I Think The Normalization Of Laying Out Your Own Sexual Trauma As A Pre-amble To A (typically Anti-kink)

i think the normalization of laying out your own sexual trauma as a pre-amble to a (typically anti-kink) argument is a really dangerous discussion format that we should not be legitimizing. even beyond the fact that experiencing trauma in no way makes you a kinder, smarter, or better person, the demand that we re-open wounds and bare our vulnerabilities as "victim credentials" to (usually hostile) strangers is a bad bad bad fucking expectation to legitimize. i understand the desire to elevate survivors' voices and this absolutely has a place re: conversations about remedial justice and survivor resources. but the idea that one's understanding of systems of sexual violence can only be confirmed by falling victim to them and later willingly offering that trauma to others is equal parts fallacious and dangerous, and it further insults those of us whose advocacy and understanding come from years of study, research, and work, not from our victimization at the hands of another person. i understand it's the impulse to fire back when reactionaries open and end cap every argument with a gratuitous statement of trauma qualifications but you Cannot be ceding ground on this -- not just for reasons of intellectual integrity, but also because your fellow survivors deserve the right to advocate for our lives and communities without being expected to first divulge voyeuristic personal trauma narratives

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kermit-and-co

5 months ago

THIS MOMENT WAS HILARIOUS 😂

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kermit-and-co

5 months ago

Do not really know what to say. A year ago we were making posts about how Gaza was being bombed through Christmas- how the oldest Christian community was being bombed- how the birth place of Jesus was being destroyed and his people murdered. A year later, it is going to be Christmas again soon, and the bombings have not stopped. But the news, and the attention seems to have died down considerably. It feels terrible and scary.

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kermit-and-co

2 years ago

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kermit-and-co

2 years ago

you misunderstand. blorbo from your shows is flat and cringe. blorbo from my shows is full of fascinating depth, perfect writing and infinitely nuanced acting, and deserves, no, needs to be talked about ad nauseum for months on end.

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kermit-and-co

7 months ago

great question. while a lot of these gofundmes started to fund evacuations, since the border will not open they have shifted to covering the costs of daily survival in gaza

the cost of food alone in gaza right now has been reported by journalists on the ground (including @siraj2024) to be 20 times the normal price.

and it varies based on location. the north is currently being starved by the IOF so food prices are higher

and there is a lot of evidence on tumblr that proves that these fundraisers do help

@ma7moudgaza2 was able to buy a tent for his family and is currently trying to pay for a solar panel

@siraj2024 was able to secure rent for a (bombed out, but still) apartment for his family over the winter

@mohdiwais was able to fund medical care for his sister after she was shot by the IOF using funds he raised on tumblr

a gaza-based charity called care for gaza has also been directly assisting families with funds used from their gofundme. they even post videos of themselves giving out food

and those are just a few examples. hope this helped!

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kermit-and-co

2 years ago

If I was in it it would be called breaking good

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kermit-and-co

4 months ago