When choosing your outfit for the day
When picking out a candle for your spell and ritual
Candle Magick
Painting or Drawing
To add intention to your writing
Symbolizes:
Grounding
Protection
Safety
Death
Underworld
Restriction
Night
Magickal Uses:
Reversing
Uncrossing
Unhexing
Banishing
Black Magick Repelling
Banishing negative energy
Releasing
Defense
Scrying
Hexing
Cursing
Protection
Wards off negativity
Spirit Contact
Correspondence to the Major Arcana:
Death
Planetary and Astrological Correspondences:
Saturn
Week Day correspondence: Tuesday + Saturday
Direction: North
Symbolizes:
Earth
Concentration
Construction
Stability
Animal
Magickal Uses:
House Blessing
Animal Magick
Pet Magick
Earth Magick
To influence Friendships
Element: Earth
Planetary and Astrological Correspondences:
Scorpio
Capricorn
Direction: North
Symbolizes:
Money
Fertility
Magickal Uses:
Business and financial success
Money Drawing
Fertility
Career Growth
Symbolizes:
Fortune
Abundance
Prosperity
Positivity
Luxury
Health
Justice
Magickal Uses
Luck
Wealth
Good Health
Healing Spells
Solar Magick
Correspondence to the Major Arcana:
The Sun
Week Day correspondence: Sunday
Direction: South
Symbolizes:
Loneliness
Lore
Knowledge
Wisdom
Transformation
Magickal Uses
Removes negative influences
Increases Knowledge
Inspires Transformation
Communication with the faerie realm
Vision Quests
Planet: Moon
Direction: West
Symbolizes:
Purity
Unity
Cleansing
Peace
Balance
Spirituality
Innocence
Truth
Divinity
Love
Calm
Unbiased Opinion
Forgiveness
Acceptance
Magickal Uses:
Eliminates negative energy
Creates inner peace
Uncrossing
Consecration
Moon Magick
Protection
Cleanses
Correspondence to the Major Arcana:
The Fool
Planetary and Astrological Correspondences:
Moon
Pisces
Associated Chakra: Crown
Week Day correspondence: Monday
Direction: East
Symbolizes:
Stability
Intuition
Dreams
Communication
Magickal Uses:
Moon Magick
Astral Energy
Telepathy
Clairvoyance
Psychic Awareness
Meditation
Correspondence to the Major Arcana:
The Moon
Week Day correspondence: Monday
Direction: East
Symbolizes:
Prosperity
Money
Abundance
Healing
Growth
Luck
Faeries
Hope
Rebirth
Youth
Intuition
Nature
Magickal Uses:
Money Spells
Herbal Magick
Garden Magick
Luck drawing
Faerie magick
Plant magick
Money drawing
Correspondence to the Major Arcana:
The Empress
The Lovers
The Hermit
Justice
Death
Element: Earth
Planetary and Astrological Correspondences:
Venus
Mercury
Aquarius
Cancer
Associated Chakra: Heart
Week Day correspondence: Thursday
Direction: North
Symbolizes:
Communication
Focus
Forgiveness
Truth
Patience
Harmony
Wisdom
Thoughtfulness
Youthfulness
Creativity
Healing
Organization
Peace
Justice
Tranquility
Magickal uses:
Removing Bad Vibrations
Astral projection
Water element
Emotional Work
Correspondence to the Major Arcana:
The High Priestess
The Emperor
The Hanged Man
Death
Temperance
Element: Water
Planetary and Astrological Correspondences:
Jupiter
Moon
Virgo
Capricorn
Aquarius
Pisces
Associated Chakra: Throat
Week Day correspondence: Thursday
Direction: West
Symbolizes:
Wisdom
Power
Wealth
Prophecy
Magickal Uses:
Contact with spirits
Good fortune
Prophetic visions
Meditation
Divination
Correspondence to the Major Arcana:
The Heirophant
Planetary and Astrological Correspondences:
Mercury
Saturn
Capricorn
Jupiter
Gemini
Sagittarius
Associated Chakra: Brow
Week Day correspondence: Wednesday + Thursday
Direction: East
Symbolizes:
Love
Compassion
Friendship
Romance
Intimacy
Emotions
Self Love
Calming
Harmony
New Beginnings
Honor
Magical Uses:
Brings forth new beginnings
Attracts romance
Attracts new friendship
Encourages self love
Correspondence to the Major Arcana:
The Empress
Planetary and Astrological Correspondences:
Venus influencing Mars
Week Day correspondence: Friday
Direction: South
Symbolizes:
Passion
Anger
War
Strength
Conflict
Fire element
Healing
Inspiration
Bravery
Courage
Strength
Ambition
Leadership
Confrontation
Combat
Mercy
Magickal Uses:
