It Might Sound Strange, But Peaking About Gender Helped Me To Accept My Bisexuality, Understand Feminism

It might sound strange, but peaking about gender helped me to accept my bisexuality, understand feminism and start me on a real path to understand that I'm a person whose actual consent matters.

When I was younger and unsure (and quite hateful about) my bisexuality, and thoughtlessly repeated some feminist talking points, I ignored all of my doubts because they know better. At first, I didn't know why I was uncomfortable and upset about the push for bisexual women to accept being in sapphic relationships with males. Or why it was transphobic for a bisexual woman to not date/have sex with a TIM. Etc etc etc.

I doubted myself and my upset until I saw the sexual harassment of lesbians, and others that were much more intelligent and switched on than myself pointing out the lesbophobia and rape promotion and apologism, as well as the repeated, underlined anger about sexuality and consent.

It was first my outrage about lesbians (and, to a much lesser extent, gay men) that made me realise, wow, my sexuality doesn't implicitly suggest consent, which then made me sit back and actually consider how other women were fawning to avoid the rage and lesbophobia and biphobia and doxxing and rape and death threats, which then spread further to understanding my existence as a woman.

There's a stereotypical and misogynistic point that men bring up about how feminists are always miserable and obsessed about oppression, as if it ruins us somehow, but it absolutely does feel more grounding.

You spend your whole life isolated and only allowed crumbs of sanitised and safe "feminism," to the point where you dismiss every slight and every harm, from the mansplaining to the assaults as random or bad luck or whatever else, and then suddenly, you're not crazy or oversensitive anymore, you're able to understand it.

As twisted as it sounds, it's grounding and peaceful, too. If you can break free and question the so-called holy right of males taking everything female for themselves, when family members, friends, the media, charities and even governments promote it all as progressive, then you can question everything, and there's no more empowering start to a journey than that.

Does anyone else feel more grounded since becoming gc. I'm no longer being asked to ignore my instincts, my emotions, and the reality around me in favour of a constant "religious" trial. I used to be so disassociated, but now I can just point out the obvious and not feel like I'm going to burn in hell for it lmao. Lots of religious words in here but you get it. I mean it when I say tras are spiritual. You have to be to ignore reality that much. And it feels just as good when you deconvert.

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dedicated to bisexual radfems

i'm so happy that we're in this together!

your sexuality is valid.

your attraction to males is valid

your attraction to women is valid

and you have every right to be upset about being stereotyped as a whore- as unfortunate as us bisexuals are labled.

you do not need to change your sexuality for ANYONE.

you have EVERY FUCKING RIGHT TO REJECT WHOEVER YOU WANT!

just because tras say that 'you're biesxual! you are attracted to both sexes that means you'll be attracted to me!' doesn't matter at all. YOU DATE WHO YOU WANT TO DATE!

you absolutely deserve the company of people that respect you for being bisexual. that don't try to force you into the gay or straight role

and you absolutely deserve to be around people that love you for who you are and won't try to change you because of that <3

i love you <3

from one bisexual radfem sister to another


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3 weeks ago
Trans former judge to challenge Supreme Court's gender ruling
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Victoria McCloud, who stepped down last year, said the judgement had violated her human rights.

I hate this. They can't stop themselves from doing everything that they can to destroy women's rights. It's narcissism all the way down.

My favourite quotes from him:

"The Supreme Court failed in my view, adequately, to think about human rights points."

Because women's rights mean nothing, but men's entitlements are suddenly human rights.

"[This judgement] has left me two sexes at once, which is a nonsense and ironic, because the Supreme Court said that sex was binary," said Dr McCloud. "I am a woman for all purposes in law, but [now under this judgement] I'm a man for the Equality Act 2010. So I have to probably guess on any given occasion which sex I am."

There is no guessing. He's biologically male. He's deliberately obfuscating because he has a Gender Recognition Certificate.

"I am now expected to use male spaces. I have female anatomy. It isn't safe for women to use the men's loos. It is as simple as that."

I don't know what to say to this level of delusion.

The fight never ends. It's exhausting. Just leave women alone.


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3 weeks ago

this might be a hot take but i think that most women do have some radfem beliefs but choose not to share them out of fear of harassment or don’t recognize them as radical beliefs because of how radical feminism has been demonized.


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just stumbled into a tiktok of a girl who was talking about her ex boyfriend, how he showed her the porn he’s into and it’s all pregnancy and childbirth fetish, to the point that he has a reddit account he uses just to jerk off to one of the most vulnerable moments of a woman’s life. she said he’s going to college to become an obstetrician.

i hate men i hate men I HATE MEN

.................it's always a mistake to underestimate how much time, effort, money, attention and focus men will dedicate to their perversions. "Nobody would go through the trouble of______________ to creep on women" A man would. A man would go through the trouble. Trust me.


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