Jonahs-human13 - Barely Hanging On To That Tied Knot

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Don't at me.

Astrology observations I made pt 14

DISCLAIMER- Placements will not play out the same way for everyone and having challenging placements + aspects does not mean that you are a bad person or that you will have a bad life. Take what resonates and leave what doesn’t

-people with Uranus in the 11th house will befriend anyone and everyone. From the billionaire to the homeless dude down the street, they respect everybody as a human being and I love them for that

-People with cancer, Pisces Taurus and Libra venuses specifically tend to have a penchant for sweet foods and baked goods

-people with the moon in the first house physically can’t hide their emotions. They may be able to bite their tongue but their facial expressions will tell you everything you need to know before they even think to stop themselves

-people with the moon in the 2nd house find comfort in material things and have the tendency to hoard items they don’t need just because it holds some sort of sentimental value, so their living space is likely to be cluttered

-people with pluto in the 11th house aren’t afraid to cut people off. They’ll burn a bridge while they’re on it just to show you they can swim

-people with Taurus moons may have seen their mother as someone who was more focused on fulfilling their (as in the children) material needs and wants than emotionally bonding with them. Imagine that one parent that’s like “you’re sad? Here I bought you a Gucci purse”

-People with a lot of Scorpio placements and mars-mercury aspects tend to curse a lot. Wash your mouths out with soap, abeg

-people with unfavorable juno-moon or Juno-Venus aspects tend to have really negative attitudes towards marriage. The more failed marriages they witness or hear about, the more those attitudes are internalized, and the harder they become to change

-unfavorable Venus-mars aspects in synastry is a sign of a relationship possibly turning very toxic if the parties involved do not have the emotional intelligence and maturity needed to work through their differences

-when people with Saturn in the 7th house get married before their Saturn return, their marriage dynamic never stays the same afterwards. It could bring the couple closer together or break them up

Scritch

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Being the host is constantly begging for help and then refusing any help offered

All of this.

We knew we had ADHDbrain *long* before diagnosis.

We knew we had BPD *long* before even all the symptoms were showing.

We knew we even were Multiple v. early on (but were gaslit by psychiatry).

You know you better than anyone else.

Gatekeeping culture is like: “don’t get your information online it’s too easy😡!!!” Then offer “find research papers online it’s really easy🙄”

Then block you.

Self diagnosing isn’t TikTok videos and random blogs. It’s literally months to years of research. There’s a lot of reasons why someone can’t get professionally diagnosed.

Misdiagnoses happen a lot

People aren’t taken seriously

It’s expensive asf

Its inaccessible

People want to adopt

People want the right to their bodily autonomy

I’m disappointed when I go online and see my bullies are now nurses. That’s kinda the same thing when I go on here and see professionally diagnosed people who shit on undiagnosed for posting coping mechanisms.

Stop calling people “the problem” for coping. The real issue is people who post any “if you have these… you might have” THATS DANGEROUS. what isn’t dangerous is:

Finding coping mechanisms

Find organization tools to function

Therapy

Talking about experiences

Researching extensively on traits

Documenting

Unmasking

Printing off quizzes or research articles from well established resources (Embracing Autism, ASAN, AIM, awn network, A4A)

Stimming (if it isn’t harming)

Advocating for diagnosis is one thing. Being a bully online is another. It’s a disability not a quirk, a lot of self diagnosed people know it’s a disability. We can identify the actual problems in the self diagnosing community but a lot of us aren’t those.

We’re valid

FOR REAL

(and slight trigger here IG)

In the past, when I-or whatever headmate was fronting at the time-used to used Tumblr, 90% of that very specific time..I was v. NOT sober. But-in that (minus the random mood swings), I was kind of bowled away by the sheer COOLNESS of content, because ...it felt like, PEOPLE THINK LIKE ME.

The other thing I thought was interesting was that I would sort of compile this phase work (of trauma), and voraciously research (somehow intuitively I knew how to seek out what information we needed whenever) topics about how to approach things. I gotta talk it over with the Gatekeepers I think, maybe see if we can access that data.

ok this thought is undercooked and i don’t have my adhd meds so bear with me but i think the reason why neurodivergents are drawn to this site is more or less because the world feels random to us, like everyone else got a manual for Socializing 101 and we didn’t, and so we don’t really know how to fit in or follow the general neurotypical code of conduct or the rules of social exchanges and it can feel isolating and overwhelming. but on tumblr chaos is the norm. like there aren’t any rules here, you don’t have to abide by standard social laws. it feels natural and genuinely enjoyable as a form of social media because we can revel in our weirdness and not be judged (at least not in a way that bears any weight) because we’re on tumblr, we’re all weird here. i think this is also why NDs typically find chaotic jokes funny as opposed to traditional forms of humor. the unexpected is the punchline; you don’t have to look into it for hidden social cues

over coffee with my mom this morning: “sometimes we hesitate to invite people into our life because we feel like our space isn’t good enough yet. things are a little messy, or our place settings don’t match, or our situation isn’t quite what we want it to be. don’t let that stop you. invite people in anyway.”

this post hasn't left my mind since i've first saw it