Bureau Of Biting You

Syscourse Damage

Got a big anonymous message from someone, and I think it has a lot of value! I'd like to make a post by it.

Shout out for those who have been hurt by syscourse, on any side. Those who feel they can't exist in this space without becoming an expert on who they are and every source they could ever provide. Those who have practice reading entire essays in Syscourse just to stay relevant. Those who have been traumatized and retraumatized again by syscourse.

It isn't fair, what systems have to go through in this space. Here are some tips for those struggling with finding a place or peace in this place.

Step away from syscourse. You deserve better than the arguments. Block those who bring it to you, and refuse to engage. You never need to.

If you choose to engage, know that it's not your duty to correct everything. You are just a person! You don't need to be an expert, or a psychologist, or a therapist, or anyone. It isn't your job!!

Recovery is elsewhere. You don't need to recover in syscourse spaces. Leave those spaces and take care of yourself.

Everyone has the potential to be an asshole. Moving past that is the key; acknowledge that there are spaces you may never want to be in again, but there can also be a space for you there as well. Recovery can come.

I don't have much more for today, but know that this space is safe, at least. I also recommend @syscourse-confessions as a good space to offer venting or ideas about syscourse anonymously. :)

“When a flower doesn’t bloom, you fix the environment in which it grows, not the flower.”

— Alexander den Heijer

I think it’d be good if people were more aware that another way true crime can be used for copaganda is that “empathy for victims” can absolutely be exploited to institute increasingly authoritarian police measures.

Like when your crime bill is named “[Murder Victim]’s Law” instead of “Removal of Restriction on Police’s Ability to Collect DNA Without A Warrant” or “Life Sentences For Drug Possession” suddenly any criticism is gonna come off as a posthumous attack on the murder victim and their “legacy” rather than the actual components of the law and how they will effect real people.

y'know what? fuck it! shout out to all my fellow "stereotypes!"

shoutout to my fellow autists who do feel like a kid in an adult’s body because their mind works differently. shoutout to my fellow systems who have alters that lash out, and/or alters of fictives from popular media. shoutout to my fellow bpd folks who get clingy and have abandonment issues. shoutout to the autists who act "robotic" and love trains or dinosaurs. shoutout to the people with OCD/OCPD who do get obsessions with cleanliness and orderliness, who do wash their hands over and over, who do lock and unlock the doors a specific number of times. shoutout to the people struggling with intrusive thoughts that do get the violent ones and the sexual ones, not just the self-injurious ones.

shoutout to my fellow flamboyant gays. shoutout to the lesbians who wear flannel and have buzzcuts. shoutout to the aces who like space and cake and dragons. shoutout to the aces who are stoic and don't have an interest in bonding with people even non-romantically. shoutout to the nbs with neopronouns and names like "star." shoutout to the queers(or otherwise lgbt+ folk if you don't use that term for yourself) who have dyed and cut hair, wear a shitload of pronoun pins, wear a rainbow binder that can be seen, and love talking about how much they love being part of the community.

shoutout to my fellow activists who yell and get mad. shoutout to my fellow activists who bring up the problems in things, even if it means "always making it political." shoutout to the feminists who don't wear bras or shave, and don't get along with men.

shoutout to the men who struggle with emotions. shoutout to the men who love blue and camo and trucks and fixing things and sports and hunting. shoutout to the women who cry easily. shoutout to the women who take hours getting ready. shoutout to the women who love pink and shopping and shoes and cooking and taking care of kids and cleaning.

i'm very white so i'll summarize the next one: shoutout to all the BIPOC fitting into "stereotypes" as well. if anyone who is BIPOC wants to give specific shout outs, go for it!

to anyone who fits these or any other "stereotypes":

You are not a stereotype. You are a person with traits and qualities. You are not doing anything wrong by being true to yourself, whether that means fitting expectations or not.

Anyone who hates whatever group you are in for these "stereotypes" would hate your group regardless; anyone who accuses you of "giving your group a bad name" is deflecting the hate onto you because it's easier to pretend that it's nothing they are doing that gets that hatred; the truth is, bigots are bigots and they will always find a "reason" to be hateful. You trying to avoid "stereotypes" will never change that.

(do not fucking clown on this post. you will not get a debate from me, you will get blocked.)

Hey, I don't know if you remember me (I'm the one with suicidality), but I just wanted to let you know that it's not worth it. I've lived through it with you, and I just want to tell you one thing: living is worth it.

Please.

I know fake claimers aren't good for anyone but here's to the large systems that people claim are faking.

Here's to those with over 100 alters, and those with thousands.

Those with a detailed headspace and those without knowledge of theirs.

Here's to those systems with extreme trauma, and those who can't remember theirs.

Those whose alters don't believe they have trauma.

Those with subpar inner communication, and those with excellent communication.

Those that are polyfragmented, those that have just split a lot.

Shout out to those that don't know the full extent of their system.

Those with inner system relationships.

I know people like to say that large systems are fake, but just remember that they are wrong. Just because they can't imagine the extent of our experiences doesn't mean that we aren't real.

You are real. Your experiences are real.

Don't let people who don't understand your life dictate it.

Izuru (he/him)

Morgue System

Aro Ace and aroace memes

Why do neurotypical people have all these unspoken rules. Why is it considered proper social interaction to be fake. They’re so weird

This breaks my heart wide open

i like to pretend i already died and asked god to send me back to earth so i can swim in lakes again and see mountains and get my heart broken and love my friends and cry so hard in the bathroom and go grocery shopping 1,000 more times. and that i promised i would never forget the miracle of being here