Helps find love
Fire Element Work
Purification
Correspondence to the Major Arcana:
The Emperor
The Tower
Judgement
Element: Fire
Planetary and Astrological Correspondences:
Aries
Scorpio
Mars influencing Saturn
Associated Chakra: Root
Week Day correspondence: Tuesday
Direction: South
Symbolizes:
Creativity
Intellect
Justice
Kindness
Harvest
Strength
Joy
Ambition
Pride
Courage
Prosperity
Attraction
Kinship
Spirit
Abundance
Magickal Uses:
Business success
Spirit communication
Relieves Depression
Correspondence to the Major Arcana:
The Lovers
The Wheel of Fortune
The Sun
Element: Fire
Planetary and Astrological Correspondences:
Sun
Leo
Sagittarius
Associated Chakra: Sacral
Week Day correspondence: Tuesday + Wednesday
Direction: South
Symbolizes:
Happiness
Success
Learning
Memory
Concentration
Inspiration
Imagination
Charm
Confidence
Air element
Will
Trust
Creativity
Communication
Summer
Improves balance
Friendship
Self-Esteem
Vitality
Beauty
Power
Learning
Magickal Uses:
Sun Magick
Increases productivity
Heightens Self-Esteem
Psychic Endeavors
Correspondences to the Major Arcana:
The Fool
The Magician
Strength
The Sun
Element: Air
Planetary and Astrological Correspondences:
Mercury
Taurus
Libra
Associated Chakra: Solar-Plexus
Week Day correspondence: Sunday
Direction: East
Sources: Witchipedia.com, spiritenterprise.com
May the Moon Light your path!
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Eusebia and Kharis are important factors for building and maintaining a relationship with the theoi. A lot of us are practicing Eusebia and Kharis without necessarily being aware of those words and what they mean even. Eusebia and Kharis are two concepts that can be difficult to define and pin down. I’m sure other people have different takes on the two practices, but I’m goign to talk about how I define them, and what they mean for my practice. Hopefully this is useful to some folks :)
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I’ve spent much of my life wondering about whether magic is “real”, whether it “works”, whether it’s silly for me to invest my time and emotional energy into witchy stuff (even though at this point, I can’t not invest emotional energy into it; it makes me happy). I’ve spent the past eighteen years of my life trying to live magically and every few years I boxed up my witchy stuff in shame and told myself not to be so stupid. Because I was scared. Because trusting in that which I cannot see makes me feel vulnerable. But I could never bring myself to get rid of anything; particularly my crystals.
This week I’ve done two specific witchy things which made me think. I stuck a pin in the arm of my sofa after I lost my watch (thanks to @loveofakind who posted about this!), and I reblogged a money spell. Neither of which are things which take a lot of time and effort, but both of them made me think “eh, I really don’t think this’ll work but what’s the harm in trying”.
Straight after I put the pin in the sofa, I found my watch. The morning after I reblogged the money spell, I had a meeting with my new employer and they told me they’re giving me a relocation allowance for my move across country. I wasn’t expecting to get that because I asked weeks ago and they hadn’t responded so I thought it was a “we’re not gonna give you the money but we don’t want to have to tell you that” kind of situation.
Part of me is thinking, “Well, was it the witchy stuff? Would I have found the watch/got the money without it? I mean, the watch was literally right in front of me, and the money from my employer was already a possible option. Where’s the PROOF that there is a direct causal link between my witchy stuff and the money/finding my watch?”. I’m a researcher. I work in analysing evidence to form conclusions based on that evidence, and most of my job is about disentangling coincidence from causality. But just because I apply those rules to my job doesn’t mean I have to apply them to my life.
