@slightlyrebelliouswriter23​ (me)

My mother had three pregnancies, and two children.  She had a miscarriage, between my brother and I, in that four year span between our births, there was another pregnancy, another child desperately wanted, who didn’t live to term.

My mother had her pre-natal care, and her post-miscarriage care, at Planned Parenthood.

Because it was the best place for her.  Because at the time, she had a two year old child and a bike and they were living just around that nice little sweet spot between ‘desperately poor’ and ‘almost have enough to consider a savings account.’  And when you are poor, and female, and need health services, Planned Parenthood is there.

And my mother walked past the protesters, walked past the people who screamed at her about not killing her baby, about how she was a whore, and she was going to hell.  My mother, in mourning for a child that she had lost, blaming herself, hating herself for failing at this most feminine of things, walked through that, to care for herself, to get the medical care she needed.  So that someday, two years later, she could have me.

I cannot speak to the courage that must have taken.  But that path is walked by thousands of women.  Every single day.

She donated to Planned Parenthood until her death.  And she said to me, that the people who screamed at her saw her only as a vessel for a baby.  They didn’t care about her, they didn’t care about her baby, either.  They were pro-birth, not pro-life, because none of them would be there after her baby was born, to offer help and support and care. 

The protesters didn’t care about her.  And the medical professionals inside did.  It is the right of every woman to have access to safe, affordable, quality health care, no matter where she comes from, what her income is, or what choices she makes with her life.  And that is what these kind of bills are attempting to take away. 

My Space Mom™

INTERNATIONAL WOMEN’S DAY ↳ MCU WOMEN

Hii angels ! I wanted to create this personally for me, and for all of you. 2020 was difficult, and moving on from that can require some major self reflection & work. Here’s how I’ll be working on myself & how you can too. 💗

Your Style/Aesthetic 🌸

Your style & aesthetic is important to YOU it’s how you go about buying yourself things, how you look at life, and what makes you unique ! Since 2021 is a new year, you may want to look into different styles & aesthetics that feel more fresh.

How to find your own (new) aesthetic and style :

Create lookbooks in your journal or pinterest.

Here’s an example of something I made :

When you find yourself ‘drawn’ to a certain piece of clothing, know that’s what you’re interested in ! Take note of it.

Go through your wardrobe & sell things that just aren’t your style anymore. After this you can use that money to buy clothes according to your potential new style.

Write down an ‘essentials’ list of all the pieces you KNOW you need. For example :

Plain ribbed crop top in white, black, and pink.

Knowing what colors you want in your wardrobe is very important. Like before, choose what you’re drawn to. Here’s some prissy girl essentials by @dreamgrlarchive

If you’re into this blog’s style, or the ‘pink & pretty glam’ style then check out this bratz style guide by @dreamgrlarchive 💗

Your Mental Health 🌸

I created a diagram for you to know what should & shouldn’t occupy your mind ! That’s you in the middle. Here’s what each thing represents :

What SHOULD be occupying your mind :

Nails - Taking care of yourself & participating in self care !

Water & Strawberries - Your health. Eating good and keeping yourself hydrated. Keep that in your mind ALWAYS.

Diary - Your journey as YOU. What are your current goals ? What makes you happy ? You should be writing this down somewhere. Either in your journal or phone.

Youtube - Watching positive people who inspire & motivate you.

What SHOULDN’T be occupying your mind :

Boys - Dudes who DON’T respect you & that waste your time, energy, and emotions.

Instagram - Social media influencers who cause you to compare yourself to them, toxic mutuals, and people you don’t like.

Clock - The past, don’t focus on the negative things in your past. When I say this I mean, don’t dwell on it. Journaling is a different story.

Mean girls - This just represents mean people in general, if someone doesn’t like you or says spiteful things about you, that’s not your problem. It’s their’s ! Forgive them and remain UNBOTHERED !

Try to re-program you brain to think like this ! It’ll protect your peace & happiness 💗.

Your Routines & Schedules 🌸

Your routines and schedules keep you accountable & on track. Creating a new routine for yourself can change your whole outlook on life !

