My Dear Lgbt+ Kids, 

My dear lgbt+ kids, 

Let’s talk about safety on first dates. 

If you meet up with someone you met online (on a dating app or otherwise), you’ll probably have your safety in mind anyway. After all, you’re essentially meeting up with a total stranger and no matter how sweet they were online, they could be completely different in person. But even if you go on a date with someone you already know: dating is a vulnerable situation. It’s always better to keep some safety measures in mind, so it can be a comfortable experience. 

Some things to consider: 

Tell a trusted friend about the date. (If you’re a minor, tell an adult.) Let them know who you are meeting, where you’ll meet them and when you expect to be back. If you are closeted, it’s better to lie and say you’re meeting an online friend than to not tell anyone at all! 

Choose a public location where other people are present. A coffee shop or a busy park are great options. 

It’s best to not rely on your date for a ride back home. Arrange your own transportation, so you have the freedom to cut the date short on your own terms. (This still applies if you don’t have your own car! Look up public transportation schedules and take enough money with you to be able to call a cab if necessary.) 

Don’t get drunk. You may think some drinks will ease your nerves, but it’ll also make you less aware of your surroundings and impair your judgement. 

Never leave your beverage unattended. Get a new one if you lost sight of it. (Spiking a beverage with a date rape drug can happen within seconds, and you won’t necessarily be able to taste or see that it has been tampered with!) 

If your date refuses to agree on safety measures (for example, they insist on meeting up at their house and get upset when you explain you want to meet up in a public space), take that as a red flag. Obviously this doesn’t have to mean they plan on murdering you, but it definitely shows that they’re not considerate and respectful of your boundaries. 

Don’t be afraid to „make a scene“. If your date is trying to coerce or intimidate you into something you don’t feel comfortable with, if they’re touching you against your will etc., you don’t need to be polite. Draw attention to the situation. Get loud. Call for help. Scream. Don’t worry about being „rude“, do what you need to do to get away from a dangerous situation. 

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Dad

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these are my experiences with top surgery if anyone is debating whether or not they want it. for me, every day i lie shirtless in peace. greatest decision ive ever made

10 months ago

@staff

BAN THE BOTS

it’s not the responsibility of us tumblr users to continually report the p0rn bots in the asexual tag. It is YOUR JOB to do that. You are actively neglecting your responsibilities by not doing anything about this. Please show us that you’re not negligent, and that you can actually do your jobs.

to the users reading this: make your own posts calling out the staff for this, and fill them with as many queer tags as possible. We aces have allies in other people in the queer community, and the more people who see these posts and learn about the bots, the more pressure on staff there will be, and the sooner they’ll take action.

9 months ago

so I kinda did something . . .

So I Kinda Did Something . . .

I mean you asked for a fem Jay so I delivered…

ninjago fandom needs to draw more fem jay i dont make the rules


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You are a scientist working for NASA. In the middle of a well-deserved vacation, your relaxing week off is interrupted by a short, urgent text message from one of your colleages: “PLUTO HATCHED.”

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9 months ago

I need headcannons for Ninjago: Masters of Spinjitzu: Prime Empire!!

(TW: Su1cide)

I have a character that I will absolutely torment and tease so much and it’s literally me just looking and named different. They are so caught up in their oblivious love they don’t notice Jay likes him too, even if a small amount he doesn’t notice either. JAY AND NYA NEVER BECAME YING/YANG IN THIS. When they do? Kervin, oh poor Kervin is just about ready to kill himself. But anyway. I need headcannons for what will happen in Prime Empire, because Kervin goes into the game with Jay at the beginning.

here are some of mine

and yes these canons will apply to a book I’m writing okay??

Headcannons time!!::

Kervin (OC) and Jay share an apartment together (bunk beds, same room and everything. One bedroom, one kitchen, one bath and a single TV lol. It’s surprisingly clean for how cheap it was.)

Kervin and Jay grow their friendship immensely. Kervin really gets to see why he likes Jay so much.

A week in the game city (I forgot what it was called don’t come after me lol /joke) is a day in Ninjago cuz I just love time differences/skips

Kervin starts accidentally showing feelings but quickly covers them up. But Jay noticed some ;)

Jay will be smarter cuz they made him a stupid lil virgin once they changed character designs.

I also need some for other seasons but I haven’t gotten that far lol. I was watching Prime Empire today and It occurred to me I should make a fan-fiction so these are the ones I’m comfortable posting. Please give me some more headcannons too!

9 months ago

Okay so I was on Pinterest and

Okay So I Was On Pinterest And
Okay So I Was On Pinterest And
Okay So I Was On Pinterest And
Okay So I Was On Pinterest And
Okay So I Was On Pinterest And

I found all this stuff and I don't know about you but it kind of seems like something Argos might wear-

(also if there's an artist who agrees and is in the twomp fandom can you please draw Argos in some of this stuff not forcing only if you want to)

7 months ago

Reblog to give a trans woman a delicious Cuban sandwich

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can we stop pretending like it’s so super easy for trans men to pass. “oh just put on a baggy shirt and cut your hair-“ it literally doesn’t work like that and I refuse to believe you actually think it’s that easy

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