Witchcraft is a total mindshift for me (and I’m pretty sure I’m not alone in that). I’m finally learning to reconceptualise what I mean by evidence and when my actions, my body and my experiences are that evidence. Because ultimately, I don’t know that my actions led to those particular conclusions. What I do know is that I achieved what I wanted to achieve. I found my watch, and I can afford to move across country. And I don’t know whether my actions played a part in that, but I also don’t know what would have happened if I hadn’t reblogged that post or put a pin in my sofa.
And the biggest part in me learning to feel comfortable as a witch is realising that I’m not trusting something “out there” to achieve the goals I’m aiming for. I’m learning to trust myself.
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So you want to be a witch! Here is my own mini guide to help you get started~
First, ask yourself: 1. What are my interests? How could these interests be incorporated into my personal craft? For example, if you love to cook or bake, kitchen witchery may be something you’d like to explore. If you have a passion for nature, you may like to explore green witchery. The list is endless. If multiple paths interest you, explore them all! You don’t need to pick just one. You may be an eclectic witch. Eclectic witches incorporate many different paths to form their own unique path!
Types of witches include (but are not limited to): kitchen, green, sea, cosmic, hedge, urban, traditional, elemental, eclectic, weather, chaos, divination, etc.
There is also Wicca. However, ignore everything by Silver Ravenwolf.
In addition, there is Druidry, Celtic polytheism, Norse polytheism, Hellenic polytheism, Kemeticism, Christian witchcraft, and more.
You do not have to be religious to be a witch! Many see witchcraft as a skill. Not all witches worship Satan. Witches are not “good” or “evil.” Take everything you read, by anyone, with a grain of salt. Witchcraft is highly personal, and there is a lot of misinformation floating about. Not everything will be factual.
Fancy tools are not a requirement! Tools you make or find by yourself in nature will work just as well (and usually better!) Make your wand from a stick you find on a hike, for example! Then you can customize it however you wish. Add crystals, ribbons, glitter, just make it YOURS! The same thing goes for your Grimoire. You can just use a normal notebook, or binder, and personalize it. You don’t have to spend big money on a book (unless you want to). Witchcraft can be as simple or elaborate as you want it to be. There is much more to explore than in this post alone, so stay tuned for additional posts on a variety of topics! Feel free to shoot me an ask if you have any questions! Stay spooky, be safe, and HAVE FUN!
Ok so I am gonna say this is my personal reference, its mainly through associations. You might TOTALLY disagree and thats chill!
Its more something to think about and a guideline of what I use myself…
Candle Magic:
Carve a candle when…. the candle represents the target, in sympathetic magic. When, essentially, the candle is a poppet and lighting it is a symbol of destruction or empowerment to the target.
Place something under the candle or before it when… you are doing general candle magic, when the candle represents empowering a wish, idea or concept.
Anoint the candle when… doing work with spirits and gods, when you mark the candle for a special purpose, when doing high magic.
Herbs and plant work:
Use dry herbs when… it is convienent to do so, when the herbs are out of season or when you need to store them in a jar or bottle for a long time.
Use fresh herbs when… the spell is very earth orientated, when doing magic on behalf of another or when the magic is sympathetic so that the herbs represent the target, within kitchen witchery.
Use flowers when… when the spell concerns love and sex, or perhaps fertility and attraction, due to flowers being the reproductive parts of the plant.
Use fruit when when… working with children as a target, or with children practising. When you work with fertility and abundance spells.
Use wood and twigs when… when the spell is for protection or binding, for hardiness.
Burn herbs (recaning/incense) when… you wish to cleanse or banish, or invoke an atmosphere - that being, for divination using herbs that are said to open up your perceptions, when banishing, burning acrid or pungent herbs.
Use oil infusions when… you wish to anoint something, when you wish to mark something permanently.
Use floral waters (rose water etc) when… dealing with spirits and gods, for glamour as it has a long history of being used to beautify.
