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A major part of many kinky dynamics is a focus on discipline. While “discipline” can be a fun part of your everyday activities, it can also mean something more specific in terms of punishment. “Punishment” differs from the general sense of discipline in that it has a specific goal to focus on that changes a submissive’s behaviour.

Many people engage in what can be called “funishment,”–punishment-type activities, like regular spankings or other forms of play, that are not meant to alter the behaviour of the submissive but rather to provide enjoyment to either/both/all parties. However, it is important to distinguish the difference between playful discipline and serious punishments. Punishments are consequences of negative actions, whether this is based on officially-written regulations or unspoken general behaviours like brattiness, defiance, or dangerous behaviours.

The idea of punishment is based largely on psychological research in the area of behaviourism. It consists of techniques that are supported by science to effectively alter the behaviour of an individual. (If you want to learn more about the research behind punishments, look up B. F. Skinner’s work in this area.)

Two types of punishments exist: positive punishments, which add undesired consequences to the behaviour, and negative punishments, which take away desired privileges.

Now, before I get into some specific ideas for punishments, there are some important key points I’d like to make. Please be sure to read all of these before deciding on a specific punishment.

Punishments do NOT negate the right to a safeword. Some people are mislead into dangerous situations by being told they cannot safeword during a punishment. This is completely untrue. All parties have a right to safeword at any time during any kind of play or punishment. Taking away the right to safeword equates to abuse, plain and simple. Don’t ever tell your partner they cannot safeword or ignore their safeword for the sake of punishment. This is not effective and is extremely harmful to your partner’s mental and/or physical well-being. 

NEVER punish out of anger. Anger is never a healthy motivation for punishment. Punishments are meant for the submissive’s benefit, at the core. If the submissive’s behaviour has made the Dominant angry, they should have a cooling-off period where they can calm down, think about an appropriate punishment, and resolve the matter at a later time, after healthy discussion about what happened.

Limits are NOT to be used as punishments. Many people have activities they don’t particularly enjoy that aren’t on their limits list. Some people have specific ideas for punishments that suit them best. However, regardless of you or your partner’s experience with punishments, it needs to be understood that hard limits are not punishments. Hard limits are never to be used for punishment’s sake because “hard limit” means “I do not want to do this under any circumstance.” Using a hard limit as a punishment would be an abusive act, as hard limits come with an automatic safeword attached, since they are specificly stated as things the person does not feel comfortable with. Never, ever, threaten or use hard limits to punish a submissive. 

Use healthy discretion. This one should seem obvious, but don’t follow through with punishments if rule-breaking was out of the submissive’s control. Say the submissive has a 11PM bedtime, but they recently suffered a trauma or loss and can’t sleep. Let them engage in healthy coping skills instead of punishing them for something they aren’t doing on purpose. Above all else, make safety and well-being a priority.

Make the punishment fit the crime. Punishments that are relative to the defiance are much more effective at changing the behaviour than random punishments. For example, if the submissive cums without permission, try a punishment from the “orgasm control” section. This will better reinforce the reasoning in the submissive and more effectively guide them to make better choices in the future. There are also punishments that work best for specific dynamics like for littles or pets, so be sure to read into those, below.

Aftercare is absolutely required. Like any kind of play, aftercare is required at the end of the scene. This is especially important during punishments because often times, the submissive is consumed with feelings of guilt and disappointment. After a punishment, Dominants need to give their submissives aftercare that includes a conversation about why they were punished, how proud the Dominant is for them taking the punishment so well, and that there are no negative feelings between them. The submissive should leave the punishment scene feeling forgiven for their mistakes and proud of themselves for making things right with their Dominant. Do not leave your submissive alone after a punishment without aftercare, ever! This is highly abusive and can seriously harm your partner.

Humiliation

A great way to get a submissive to stay in line is to humiliate them when they’ve done something wrong. There are several ways to go about this, depending on your dynamic and kinks, but it’s an effective and amusing way to get the message across. 

Clothing Restriction

Clothing restriction can be done both domestically and in public. Restriction can be as much as not allowing any clothing (in legal or private settings), ordering a certain amount of skin be showing, or choosing a specific outfit or collar for the submissive. For shy submissives, clothing restriction can be intense. This is an especially good punishment for submissives who have said negative comments about their bodies.

Diapering

For ABDL or little submissives, this can either be a reward or a punishment. Depending on the comfort level with diapers, they can be used as a punishment that ties into humiliation. Making them relieve themselves in only the diaper for a set amount of time or wearing it around the house as their only clothing can be very humiliating for some people.

