Life. Death. Together. Gone, But Still Reaching For The Sky.

re: your post on serial killers

you just described Richard Ramirez--opportunistic spree killer, think he even raped a few male victims--versus Ted Bundy, who attributed his obsessive focus on women to the porn he was addicted to.

do female-exclusive serial killers ever commit crimes *without* being porn addicts, or is porn addiction an essential part of their complex?

i could see a subcategory of fiends labeled "pornography-driven serial killers". especially because all male serial killers are misogynistic in some capacity already.

maybe not for vigilante killers, but calling vigilantes serial killers strikes me as a misnomer anyways.

i wanted to add to the post something about porn, or at least i kept it in mind for later. one of my friends is doing an assignment on bundy at the moment in criminology, one quote i found from him that i'm not yet sure how to feel about is:

You are going to kill me, and that will protect society from me. But out there are many, many more people who are addicted to pornography, and you are doing nothing about that.

alongside

I’ve lived in prison for a long time now, and I’ve met a lot of men who were motivated to commit violence just like me, and without exception every one of them was deeply involved in pornography Without question, without exception, deeply influenced and consumed by addiction to pornography,… the FBI’s own study on serial homicide shows that the most common interest among serial killers is pornography.

it kinda haunts me. some say he only said this to appeal to anti-porn republican groups and to appear as a "victim" to porn, and unfortunately, most of the info i've found on this topic are from Christian or catholic websites, but all the same, they seem all too based in reality to be complete lie.

also side note, fun fact: Bundy was not referring to and (as far as i'm aware) never did refer to filmed pornography, he was referring, at least in these quotes, to literary and magazine pornography. he started with magazines as a preteen and stated:

you reach that jumping off point where you begin to wonder if maybe actually doing it would give you that which is beyond just reading or looking at it.

by yasminemei

I don't know what makes me sadder; the bimbofication to become famous, or the fact that it worked.

That is every single TIM (and lesser amounts of TIFs) that demands access to spaces, all the way down to demanding their choice of pronouns.

It's all very well and good being "kind" or thinking "I'll be respectful if that person's respectful," but at the end of the day, if they're AGPs (or the rarer female equivalent), what they're doing is forcing you to become part of their fetish play. Later, when alone, they'll revisit the sound of your voice, or they'll screenshot the image of your text, and masturbate to the memory of it, because they made you play along.

It's not only the fetish of being seen as a woman for those AGPs - it's also an exhibitionism fetish. Strangers being forced to play along into their fantasies are another layer of this.

There's a reason that it's marketed as "gender euphoria" instead of a cleaner, more sterile idea of "when I'm referred to as the pronouns I feel, I don't hurt the way I normally do." It's a state of pleasure. Whether it's the literal pleasure of playing a part, or the pleasure of having such control over others to the point that they deny science and their own eyes, it doesn't matter.

It's not just misogyny. It's sexual harassment and abuse.

I saw a post asking about whether there was a woman or women in your life that changed your view about misogyny in society, or made you realise that women needed feminism, and I immediately thought of my abusive mother, the woman that gave me the CPTSD that I still struggle with.

She was the one that gaslighted me to avoid apologising for something that she had done wrong, but cried and apologised to my brother.

Where I was abused, my brother was excused, and when he stood by me and supported me, that was still my fault, and I was punished for it.

She was the one that eagerly bragged about being supportive of gay men, but was quick to share how disgusted she was by bisexuals, particularly bisexual women, and lesbians.

She was the one who screamed and beat me if I ever tried to stand up for myself, but when my brother stood up to her, she beat me again for not telling him to stop - and then absolved him of his words by deciding that he had been possessed by the ghost of her own abusive mother.

I was the one broken down and trapped into being a carer and homekeeper to take care of the family, and gaslit into believing that I was lucky to be able to be able to do that in the first place.

Feminism doesn't absolve women of their crimes. I'm glad that she's dead and gone and won't forgive her memory. But that wasn't random abuse. I was treated much worse than how she treated my brother and her husband because I was a girl and then a woman. She quite literally deluded herself to create excuses for my brother to forgive him and attack me. Even though she abused them, too, it was still nothing compared to what happened to me. The abuse had misogyny baked all the way through it.

I can't blame her for hating women, considering the patriarchy around us and other personal circumstances where she learned that hatred, and understanding just how strong and ingrained misogyny is, but I will blame her for her choice to abuse, because it was a choice. I think that sometimes, there's a belief that feminism means needing to protect or defend every single woman, even the most disgusting and evil women, and that isn't true at all. Evil women deserve liberation. No woman, whatever she does, deserves rape or abuse or oppression. What they deserve is to face true justice instead.

So yes, a woman made me rethink misogyny around me and the need for feminism, just not in the way that others would expect.

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Anything That Moves (Summer, 1991)

❝ BISEXUAL FREEDOM ❞

Weird question but since you're bi and not dating men, do you still allow yourself to fancy them?

Absolutely! I feel zero guilt for feelings of attraction. I spent way too long feeling awful for being bisexual to play that game. If I see a man I find attractive, I enjoy the sight. I don’t pursue relationships with men because of the risks related to domestic relationships with them, but if a hot guy is in a movie? If I see an attractive man at the park? I don’t try and police the natural attraction I feel. Nor do I feel guilty.

Same with women. I no longer torture myself for seeing a beautiful woman and feeling attracted to her. It’s not automatically predatory or objectifying to just feel my feelings. Nor is it a betrayal of my politics or lifestyle to feel attraction to men.

seeing all the hatred against straight women by men is why we absolutely need to stand by them. straight woman are a vulnerable population and already deal with so much bullshit from men. they can't even have games with fictional males who love them without men shitting all over it and calling it "femcel gooner material".