Crystals:
Use metals (haematite, copper, ores etc..) when… you work in protection, when you do energy work due to the conductive properties of metal.
Use shell, pearl, coral and such when… you work in sea magic, when you work within emotional magic due to the element of water.
Use points when… you wish to direct magic to a target.
Use tumble stones when… you wish the magic to be gentle or manifest at a certain place on the body on a target.
Use geodes when… you work in protection, when you work with glamour aimed to obscure and hide.
Knot magic:
Use cotton when… it is convenient.
Use silk when… doing spells that benefit the target.
Use ribbons when… love spells and wealth spells, as well as confidence and beauty spells. Spells to ensure victory.
Use rope when… doing spells that aim to hurt or weaken the target, binding especially.
Poppets:
Use cloth when… the spell aims to benefit who the poppet represents, use particular care when sewing or cutting, choose colours that are appropriate to them.
Use wax when… you wish to manipulate the target.
Use clay when… wish to create fetches or servitors, when you wish to create permanency.
Use twigs when… you wish to bury or throw the poppet out, when you want the poppet to be easily destroyed by breaking or setting on fire.
Sigils:
Use an alphabet grid or circle when… you wish the sigil to be more random and less attached to you.
Combine the shapes of letters from a sentence… when your sigil is very specific and a short term goal.
Use your own personal symbols when… you want the magic to be connected to you, when it is personal.
So what is Ostara?
Ostara is a celebration of the Spring Equinox (March 21) celebrated by many practicing Wiccans, Pagans, and Witches. It marks the day when night and day are equal and balanced. The Sun God’s strength increases and the Goddess celebrates her fertility. Together they bring us Spring.
Ostara is a time for the celebration of fertility and balance, But fertility can be many things. It can be a new beginning hope, Or a fresh start. A goodbye to the harsh cold Winter, And a hello to the change Spring brings us.
Eggs are commonly used for symbolism on this day as they have always been a symbol for fertility and life.
Ostara is very similar to the Christian holiday, Easter where followers celebrate the resurrection of Jesus. Both are celebrating life.
Eggs are commonly used for symbolism on this day as they have always been a symbol for fertility and life.
So what can you do to invite this change and fertility into your life?
Take some egg shells, And hollow them out The idea is to make little “Pots”. Once that is done, Hold them, And think of what you need in your life. A new love? Peace? Healing? What ever it may be write your wishes for the Year on your shells and use them as planters for seeds. Water them, Take care of them and know that as your seedlings grow, They are pulling nourishment from the shells. They are being infused with your own intention. They’re bringing your spell to life.
Once they outgrow there little homes, Plant them outdoors so that they can be a reminder of what Spring brings to you.
Hello!! Want to start off by saying thank you, I hope this isn’t too long, and I love your work! I really enjoyed From Where the Land Meets the Sea and I regularly check The Places You Shouldn’t Be for updates. I’m used to writing long papers for school so sorry if this comes out long! Also I’d like this matchup to be romantic, I’m always so excited and intrigued to hear who others would arrange my marriage to lmao. My Quotev username is Rosemary/SteelOatmeal in case you need it!
Basic info: I’m 19, I use she/her/hers pronouns, and I am bisexual. Astrologically, my big three are pisces, pisces, gemini, and my chart is mostly water and air signs so I’m just a big mess internally :’). I’m an enneagram type 4 and INFP. I’m a big ole introvert but I will let loose and get wild around close friends. I’m a psychology major and I absolutely love learning about how people work; I’m also in marching band bc I’m a big loser /j.
Likes: I like sorting things into categories (as I’ll do with the rest of this essay lol) so I hope that helps you too! I am pagan so I love nature and all that good shit, but I don’t go outside that much bc it’s hot and I’m very lazy. I have a large collection of candles bc I love to set the mood of my space, as well as decorate it with art prints, random shit, and my own paintings. In general, I like my space and clothing to be as comfy and cozy as possible while also being aesthetic and cool. Hand-written notes from loved ones are one of my favorite things and I keep every one I get to look through when I’m sad. I absolutely adore cats, I like to knit/crochet, I consider thrifting a sport (that I do often), I read a lot but only fanfics lmao, my signature look is winged eyeliner, my favorite band is Car Seat Headrest, and I drink large amounts of herbal tea.
