Same Energy ✨

"You're not being asked to come up with something pretty, you know. No one gives a damn about pretty."

-Anna Gavalda, Hunting and Gathering

Just finished this book, needless to say, I cried -a lot.

Do you ever feel like it was way easier to find friends, when you were younger? I don’t know what happened, but somehow between the age of 13 and now, I lost most of my social skills. I get really bad anxiety when talking to strangers and now I only have one friend at Uni and she’s skipping classes pretty often so I don’t know if she’ll pass the exams. All of my close friends live far away, I’m scared of being lonely.

Well, at least I have the neighborhood cats, that’s step one of my 15-year-plan to become a crazy cat lad 🩵🤍

hi! i've changed my major but i've also switched universities at the same time, so i'm not sure if my experience is relevant to what you're going through. nonetheless, let me know if you want to talk about it together! i know this can be a very difficult experience, and i hope that you will find peace, happiness, and success no matter how it turns out in the end <3

Thank you so much for answering and offering your help!

First of all the current situation: I'm starting my third semester in Medical Engineering next month in a town very far from my hometown. I'm not a very social person and the only friend I had in this town decided to move away a few months ago. I think the main reason why I want to change is because I'm lonely and homesick, I miss my old friends who all study in the same area.

At the same time I've always been torn between studying biology or engineering and now I'm thinking biology might be a better fit. That would also allow me to move back home.

It's not that I don't like engineering, I enjoy maths and I would definitely be able to finish this degree with good grades.

I'd love to talk to you about this, about what made you change and when you knew it would be the right decision

every time i see someone i dont like on tinder i report them

“We shall meet in the place where there is no more darkness.”

— George Orwell // 1984

Folks have got to understand that they probably aren't messed up by some Secret Big Trauma that they just can't remember; but rather by a million tiny microtraumas that they do mostly remember but don't even register as traumatic because nobody actually understood that these things would cause trauma, much less stack on each other over the years.

one thing i need to start living by is “become the thing that you want” if i want friends who throw themed parties maybe i should start throwing those parties. if i want someone who writes me love letters maybe i should start writing letters for the people i love. if i want to hang out at museums and pretty cafes maybe i should invite my friends to these places. and maybe even then i won’t find the kind of people i want to be around. but then i would have become the exact person i want to be around. and maybe that’s good enough.