuring it on your website) and I adore her so much

Working a customer-facing job as a trans person in the current climate should earn you hazard pay and I'm not kidding

posting these Maya fits again for no other reason than I updated her hair (and my signature lmao). anyways which fit is your fave? 👀

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Hi. Just a call to the void that I’d like to see more lesbians in media. Thank you.