Dislikes: Obviously bigots, racists, misogynists, capitalists, and anything-phobes are getting their shit rocked for being scum. I have misophonia so I have to flee my room/put in earbuds often which REALLY sucks and affects my life a lot. I greatly dislike people being judgemental towards others for no good reason (ie cringe culture). When I was younger I was often made fun of for the things I liked and it really did a number on me so it makes me very mad when I see others getting the same treatment. Also raw tomatoes can suck it.
Good traits: I would describe myself as both the funny friend and the cool funky aunt. Also VERY anxious and flighty but sneaky and mischievous; I love some light trespassing and shenanigans. I care a lot about my close relationships and always try to be as helpful as humanly possible for them. I often give people advice and try to be there for them in any way I can (listening, cheering up, encouraging, etc.). It takes me a long time to open up but I consider myself a cool person to talk to and hang out with once you get to know me. I’m very accepting of others, as long as you’re not a bigot or just a dick we’re cool.
Less good traits: I often let my anxiety get in the way of opportunities (social, romantic, events, etc.). It also holds me back from being at all vulnerable with people. I am very paranoid and concerned with safety/not getting caught so I’ve been told I sometimes hold other people back from doing their thing out of my own anxiety. I’m kind of a hermit and incredibly lazy, always have been. I am terrible at confrontation and will avoid it at all costs because I am totally a coward and not afraid (..the irony) to admit it. I can be bossy bc I like having authority, control, and having things done my way.
Fun story!! This is my favorite story to tell, I hope you enjoy! A few years ago I was hanging out with some friends in their neighborhood and we found a storm drain exit hole (??) so we decided to walk in. I’m like 6 feet tall but I only had to crouch a bit to walk the roughly 100 feet into the concrete tube until we reached a small room beneath the manhole/storm drain cover. We all sat in the little room having fun, playing cards, and trying not to be scared of the quiet black tunnels behind us that led further into the drain. A few of the people with us leave to go to the surface. The rest of us are just having a good time when suddenly an extremely loud, thunderous BOOM echoes all around us. I have never felt such immediate, intense, primal fear in my life. I thought either the tunnel was collapsing or pennywise was coming to demolish our stupid teen asses. We briefly share a horrified look before scrambling up and booking it out of the tunnel, me scraping my head and hitting a few spiders on the way out. When we got out, shaking and gasping, we were greeted to the laughs of the guys who left earlier. They had thrown a large rock onto the metal manhole/storm drain cover to scare us. Assholes. Fun to look back on now though lmao.
Thanks again and take care!! :)
Your matchup is… Jane!
In General:
I have said it once, twice and I will say it again, you guys are SO GOOD at making me ??? With who I want to put you with!! And once again, this is just because I find you so interesting and just chef’s kiss with so many different people. SO why did I match you with Jane? Honestly I love Jane and I see her getting along with Pisces and everything about you just vibes with her but I will get into that! I think what genuinely pushed me in that direction over some of the other characters than ran through my head (as in, Hoodie, EJ and maybe,,,,,, just maybe,,,,,,, Toby,,,,,,,) was your hobbies and good traits. but over all sorry I love Jane and I think she would be the best girlfriend ever for you.