Sissification

Sissification is a kink that is most common in submissive men. It’s the act of dolling a man up like a girl and humiliating him based on his presentation as such. This can be very effective for some people but can be very problematic to others. Be careful not to use this kink as punishment with trans or gender non-conforming subs without their explicit consent, as it can very easily trigger dysphoria and cause severe emotional problems. 

Public Humiliation

Public humiliation can be done in any subtle way that embarrasses a submissive without breaking any obvious laws. Some examples include making them wear an anal plug or remote-controlled vibrator to dinner, public leashing, or making them kneel at social gatherings. Work this idea into the submissive’s specific kinks and limits to be sure it’s just enough to embarrass them, without making them unbearably uncomfortable.

Orgasm Control

Orgasm control is simply that–controlling the submissive’s orgasms. Most of these types of punishments are used for submissives who break rules about orgasms, be it without permission or when they were told not to touch themselves. Controlling orgasms is an amusing way to teach the submissive who their orgasms belong to.

Edging

Edging is the act of getting your partner right to the edge of orgasm, then denying them release. This can be done multiple times, even in short amounts of time. It’s a little psychological torture, best for those who cum without permission.

Toy Restriction

For a submissive, like myself, who is accustomed to using toys during masturbation or play, toy restriction is a very effective punishment. This is especially good for submissives who have a difficult time reaching orgasm without toys, as it makes things very frustrating very quickly. An evil punishment may even combine toy restrictions with a quota of orgasms for the day that they must reach in order to get off restriction. Desperation will sink in very quickly and this lesson will be easily learned.

Forced Orgasms

Forced orgasm is another great punishment for submissives who cum without permission. It turns a great sensation into a torturous experience very quickly. This is especially great with toys like the Hitachi or a Sybian. Focus on a goal–either for number of orgasms, or a specific amount of time. An hour spent riding a Hitachi can really be the most agonizing thing for some people due to heightened sensitivity after each orgasm. 

Denial

Denial is the complete opposite of forced orgasms. It’s like edging, but there is no orgasm at the end of the scene. This can be doing while using toys and not allowing the person to orgasm or it can be done by restriction orgasms or even touching oneself for a longer period of time.

Chastity

Chastity, much like denial, is the refusal of orgasms. However, with chastity, the submissive is completely unable to touch themselves, even if they wanted to. Devices for people with penises and vaginas are available to purchase online to assure your submissive is following orders properly.

Domestic Discipline

Domestic discipline includes things that can be done within the home. Some of these include behaviour modifications or restrictions. While some of these can be done outside the home, these are good examples of things for couples who live together can do for punishments.

Chores

Chores not only benefit the entire household, but they can also be an effective punishment for unruly subs. Added chores can be especially fun if you make her clean the bathroom with a toothbrush or make him do dishes with nipple clamps on. Combine with other punishments for your amusement!

Furniture Restriction

Especially fun for people into pet-play, furniture restriction involves limiting where the submissive can sit or lie down. Require that they sit on the ground instead of the couches or sleep on the floor next to the bed if they’ve been defiant.

Caging

Another good one for pets, especially. Caging can be used to make the submissive reflect on their reasons for being punished. Be sure to use a cage small enough to confine them, but still large enough so they aren’t going to hurt themselves by spending too much time in the cage.

Bedtime

A great one for littles! Bedtimes are good for college students who don’t do their homework, or easily distracted adults with work to do. Set up rules that require all obligations get done and enforce an early bedtime to be sure they are well-rested (and easily frustrated) when they don’t follow these rules.

Time-Out

Another punishment for reflection. Time-outs are good for brats and littles because it makes them analyze what they did wrong. Put them in a corner or a special “time-out chair” so they know they are being punished. Increase the time or add in other punishments if they break rules more than once.

Sensory Deprivation

Sensory deprivation is a lot like time-out, but can be used for added psychological torment. Plug the submissive’s ears or use headphones, blindfold them, bind them to a bed or chair, and completely ignore them for a set about of time. This desensitizes them and not only makes them reflect on their reasons for punishment, but makes it very uncomfortable, assuring they won’t want to end up in isolation again.

Objectification

Objectification is fun for Dominants who like their submissives in service to them during punishment. Make them kneel and become your footstool or coffee table while you watch TV or catch up on work. This is even better when you make them do it completely naked and/or in front of guests.