Things to create / work on / fix :

Your sleeping schedule

Your workout routine

Morning + night skincare routine

Sunday reset ( laundry, cleaning your space, nail fill )

Affirmations / manifesting

How to go about these things :

Your sleeping schedule - Move your phone away from your bed. Keep yourself occupied ALL day until you go to sleep. ( so you’re not full of energy when you go to sleep )

Your workout routine - Download my workout planner here ( it’s free ) Watching youtube videos on workout exercises to find what works for you, and figuring out a realistic body goal is the best way to go. Learn more about diet & physique on this post by @dreamgrlarchive as well.

Morning + Night skincare routine - Watch skincare enthusiasts on Youtube and find products that’ll work for you. Also these posts :

5 rules of cleansing by @s0fthunny

Glowing within by @s0fthunny

Dealing with hyperpigmentation by @dreamgrlarchive

Sunday reset - Create a cleaning routine for your space and do this every sunday. Also a spa/nail routine can be added. My cleaning routine post is here

Affirmations / manifesting - If you’re interested in this, I recommend getting a journal dedicated to it. Find a good set of affirmations, write them, then read them out loud whenever you want. As for manifesting, you can read this post by @mulabby

Always remember to treat yourself like a princess !

Here’s a list of affirmations I’ve created for you all

Selfcare & Behavior 🌸

The way you carry & take care of yourself is very important. You want to be respected and valued, you deserve it ! Acting a sophisticated way is important, but controlling who you give your energy to is just as important.

Things that help you show confidence :

Good posture

Eye contact

Acknowledging the other person’s statements/body language

Important selfcare tips for going out/presenting yourself to the public :

Wearing your staple perfume/mist

Brushed teeth, with a mint or gum

Wearing clean, wrinkle free, clothing that compliments your body

Wearing a mask lol

( I do this even if I’m inside )

Self care habits that don’t involve products :

Reading affirmations to yourself

Journaling good and bad things everyday ( self reflection )

Staying hydrated

Your behavior

Don’t talk down or bad about others. Even if they do you wrong, keeping your thoughts to yourself and journaling them can save a lot of trouble, misconception, and self sabotage.

Just because you’re kind and respectful, doesn’t mean you have to be friendly and approachable. For jobs, yes that’s important obv, but when you’re out and about you have no obligation to feel other’s insecure, jealous energy.

There’s three main things to make sure your behavior and atitude is healthy :

*disclaimer: this applies to people you’re looking into becoming friends/aquatinted with*

Respect. Respect other people’s boundaries, choices, and journey. It’s not cute to be a toxic ‘idgaf about you’ person. Treat people how you would like to be treated.

Kindness. Dont judge others by their looks, if someone is a genuine person asking you something or coming to you for guidance, even if you’re declining, still be kind.

Understanding. Being understanding of someone else’s position & feeling empathy for others. This goes back to treating others the way you would like to be treated. Empathy is very important in every friendship, you want to comfort them & be involved with their ups and downs, it creates a stronger bond.

Be careful with who you’re involving yourself with ! If you get an off feeling, take a step back and remind yourself of your boundaries. 💗

I hope you enjoyed this post, I wanted to make lil collages n stuff. Lmk if you need help with anything else, my inbox is open. Mwah. 💓

Every episode featuring AHSOKA TANO in STAR WARS: THE CLONE WARS (2008—2020) and STAR WARS: REBELS (2014—2018)

Fandom Crap

Guy the amount of people I blocked today alone for the Acotar fandom is wild.  Like calm down they really are getting heated over there. 

General Acotar Theories

Tarquin was the name of the final Roman king before it became a democracy and then a dictatorship.  However this may explain why the summer court was given the Fae half of the Book of Breathings and the last High King of Prythian may have been a predecessor of the Summer Court ruling family. IDK it might be important we shall see.  Because Helion is derived from the titan Helios, the original driver of the sun, and Helion is High Lord of the Day Court.  Though Sarah could have just been searching for olden names so who knows?

there are so many good episodes of The Magic Schoolbus but the one I remember most vividly is the one where the class competes in a Smell Contest, which is a contest to create smells, which is a thing I desperately wanted to be real

anyway their smell gets sabotaged so they have to shrink really tiny and fly into the judge’s nose to shoot down the stink molecules

good fucking shit

Can you please reblog if your blog is a safe place for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, asexual, aromantic, pansexual, non binary, demisexual or any other kind of queer or questioning people? Because mine is.

Today, I just want everyone to be a little grateful that we have archiveofourown.org in our lives.