Things she likes about you:
Jane has such a sense of justice about her, at least, that’s how I tend to see her. She’s an ambivert leaning towards extroversion and is often the life of the party but I think she genuinely loves how cozy you are because it’s so calming and relaxing to her. She finds everything about you so SO peaceful. She’s also a bit artistic herself so ofc, she loves your artwork. She also finds your personality so admirable because it’s like the perfect balance of doing fun shit and taking it slow. She needs that ngl. The shenanigans like light trespassing? She’s 100% up for that, like literally just going to explore stuff with her if that’s your thing, she’d hold your hand the entire time and probably bust out some history of the place because lowkey, I think she’s into history. I think you also mentioned you’re tall so like she’s into that. I like to think she’s a tall girl too and wears heels just to tower over people lol like Lady D, but make it Jane. She’s here for that. Jane also really likes that you’re helpful/and willing to lend an ear because she has an unhealthy habit of bottling stuff in until it explodes, but I think you’d put her in such a peaceful/safe space that she’ feel willing to let that stuff out healthily and at a good pace rather than waiting until it explodes. Jane doesn’t like cringe culture either - genuinely the only thing she hates is Jeff. Like that’s it. Everything else is just tolerable (but she adores you omfg). She also really likes that your makeup,,,, which leads me to-
General cute stuff:
By the gods let her do your makeup and you do hers. I can just see the two of you sitting on the floor, candles all around, maybe a ring light giggling and doing each other’s makeup. Her hands gently touching your face, caressing you and just telling you how pretty you are like I am weak. Also you mentioned liking cats she likes cats too! At one point she would ask you to knit her something with a cat-- like you two probably have a cat together or something she’s soft. Also, I think she’s the type of girl to send legitimate letters to her GF! Like she would totally just send actual handwritten letters to you, busts out a fountain pen, and then kisses it with her black lipstick with a dash of her perfume and eagerly waits for you to get it. She’s the type of girl to put polaroids too,,,,,, and take an astounding amount of polaroids with you and string them up on her wall or have a “our adventure book” kind of deal. She’s also really perceptive? So, if a situation is ever too much and you need to retreat, she’s got you 100%. If you need your space? That’s totally cool she’s just really understanding of you and everything going on in your orbit. I also like to think she’s that kind of partner that would just exist in a room with you? Like she doesn’t even need to be talking with you to enjoy her time with you (or maybe I really like those pleasant silences lol). She’s also really supportive of everything you do, regardless of what it is because she hates that people hurt you when you were younger. She wants you to absolutely thrive and she will help you do that. Jane also likes,,,,, those nap dates? I mentioned it in another matchup, like "let's take melatonin and sleep together" like that. Just let her hold you while she cuddles you. She likes simple contact. Jane would also join in your hobbies and learn about them if you'd let her. She'd also teach you some things too - mostly protection related because she wants you to stay safe at all times.
You two as a couple:
Thrift dates are a must. No questions asked. Like, she would be so happy to go with you and just do normal stuff and thrifting is just super cute in her opinion? She’s not judgmental at all when it comes to you. Once again, the only person she seems to really dislike and throw any judgment on is Jeff, so like, that might flare up once and again. I also think that in her relationship with you, she’s just really understanding, attentive and willing to go the extra mile to make you feel safe and secure and follow your own guidelines and boundaries when doing so. She’s big on the respect thing. You two are always laughing too? Like, just giggling at everything because it’s always such a fun, wholesome time together. Interestingly enough, Jane can be quite bossy too and likes having total control as well, but she’d work on compromising more just to make you happy (and because compromise is a mostly good thing). Honestly I’m just going to stress communication, but that goes for any relationship really. She also takes a bit to open up in a relationship but that’s because of y’know her history and stuff. But once she does open up? You have a best friend and a solid girlfriend. I also think she’s protective of you. She just wants to make sure you’re safe, happy and healthy on all facets (emotional, physical and mental) and will do whatever she can to make sure you’re in those safe zones. Jane is admittedly a bit of a go getter so sometimes being a hermit won’t mesh entirely well with her, but she gets it. She might encourage you, but let her know if it’s annoying or makes you upset because she will pull back. I think Jane would hope for you to become more open with her as the relationship goes on, but it’s not like she’d actively force you either. Other than that, she’d probably take you to gardens and stuff just to appreciate nature with you. Lil walks out in the woods, looking for fun mushrooms, all that cottagecore stuff lmfao. She would deadass weave flowers into your hair and just bring in pretty flowers because "they remind me of you" y'know? Idk how else to say this woman loves everything about you. She melts in her entirety just by looking at you.
