I’m Almost There!

Been reading ur blog. U need to stop calling urself a dom. All this lovey crap makes real doms sick. A sub is not for respecting and loving. A sub is for using and thats what they like. Its fine that u love ur girl, just dont call urself a dom. Real doms show dominance, use there sub and leave her laying like the cunt slut she is. Bein all sweet, and all that does is give her power over u, which makes u not a dom.

Hi there, Anon. I almost didn’t even dignify this with a response, but I think you’ve actually given me a good opportunity to say something that new doms need to know, so kudos to you. 

First and foremost, let’s establish something right here and now: You don’t get to tell me what I am, and you are damn sure not the leading authority on what does and does not constitute a dominant. For the record, I didn’t wake up one day and decide to be a dom. I never even thought of myself that way until I met belovedsangi 10 years ago. I always had the characteristics of a dom, sure, but I didn’t ever put that title on myself. That title was given to me by my submissive. SHE is the one who wanted to call me Master, and Sir, and sometimes Daddy. I never told her to do these things. But of course, you probably think I am making your point for you and that if I were a REAL domly dom, I would’ve demanded those things. 

And that’s where you have a fundamental issue understanding the meaning of the title. So let me help you with that. 

A dom does not demand respect. He conducts himself in such a way as to be worthy of respect. 

A dom does not bark commands. His presence is such that he can seduce and command with nothing more than a glance. 

A dom does not raise his voice. He is the kind of man who gets what he wants without needing to. 

A dom is not a braggart. He is possessed of a calm, quiet confidence that is evident in his demeanor, the way he walks, the tone of his voice, and all other aspects of him. 

A dom understands balance. He knows that while a firm hand and discipline are critical in this type of relationship, knowing when to be gentle and understanding is every bit as important. 

A dom is a gentleman first and foremost. That doesn’t necessarily mean that he is a fancy man who values the finer things in life, but he does understand manners and protocol. He opens the car door for her. He orders for her if she is having trouble deciding. He treats strangers with courtesy and respect. 

A dom is a protector. He makes sure that his submissive feels safe and protected at all times. This means so much more than just telling her you will protect her. A dom shows her. He keeps a hand on her shoulder or on her waist in crowds so she doesn’t get nervous. He sleeps on the side of the bed closest to the door so that he is always between his submissive and an intruder. He walks on the side of the sidewalk closest to the street so that an errant vehicle will hit him before his submissive. If anything or anyone should threaten his submissive, he must be prepared to fight for her with the ferocity of an alpha wolf. 

A dom earns her submission. It is not a thing to be demanded, expected, or assumed. And he continues to earn it, each and every day.  

A dom values her submission. Fully submitting your will and trusting your body and well-being to someone takes a kind of strength most can’t imagine, and a dom never loses sight of that. 

A dom understands that being a dominant is 10% privilege and 90% responsibility. He is literally taking her life into his hands. He is accepting the most sacred and important thing she has to give. He is taking her burdens and bearing them as his own, always, every day. 

A dom is consistent. He understands that he can’t just be her protector, lover, confidant, master, etc. when he feels like it. There will be days when a dom is tired. There will be days when he is stressed. There will be days when he is broken. On those days, it is more important than ever for a dom to show his submissive that he is still everything she needs him to be. 

So what does it mean, then, to be a dom? I get the feeling that you, anon, would say that it’s all about making her kneel, having your way with her, shouting orders and using her. Helpful hint: Any jackass can buy himself a whip and bark commands. That’s not a dom. Don’t get me wrong, I do absolutely have my way with belovedsangi. I love it when she kneels. I love the kinky, rough, mind-blowing sex we have. I love to dominate her in the bedroom. But for every moment of that, there are a hundred moments of holding her, of talking to her, laughing with her, gaming with her. There are a hundred moments of making her feel safe when she is afraid, giving her confidence when she is unsure, comforting her when she feels troubled. Those are all things that a dominant does too. 

