How I Teach Men Not To Talk Over Me: from one feminist to another, when basic respect is lagging and conversations are impossible
I’ve done this to several men, and they catch on rather quickly. You’ll be able to have a conversation right then and there, and it works long term too - they might’ve forgot their manners by the time you talk to them again, but by repeating this, they’ll eventually learn to let you talk without you having to do this at the start of every convo. Source: I have a very stubborn older brother, who eventually learned too.
1. When they interrupt you, stop talking. Don’t try to raise your voice or battle them. Be completely quiet and wait.
2. Ignore everything they’re saying. Do not actually listen - just wait until they shut up. Don’t make a point of anything they say, do not answer to anything they say, do not refer to anything they say here. Literally do not listen a single word. Let them rant as long as they want.
3. When they finally shut up and wait for your reaction, say: ”I wasn’t done talking.”
4. Start over whatever you were saying when they interrupted you. I don’t care if it was a 10-minute explanation of rocket science. Start. Over. Repeat you original thought, but do not add anything related to what they just said while talking over you. That gives them the idea that it’s okay to interrupt you, you’ll still listen and pay attention and they’ll get their point clear without having to listen to yours. (It’s especially funny when you get done and they expect you to keep going talking about whatever they talked over you. The face when it sinks in that you didn’t listen a single word is glorious.)
5. If they interrupt you again, return to step 1. If you find yourself repeating the cycle over 3 times, tell them: ”you’re not letting me speak. Either you listen and wait for your turn, or our conversation ends here.” If they try to make excuses, laugh it off or keep interrupting, end the conversation. Prove them that if they wont let you speak, they’re not worth your time.
Why does this work? First, because sometimes talking over is internalized and men don’t actually notice they’re doing it. Being vocally called out makes them realize it and pay attention to it - especially if it happens more than once. Secondly, by refusing to aknowledge anything they say when they interrupt you, they’ll soon realize they will not get their own point across if they keep doing that. Peoole and especially men have the need to be heard and paid attention to when they talk - when you make it clear that by talking over you, they will not have your attention, they’ll learn to wait until you’re done, because they know that’s when you will be paying attention and actually listening.
Go my darlings. Have some actual conversations where your point of view is just as valid as his. Demand the basic respect of being heard. You can actually have some interesting conversations with men when they’re forced to listen too, when being louder is not going to make them feel like they’re dominating the conversation or winning the argument.
This beast is finally done o(-(
we were supposed to animate a page from a children’s storybook for class, and like a chump I chose the highly complex illustrations of Beatrix Potter;;;;;;
Anyways, I actually really like how this came out, especially for how much time I had (a week) and how little experience i have with this program :0
Lol but so true XD
They said watering Lisa DID have consequences,
(How I see the pricefield/grahmfield shipping war)
First of all, I love this quote. Secondly, I LOVE Eren’s eyes, and I had to try my hand at them myself.
Two versions, with and without text. Hope you like it! :)
Refrence that promise tho
People say, “How can you ship NaruSaku?”
JUST LOOK AT HOW CUTE AND DORKY THEY ARE.
them: you don’t watch game of thrones?? really? how come?
me:
Unpopular opinion: What I hate to see (but probably will happen anyways lol cuz Shonen manga you know) is Armin and Mikasa forgive Eren after knowing his “true intentions”. In chapter 116 it is made clear that Armin and Mikasa start to realize Eren’s words cannot be taken at face value, and Jean and Connie remind them they are still the most important people to Eren. A protagonist deliberately acts as a villain, hurts himself and everyone around him but in fact sincerely aims for good for his friends — this is such a trope in Shonen manga. The ones who are hurt will eventually embrace their friendship again, and thus their bonds strengthened *Eyes my poor son Killua as well as Naruto and Sakura*. Imo it is also not a good plot design if Isayama amends the rupture between EMA so soon after their argument (which is written so heartbreakingly that you keep wondering how can they even go back to what they used to be.) In the end it will feel like the shiganshina separation leaves no imprint in the entire story.
