One Of The Greatest Tragedies In Life Is That You Will Always Be Loved More Than You Will Ever Know.

Sacred tree by classmate jew

When I see people sharing so much of their kids' lives, I think about that one time my child told a joke, I shared that joke with ONE FRIEND in a private conversation, and my child said "can you please ask me next time, before you tell people something about me?"

And, yes, I absolutely should. So I apologized, and now I ask.

"I love that video of you, can I show it to a friend?"

"Can I tell a friend about how clever you were just now?"

"Can I share this in the family group chat?"

"Can I show your art to grandma and grandpa?"

And it's not like my kids don't like when I share their jokes and puns and fun moments. They love it! But they want to have control over what I share with people. Even without their faces or their names. Even people we know and trust.

And they deserve to have that control.

My children are small so the examples are small. They wanted me to ask, so I ask. Just like being told to kiss my grandma's cheek when I was a kid was far from traumatizing, but I don't do that with my kids because it's a way to practice consent and become aware of bodily autonomy.

It gets both me and them in the habit of asking for consent and drawing boundaries and seeing the lines between their life and my life, their stories and my stories.

Art by BLUEBIRDY

I loved painting this one. It was truly a delight to create and I hope that shows 💚

Full process video over on my Patreon!

Hello October! It’s nice to see you again 🎃 spooky season is officially upon us 👻

Unironically waiting for the bus in the rain rn. Real ones know ✌️🌧️🚌☔