Dietary Restriction

If a submissive has done something against the rules, you can make them follow a strict diet. This is especially useful for those using behaviour modification to lose or gain weight. However, be careful to ensure the submissive is still getting enough nutrition. For littles, see how much they want to be a brat after you take away their dessert privilege. For pets, try making them eat out of a bowl on the floor for each meal.

Speech Restriction

For disrespectful submissives, punish them by taking away their right to a personal pronoun, making them refer to themselves as “this girl,” “Your slut,” “Master’s puppy boy,” or anything else you want to use. You can also make it a rule that they must refer to you by your Dominant title at all times, even in public. Having to remember their restrictions on speech will keep them thinking about their punishment all day.

Corporal Punishment

Corporal punishment is enforcement by physical contact. These types of punishments involve pain, which is a tricky subject for punishing. Typically, pain punishments don’t work as well to change behaviour, especially if the submissive is also a masochist. Be sure to carefully choose what kind of pain if you’re going with one of these methods.

Impact

If your submissive likes thuddy pain, use stingy pain. If they like stingy pain, use thuddy. Push their limits carefully, but make it clear this is a punishment and not for fun. Have them apologize as you strike them. Tell them why they are being punished and make it clear that they are to be good and learn from their mistakes. 

Rice Kneeling

Kneeling on uncooked rice is an age-old technique that leaves painful marks. Be careful with time, as this can scar if done for long periods of time or used constantly. Be present during this to be sure the submissive can take it and listen carefully for safewords. Use this as a time out or have them recite an apology to you as you do this.

Figging

Figging is done by carving a plug out of ginger and inserting into the anus. This causes a stinging pain that ranges in intensity depending on the person. Frozen ginger is a milder form of this punishment.

Writing Assignments

Writing assignments are usually meant to bore a submissive into obedience. Whether it’s writing lines or a random homework assignment, the punishment focuses on making it undesirable for the submissive to misbehave.

Lines

Writing lines is effective if you use it reflectively. For example, for a submissive who is disrespectful, you can have him write, “I will always be polite around my Sir,” a hundred times. For a submissive who cums without permission, you can order, “I will ask permission from Mistress before I cum,” until they fill up five pages. What’s even more fun is making them be stuffed with a toy or on their knees with nipple clamps on while they write.

Apology Letter

An apology letter is a simple task meant to make the submissive think about what they have done, analyze why it was wrong, and have them apologize formally by writing it down. Have them read their letter to you our loud or crumple it up and put in their their underwear for that added perk of remembering all day that they were punished.

Essay

An essay is a good assignment for submissives who don’t seem to understand their rules. Make them come up with reasons as to why these rules are in place and write a formal essay about the reasoning and purpose of these rules. Making them analyze the fact that this is for their benefit will remind them that rules are not just there to be mean, but to guide them to healthier behaviour.

Homework

Especially fun for people with school girl or teacher fantasies, assign a random homework assignment. Ever wonder about a certain subject but never have time to actually research it? Assign a paper to your submissive about a subject of your choosing and have them report back to you–because knowledge is power! Grade their paper and reward/punish again as necessary for the quality of their work.

It’s important to remember that reinforcements are also important in addition to punishments. When your submissive follows directions, reward them. Give them a treat or praise them and thank them for being so good. If you mix positive reinforcement with punishments when necessary, they’re sure to be trained in no time!

xx SF

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My Dom Shows Me Respect By...

Hearing me out even when he disagrees with me.

Backing off when I say something is really too much.

Keeping his ego in check when making decisions for us. 

Respecting my limits.

Loving me for being me.   

Handling tough discussions with care and a calm tone of voice. 

Being my safe place. 

Staying on top of his responsibilities within our relationship.

Seeing value in my personality, including the soft, cautious and sensitive parts.

Double-checking his views or decisions if I voice concerns.

Following the D/s hierarchy. 

Recognizing and accepting our differences. 

Working hard to earn my trust. 

Holding me accountable. 

Understanding that somedays submission is hard. 

Using D/s to help me grow in ways I find meaningful.  

Believing in me.

Showing up to support, guide, or discipline me as needed, even when it’s hard.  

Trusting that I am trying even when I fall short. 

Giving me boundaries. 

Protecting my sensitive heart. 

Being patient with me. 

Setting goals for me that are achievable. 

Building me up. 

Considering his impact on me. 

Trusting me. 

Being dedicated to me. 

Encouraging me to say ‘no’ when I need to. 

Doing his best to make the best decisions. 

Staying loyal to me.

Speaking kindly of me.  

Advocating for what is best for me. 

Caring about my pleasure. 

Being clear about what he expects from me. 

Analyzing his perspectives, beliefs, and actions regularly. 

