My Utopia

I soooooo want some!

OMG  what a great time this was.  

Love this pic

Wolf - you need to control your sub from putting pictures of other dudes on her blog. A dom like you should never allow that.

I usually ignore this subject, but just need to say this.

First, why try to control your partner’s sexuality?  It is what it is.  That’s like a prison to only allow her to express things that satisfy your ego or lack of confidence.  That’s weakness from a Dom to tell a sub to suppress her sexuality with “you can only like what I am comfortable with.”  It’s also weak to assume that you embody everything that encompasses her sexuality.  It’s 2018 and the days of suppressing women’s sexuality and shaming them for exploring it is over.  Way over.  As a Dom, whatever is inside her you should know and learn and draw it out.

Next, speaking of what is inside a woman.  It’s multiple layers of emotional, mental, physical and visual things.  And it changes and evolves and regresses at times as well.  Women like all sorts of things that may bother you.  Like “big dick”, “gang bang” or “gay porn”. As well as many other taboo kinks.  Go do a google search on what women are looking at online sexually, you might be surprised some of it has nothing to do with you.  And that is OK.  Don’t have such a fragile ego.

Allow her to be her and support that 100%.  Encourage it.  Even tease her about it some.  You can still be her Dominant.  Would you want her to secretly be looking at things and into things that she hides from you?  If she cannot express herself to you then I would bet she will to someone else eventually.

Back off and let her like what she likes.

Sit back and enjoy women expressing their sexuality on Tumblr dude. It’s one of the most fucking amazing things ever. I love it. And you should too.

Hell yeah!

*note: please honor this caption by reblogging it WITH the attached article.  I’m usually okay when something I have written has been taken away from the intended caption.  It bothers me some because of the work put into combining both the caption and the writing, but I kind of get it–pictures speak louder than words.  BUT, I don’t want this one to be turned into something I never intended it to be.  So, if you reblog, please honor this wish. 

What Does a Girly Boy Need?

There are many things that Girly Boys need.  We need panties, clothes, shoes, etc.  Yes, we need sex too.  But none of that is what this posting is about–at least not completely.

I have found that there are some things that I need in my girly boy life that are important.  When it comes down to it, I don’t think we can call most of these essentials, yet they are certainly emotional and affirming.  I have no doubt that you could add to the list.  Feel free to do so if you choose to share the article and caption.  It’s not my complete list, but I think it’s a good one.  Here we go…

1) A Girly Drawer:  I remember what it was like handing my fiance a key to my house.  It was actually quite innocent, but it was something very special.  It was a way for me to say “You are welcome here any time.”  It was also very special when she, now my wife, offered a small drawer in her clothes chest for me to store my growing collection of panties and what few bras I have.  That was her way of saying, “You are welcome to wear panties, any time (even though there are some limits).”  For other items, I have boxes stored in secret places.  But knowing that I have my own girly drawer is a stamp of acceptance.

2) Girly Space and Time: As much as I talk about being girly, someone might think that I live in girliness 24/7.  In heart, perhaps so.  It’s just not possible in my circumstances.  To have a space to dress, act, move, talk, and feel girly is second to none.  Add to that, some extended time in girliness, and it’s like a dream come true.  I get a lot of space and time in my early morning workouts where Candie is free to be fit and girly and left alone.  But then there are some other special spaces and times like outings, drives, and, though I have never experienced one, crossdressing meet-ups.  A girly boy needs time and space to be girly. It’s never enough to have ultra-private, quickie, secretive, dress-up sessions.  Not everybody can afford to be openly forward, but none of us needs to feel isolated or backwards.  Having time and space is another cue of acceptance.

3) Girly Friend(s): I’m lucky enough that my wife is my safe person with whom I can be girly.  Be sure of it, she still wants her man and I am more than happy to oblige.  I have needed her in my girly life.  I didn’t realize that until everything became open between us.  Having someone special with whom you can share your femininity openly is not only fun, it’s relaxing and freeing.  A friend who accepts your girliness is always a bestie.

4) Girly Entertainment:  I wasn’t sure how to label this one.  I was thinking of chick flicks, spa days, shopping trips, window browsing, nature walks, girls nights, etc.  It’s not just having space and time and a friend.  It’s more than tagging along as a boy.  It’s doing girl-like things in girlish ways the way girls would do girl things.  Girly boys need experiences because they will learn more on a girly adventure than they could ever learn from reading a blog article about five things that a girly boy needs.

5) Girly Terms of Endearment: It might not seem like a big one, but it is.  I’ve written above what is basically matters of acceptance–the need to be accepted.  When my wife calls me “Her girly boy,” “girly”, “girl”, “sissy”, “little cheerleader”, “pretty boy”, “lesbian sex kitten”, etc. it is her way of giving my girly self some acknowledgement, which, in my opinion, is a step beyond acceptance.  Yes, she has called me those things!  Well, except “lesbian sex kitten”.  Interestingly, I can’t recall that she has ever called me Candie.  I won’t push that one.  It’s enough to know that she acknowledges this special part of me because she is acknowledging all of me.  I need that, so yes, this is a big one!

That’s all that I’ll take time to write out and it’s probably more than you cared to read.  I appreciate you all so very much.  It may be online, anonymous, and we may never meet face to face, but you all give me acceptance and acknowledgement.  I thank you for that!

Have a precious weekend my girly friends!

CandieHart 

Im the one on the left!

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