Send A Symbol To Explain Why We’re Not RPing Yet
♔- I can’t think of a plot for us and I want to figure that out first! ☃ - I’m not sure how our characters would meet. ☁- I’m worried you only RP with a certain group of people. ♛ - I wrote you a starter and you haven’t replied yet… ★ - I’m intimidated by how much you write ☂ - I’m intimdated by how often you post ☾ - I don’t know how to approach you ☄ - I’m super anxious about EVERYTHING ☀ - I keep hoping you’ll message me first…
Eren’s reason to “live” and “fight” was always “taking his freedom back/revenge” but he proved multiple times that he cherish his loved once more than his own freedom (sacrificing himself for armin , keeping silent to protect historia..etc).
So is it freedom that keeps him struggling? Yup. But not “his” freedom. He knows he will die in 4 years , his freedom is already out of reach but when it comes to historia and/or his possible child ..there is still a chance to save both or at least one of them.
To me , it has been clear he attacked Marley as his “other option” to save historia/her child. Some claimed his friends were the trigger but they were chilling around for years and they don’t need to be saved. In fact they were safer before.
I know most people ignore context. But Isayama made it clear that in the past 4 years Eren’s priority was saving Historia from the 13-years curse. Whether you like or not , it wasn’t “his freedom” or his “friends” rather Historia’s safety and future.
> In ch90 we saw a very depressed Eren due to the great power of Marley (Official interview). He asked if he killed them , would he finally be free?
The answer is no. Eren is dying in few years , just like Reiner said. There is nothing left for him in this world and he doesn’t need to suffer for his freedom anymore.
But
> In ch106 we finally knew what eren was thinking all along ; The only hope for paradise is rumbling the world , thousands of titan will flatten their enemies territories. Now we know what he meant by “killing all his enemies” in ch90 , it’s impossible to kill all his enemies without using wall titans but the mere fact of sacrificing historia stopped him from doing that.
> chapter 107 proved this again. He stood up and rejected Zeke’s plan as it contained sacrificing historia and her children / no freedom is obtained from this plan. Just “peace” at the cost of Historia’s freedom and life.
> ch108. Eren was in complete denial. They didn’t find another option and Historia will be sacrificed for sure if he didn’t do something.
> ch110 - ch115 (FB) Eren arranged a meeting with Yellena , pretending he is okay with whatever his brother wants but he needed to tell him in person. after realizing the military couldn’t do anything , he started making his own decisions as a way to find another option (ch107 when he yelled at hange if she has a better idea or if she can do anything at all , he then yelled if there was another option she should tell him. Another option for what? If he meant saving paradise/his friends.. there is definitely another option ; the 50 years plan. And don’t forget , eren was trying to find another option to save historia , not his friends"
All this seals the deal for me. He attached Marley to save either Historia or her/his child (the new generation in general). He also deceived zeke for a reason , I am not sure yet but I have three ideas ;
1- Hollow’s theory.
2- To save a friend a.k.a historia.
3- to save his child and his wife.
Well all three options is based on the father theory anyway (lol).
It bugs me when people claim he is fighting for the same boring reasons ; freedom , friends. Eek , no? Not to mention historia IS a friend too , a close friend to him . Why should he fight for mikasa and armin when Historia is the one at danger? Why fighting for mikasa/armin means he is fighting for his “friends” but fighting for Historia will destroy the story? Seriously fuck off.
I am tired of this fandom and fucking tWitTeR. They ignore context and want eren to pull a lelouch (or whatever his name is) even though Eren found the idea stupid / ridiculous. Just because they don’t like the idea of him acting selfishly (Isayama proved Eren abandoned the mentality “everything should be as my comrades want” and started to think everything should be done for his own good/ doing what he wants). He is selfishly selfless if that makes any sense.
Just a final word ; if you believe Eren is deceiving zeke and he is doing that for his friends not historia then I advice you to reread the last 10 chapters again and stop being hypocritical.
Me too gurl
I miss Jane. I don’t give two shits whether the fandom loves her or hates her, Jane is awesome.