Monsteradarling - Deliciously Monstrous

Anything That Moves, 1997

Fake, performative support is worse than being indifferent about something or not expressing an opinion

I hate that every time I see "Be kind" now, I see "Be quiet".

It makes so much more sense now why its geared primarily towards women.

We always have to sit with our discomfort. Just shut up and go with it, regardless of how you feel.

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Ugh, that's true. I stand corrected, I could imagine that brainrot turning into, "I'm NB because black nail polish is fun, and if I'm NB and into women, that would make me queer/bi" stupidity.

If you’re ever feeling insecure about your intelligence just remember there are males out there who call themselves bisexual because they’re attracted to females and trans-identified females

We should always talk more about the emotional manipulation and gaslighting that comes from being women under the patriarchy. Violence and threats only go so far to oppress women. The rest of the trap is the way that patriarchy has managed to trick women into keeping ourselves down, without us ever noticing it.

Take this paragraph:

Like Buffy, do we feminist women turn to mediocre men who can express messiness so that we don’t have to? Does it make us feel stronger, more powerful, or more competent by comparison—but also keep us measuring our worth in relation to others rather than to ourselves? The strong woman/bad boyfriend phenomenon reminds me of how I felt when I first began interacting with transgendered (male-to-female) women at book signings. The women whom Amy Richards and I met during the Manifesta tour often came with a critique that the book had no discussion of transgender rights. I felt terrifically defensive—obsessed with the way the M-to-F pre-op women would dominate the evening, often with just their physical bigness. I hated the way they invaded a woman-only space, seeming to merely endure our reading so they could get to “their” part of the evening. “They wouldn’t—couldn’t—do that if they had been born women,” I seethed. “You don’t see female-to-male pre-operative men heading to the Harvard Club to demand inclusion. Why is it always women who have to make more space and take in everything?” But as I learned more about the history of transgenderism and met more transgendered people—M to F and F to M and points beyond—I revised that interpretation. I wonder now if it offended me that these women could be aggressive and take up space while I still thought I couldn’t. - From Look Both Ways: Bisexual Politics by Jennifer Baumgardner

From a question about mediocre men that immediately brought TIMs to mind, this feminist woman automatically felt righteously repulsed at men forcing their way into a female-only space, who clearly didn't care about female issues, and only endured discussions of women's issues and thoughts so that they could bleat about themselves instead.

Instead of her accepting what she knew, the fact that TIMs act like men because they're men, and TIFs act like women because they're women, she flipped a switch, threw in that she met a range of trans "and points beyond" people, and suddenly, TIMs taking over women's spaces and demanding that everything be about themselves became her own moral failing.

Again, this last line:

I wonder now if it offended me that these women could be aggressive and take up space while I still thought I couldn’t.

Critiques of her understanding of feminism aside, from the above text, she knew what men are like, and she was right to seethe. And yet, patriarchy is so strong that women will tie themselves in knots to be seen as acceptable to others, because of the teaching that men always matter more.

In her case - and in quite a lot of other cases, from women who won't really even think about feminism across whatever spectrums there are, I would wager - there will be this underlying idea that these men that claim womanhood are simply somehow better women than they are, and that is why those men deserve support and love and kindness over everything else.

Because those men are the kind of women that actual women are telling themselves that they should aspire to be. That actual women are failures, and the fakes are somehow the real deal.

Those women can tell themselves that it's about being unapologetic and loud and forceful about their individual needs - but it's another manipulative trap. Women can never become like those brave TIMs. As soon as they try, they're called TERFs, remember?

Look at the number of women who spend so much time defending TIMs, whether they're trans identified or not. Of course they do. They've been taught that the best of women, the most vulnerable of women? Those better "women" are all male.

Why do I say all this in regards to the trans issue? Because we're living in a time where numbers of women have genuinely been gaslit into believing that men can be women, in such a relatively short space of time. That men somehow can become biologically female through saying a few words out loud.

If that doesn't tell you how effective the psychological abuse of women is under the patriarchy, I don't know what else will.

one day misogyny will die out and, in turn, radfeminism and terfism will die out too and men and women will be best friends forever and never have to fight again

BBC News

Trans former judge to challenge Supreme Court's gender ruling

Victoria McCloud, who stepped down last year, said the judgement had violated her human rights.

I hate this. They can't stop themselves from doing everything that they can to destroy women's rights. It's narcissism all the way down.

My favourite quotes from him:

"The Supreme Court failed in my view, adequately, to think about human rights points."

Because women's rights mean nothing, but men's entitlements are suddenly human rights.

"[This judgement] has left me two sexes at once, which is a nonsense and ironic, because the Supreme Court said that sex was binary," said Dr McCloud. "I am a woman for all purposes in law, but [now under this judgement] I'm a man for the Equality Act 2010. So I have to probably guess on any given occasion which sex I am."

There is no guessing. He's biologically male. He's deliberately obfuscating because he has a Gender Recognition Certificate.

"I am now expected to use male spaces. I have female anatomy. It isn't safe for women to use the men's loos. It is as simple as that."

I don't know what to say to this level of delusion.

The fight never ends. It's exhausting. Just leave women alone.

seeing all the hatred against straight women by men is why we absolutely need to stand by them. straight woman are a vulnerable population and already deal with so much bullshit from men. they can't even have games with fictional males who love them without men shitting all over it and calling it "femcel gooner material".

btw men know what they’re doing.

they know why you get upset when they call you a b*tch or a c*nt, men know they’re slurs, they know it’s degrading to be called them. that’s why they call women they don’t like b*tches, that’s also why they call other men b*tches.

they don’t need to be educated on why consent matters because they already know why rape is bad. men see rape for what it is, an abuse of power and an act of sadism against women. but they don’t care because they get off to it anyways.

they know why sexually harassing women on the street is inappropriate and wrong. they just don’t care because they feel like it gives them a power boost. they know it’s a tool to remind us that “hey i can do whatever i want to you and i’ll face zero consequences because i’m a man.”

they know why pretending to be women is offensive and objectifying. they just don’t care because they get off on violating our boundaries. they enjoy harassing lesbians and bi women into sleeping with them. they enjoy going into our spaces to demand we make them the most important people on the room.

it’s never something that we do. there’s nothing wrong with us. the reasons men go out of their way to make us miserable is because they want to.