Being open and honest with me.

Forgiving me when I make mistakes.

Viewing us as a team.

Keeping his promises and commitments. 

Remembering the value of my submission. 

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Facts, #mood

FACETIME

I have had this craving all day So I’m playing no games

Bring all that sexy over here and mount it on my face

Not trying to be all I nice and neat

I want both of your hands filled with sheets

Matter of fact I want your hands gripping me

Pulling me into your pussy

Embrace me with your kitty

Grinding your supple mound on my full lips

Greasing my face with your moisture

Grabbing the back of my head while I grip them ass cheeks

Watching as your legs shutter from me slurping your lips

I feel your pussy squeezing my tongue as my finger slides in your ass

You moan louder as the pleasure is consuming you

Your sweet juices are all in and on my shit

I take pride in this

FACETIME

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102 reasons female orgasm denial is the best

Feminists have promoted orgasms as a liberation for women but it’s the exact opposite. Orgasms make women slave to their desires, always craving for immediate reward. Freeing them from this burden opens their mind to the fulfilling role of anal only sluts. 

Found this here and could not agree more : 

I like to be denied and I’m proud of it 🙂 I’m also a woman and a feminist so I find it a bit disappointing that looking around one only finds smut and information on denial and chastity for men. So here are my reasons for denial rights :

1. I have no moral right to enjoy the same pleasures as a Dominant man. 2. I have no right to refuse pain, discomfort or frustration from my Master. 3. Permanent Orgasm Denial is safe and sane and is therefore fully within the rights of the Master. 4. Slaves have no automatic entitlement to pleasure. 5. Whether I orgasm or not should never be my decision. 6. Dominants should have the right to orgasm whenever and however they choose. 7. I have no physical need to orgasm and therefore no right to.

Service 8. Orgasms make me unwilling to serve and obey and are therefore counterproductive. 9. Denial makes me more subservient and willing to do domestic work. 10. Denial helps me to see all forms of service as being of equal importance. 11. Denial helps me prioritize service to others above pleasure for myself. 12. Denial makes me easier to train and control. 13. Denial makes me more willing and able to quickly get up and continue serving after being used sexually. 14. Denial makes me more eager to find a Dominant to serve and submit to. 15. Denial allows me to serve fully without expectations of my own pleasure.

Downsides of Orgasms 16. Orgasms make me bossy, manipulative and self-serving. 17. Orgasms make me bratty, disobedient and demanding. 18. Orgasms make me spoiled, greedy and needful. 19. Orgasms make me selfish, lethargic and unsubmissive. 20. Denial prevents mood swings caused by fluctuating sexual arousal and the highs and lows of orgasms.

Better in Bed 21. Being aroused makes me more fun to play with. 22. Most Dominant men prefer to fuck a very aroused submissive. 23. Being very aroused makes me more eager for and responsive to sex. 24. Denial makes me a better sex slave as I am not distracted by the hope of my own orgasm. 25. Denial allows the Dominant to focus on his own pleasure during sex. 26. Denial allows the Dominant to enjoy sexual relief without the pressure of being required to perform. 27. Denial gives Dominant an additional way in which to pause and enjoy my suffering. 28. Denial makes me equally happy to be used in my arse or mouth or to be cum on. 29. Denial makes it easier to accept being used by others when a Dominant requires it. 30. Being denied ensures that I have less self-imposed limitations and expectations about play and sex. 31. Denial helps me give complete sexual control and obedience to those who Dominate me. 32. Denial ensures that I am physically ready whenever and however a Dominant wishes to use me. 33. Lack of submissive expectations about pleasure ensures that the Dominant does not feel judged, compared or rejected sexually. 34. Denial makes me see sex as a privilege and not a right. 35. Denial allows the Dominant’s sexual preferences to take full priority. 36. Denial helps me focus on the pleasure of the Dominant instead of my own physical sensations. 37. A lack of concern for my pleasure and satisfaction gives more options to those who use me. 38. Denial reminds me that my preferences are not the limit of how I can be used, sexually. 38b. Denial makes my pussy tighter, giving more pleasure to my Owner.

Benefits to the Relationship 39. Denial will help me bond with my Master by establishing a constant feeling of connection, submission and control. 40. Denial ensures my faithfulness and commitment as casual partners are unlikely or unable to offer the orgasm denial that I need. 41. Permanent Orgasm Denial is an intense, rare and unique experience which will ensure a deep and powerful bond between me and those who enforce it. 42. Denial ensures a contented submissive who is not anxious about her own pleasure. 43. A happy Master is essential for a happy relationship.