I love my submissive more than I love oxygen. I love my submissive with a fire that can never be extinguished. I value her and respect her in every way. I treat her like a queen and fuck her like a slave. These things don’t make me weak. They don’t make me less of a dominant. These things make me stronger than you can possibly imagine. There is nothing quite so formidable as a dominant who has found the perfect submissive to fuel his fire. Never will you see anyone love so strongly or fight so fiercely. 

Bottom line, Anon, is this: you sound like a boy playing at being a man. You decided one day that you were sick of women having willpower and a voice of their own, so you decided to call yourself a dominant and seek out some weak-willed submissive who wouldn’t talk back to you or stick up for herself. You are not a dom. You are a jackass with a whip. Classic case of toodomforyou.

How I imagine every boy little, ever. OMG, so adorable.

Things You Can Do With and For Your Little Girl. (The Non-Sexual Edition)

-Wake her up for school/work/breakfast (Waking up to a nudging Daddy is better than waking up to a noisy jump out of your skin alarm clock). 

-Make her breakfast.

-Know her health problems, issues and allergies. 

-Make sure she takes her medicine. 

-Draw her a bubble bath, lots of bubbles. LOTS of bubbles. 

-Wash her.

-Help her with any studying or classwork she may have. Midterms and finals suck. 

-Set up a rewards system with stickers or fake money to “cash in” for special things or an outing. 

-Know her favorite characters and cartoons. 

-Watch said favorite cartoons with her. 

-Let her crawl in your lap and snuggle.

-Snuggle her any and everywhere you can. 

-Build a blanket fort with her. 

-Color with her

-Print out coloring pages/ buy coloring books for her (Littles need variety!) 

-Talk to her. Ask her about her feelings, her day, all that. 

-Lay out her clothes for her. 

-Set up a bedtime that you BOTH can adhere to, no little should be going to bed alone if it’s preventable.

-Let her know that she can wake you up anytime during the night whether she can’t sleep, has a nightmare or just wakes up earlier than you. 

-Let her cry. It doesn’t matter if you don’t always understand her feelings and emotions, it matters that you be there for her when she needs it. 

-Spray her pillow with your cologne while you’re gone for the day. 

-Make/pack  her lunch how she likes it so she eats well when you’re working/adulting. 

-Pick her up. Littles love rides!

- Know her stuffies, her blankies and her binkies. 

-Keep her sippies clean and full. 

-Make her a physical little space where she can burrow up in when she’s in her mental little space. (under the table with pillows and stuffies, in the corner or a whole bedroom decorated in things she likes) 

-Keep them company when they’re sick. Watch their favorite movie with them and make them soup with fun shapes. 

-Let them be little! The world is hard on everyone. She goes to you for refuge. Remind her why she picked you to be her Daddy out of all the other Daddies in the world. 

-Love them. Whether they are whiny, bratty, or downright all out bitchy. Love them. They love you when you’re the same way. Yes, Daddies can be bitches. 

As you can see, there are plenty of things to do with your little girl that doesn’t require sex. Being intimate with your little is important, but sex isn’t the only intimacy out there. 

Dear friends of Tumblr,

Today at my school we had an assembly about internet predators and when I had said that most of my true friends are over the internet and they gave me a lecture about how “I don’t know who I’m talking to” blah blah. So please, if you aren’t a predator in any way, please reblog so i can prove a point.

#justiceformuslims

ATTENTION ALL GIRLS AND LADIES: if you walk from home, school, office or anywhere and you are alone and you come across a little boy crying holding a piece of paper with an address on it, DO NOT TAKE HIM THERE! take him straight to the police station for this is the new 'gang' way of rape. The incident is getting worse. Warn your families. Reblog this so this message can get accross to everyone.

Use your words baby

Me: Daddddddyyyy

Daddy: yes kitten

Me: iiiiiii waaaant

Daddy: want what? Use your words

Me: * DINOSAUR NOISE *

Daddy: oh geez