Objectification 44. My sexual organs, including the clitoris, should be at the service of Dominant men at all possible times. 45. Sex is for the Dominant’s pleasure, not the slave’s. 46. It is not appropriate for a slave to lose self-control whilst serving a Dominant. 47. A slave’s body belongs to her Master and He decides how it is used. 48. My holes belong to those who use them and are for their pleasure only. 49. Serving anally and orally will help me focus on the pleasure of those who are using me. 50. My body can be used to give pleasure, enjoyment, and satisfaction to others, even when I dislike what is being done with it. 51. Denial helps me appreciate the utility, femininity, and submissiveness of my body.

Better at Taking Pain 52. Denial makes me more willing and able to take pain to please others. 53. Denial accustoms me to the reality of slavery that is physically painful or difficult. 54. Denial makes me desire pain to deal with the sexual frustration.

Altruism 55. My orgasms do not benefit anyone else and are therefore unnecessary. 56. My own pleasure is irrelevant to how much pleasure and satisfaction I can give to others. 57. Slaves are inferior to Dominants and do not deserve to orgasm. 58. Denial of orgasm is a small price to pay for the privilege of being Owned and enslaved. 59. Denial helps me to enjoy service and submission in their own right, and not just as payback for sexual pleasure. 60. Both parties working towards the Dominant’s pleasure creates harmony of purpose and avoids conflict of interest. 61. Denial helps me to appreciate the beauty, dominance, and eroticism of the male orgasm. 62. My denial pleases and arouses Dominants who enjoy this fetish. 63. Denial prevents me from favoring only the sexual and s&m activities which are likely to cause me pleasure. 64. Denial makes me more willing to try things that may not be pleasurable or desirable for me. 65. I am more useful as a slave when my enjoyment is of no concern to myself or others. 66. Denial makes me less judgmental about serving and pleasuring others. 67. Physical arousal caused by denial enables me to pleasure more men, making me more useful as a slave.

Submissive Mindstate 68. Denial helps me to see myself as a total and permanent slave. 69. Sexual frustration is a constant reminder of my submission. 70. Denial causes me to remember and focus on the non-physical and non-pleasurable aspects of submission. 71. Denial trains me to give up control of my body, even when single. 72. Denial helps me appreciate the power and privileges of Dominant males. 73. Denial shows Dominants that I am willing to serve and be obedient. 74. Orgasms are unnatural and unsubmissive for slaves.

The Pleasures of Denial 75. Sexual frustration makes me emotionally happier and more subservient. 76. Extreme arousal is fun to play with! 77. Permanent Orgasm Denial is a great reward which I should seek and hope to experience. 78. Denial is an amazing gift of arousal and control from a Dominant and should always be treasured and appreciated. 79. Denial gives me freedom from my own sexual dictates.

Denial Improves Me as a Person 80. Being denied for long periods gives me discipline and self-control. 81. Learning not to obsess about my own orgasm makes me a better, more well-rounded person. 82. Denial saves time that would be wasted on masturbation. 83. Denial prevents me from prioritizing short-term satisfaction over long-term growth and development as a submissive. 84. Denial helps me choose Dominants on the basis of giving service rather than receiving sexual pleasure. 85. Realizing that I cannot and should not have everything I want is good for my humility.

Denial as a Natural State 86. Denial is not an irregular restriction but a natural and permanent state for a slave. 87. Women have no physical need to orgasm. 88. Female orgasms are unnecessary for impregnation. 89. My orgasm serves no biological purpose. 90. Intense sexual arousal is a preferable and healthy state for adult females. 91. Denial of orgasm has been a normal state for women throughout history. 92. Sexual arousal is designed to persuade women to accept penetration from an aroused adult male. 93. Orgasms not resulting directly from insemination are unnatural and require correction. 94. My orgasm is designed to take place only after a male has ejaculated deep inside my vagina. 95. Female orgasms are designed to prevent sex from occurring after successful impregnation. 96. Female orgasms triggered by sodomy are abnormal and should be avoided. 97. Female sexual arousal is necessary to ensure breeding, unlike female orgasms. 98. Lack of sexual arousal after orgasm is an undesirable and temporary state. 99. Anal sex is a natural alternative for those wishing to avoid impregnation. 100. It is not natural for a woman to touch her sexual organs except when cleaning herself. 101. Denial causes physical arousal and lubrication prior to sex and is, therefore, natural and to be encouraged for women. 102. My arousal serves no purpose if it does not lead to impregnation.