Closing Thoughts/Other Stuff:
I am just here to say I LOVE EVERYTHING ABOUT YOU. You are a psych major? Me too! Hate raw tomatoes? Absolutely! And your story is SO FUN like omfg I wish I had friends to go into Pennywise’s storm drains with smh. Also a fellow pagan hi!! I always get so excited to see others thriving out here. You wrote me a perfect amount and broke it up for me, that is so thoughtful, like I swear I could cry that’s exactly what I want when y’all send me your essays. And you are SO SWEET like I might legitimately cry lmfao. Im soft. You are such a sweet human being I cannot stress that near enough, I hope for nothing but good things, light, and many blessings to come your way. I just adore you, and Jane ABSOLUTELY does too.
Anyways, I hope this was good and that you like it! Lmk what you think, thank you for sending it in! <3
💌 pressed flowers
💌 tea bags (you can write little things about why you like the tea)
💌 a little playlist
💌 polaroids of you and your friends
💌 stickers
💌 postcards from where you’re from
💌 print off photos of your pets
💌 rings or other small jewellery
💌 little drawings and sketches
💌 a heart shaped note with all the things you love about them
💌 some washi tape (you can wrap it around a popsicle stick)
💌 little origami things
💌 small prints
💌 some sweets from where you’re from
💌 a sticker sheet
💌 pretty note paper
💌 some hot/cold beverage sachets
💌 face masks
💌 beauty samples
💌 sticky notes
💌 cut out magazine photos or articles
💌 collages
💌 poetry (either poetry you wrote or your favourite poetry)
💌 you can go to charity stores and find cute cheap books and cut out pages from them to put in your letters
💌 business cards from shops you like
💌 flyers from places you’ve been
💌 maps (of your city or hand drawn maps)
💌 a pen pal tag, a list of questions you want then to answer (There’s a list of them on my blog)
💌 any other little things you want!
I wanted to write a post about you specifically. Yes, you, not someone else, you. I want you to know that your life is not over because you have misophonia, and that you’re important to the world. You have a lot of options as a diagnosed misophonic! Here is sort of a mega-post of information to maybe help you to succeed in life and explore opportunities you may not have known existed :) I’ll also put some photos in between so that you might feel more inspired.
The Importance of Getting a Diagnosis & Your Legal Rights: First off, I think the first step you have to take in making your life easier if you’re still in school is getting a diagnosis from a certified doctor. I know that not every state or region has an audiologist that can diagnose you, but I certainly think that a trip to the nearest one, however long it would take, is completely worth it. Why? Because, as far as I am aware of, if you live in the United States, the United Kingdom, New Zealand, Ireland or Australia, you have anti-discriminatory rights as a disabled citizen. (I know there are laws in other countries, but we’d be here all night if I covered them all!) Here are government links that explain your civil rights in the U.S., the U.K., New Zealand, Ireland and in Australia. Also, I checked with Canada, and they don’t have a law yet, but they’re currently campaigning towards one!) Here are two lists of practitioners who treat misophonia: (Just the United States) and (The U.S. and several other countries). Some of the doctors on the second link might only treat tinnitus, so email them first or look them up! The doctor in London and the doctor in Victoria, Australia do treat misophonia for sure, so do not fret!
Your Legal Rights to Equal Education in These Same Countries: Because there are anti-discriminatory laws in the countries I named, you have an equal right to attain an education as any other non-disabled student. If you are officially diagnosed with misophonia from a certified doctor, these rights legally apply to you, as long as your doctor can explain in a letter exactly why misophonia is a disability for you. In the United States, Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act of 1973 basically says that federally funded schools cannot discriminate or deny a student the same access to education because of their disability, and it specifically covers neurological disorders - which misophonia actually is. Because of this law, I was able to get accommodations at the University of Colorado Denver to make my education attainable. (I am one of two students there with misophonia accommodations!) I am allowed a note-taker, I may leave or skip class without being counted absent (so long as my excuse is misophonia-related), my professors are not allowed to discriminate against me in class because of my disability, I get preferred seating, I can take tests and quizzes in a room by myself (yay!!!), and I am allowed an FM system (an auditory system consisting of earphones for me with a receiver and a microphone for my teacher, so I can’t hear other people!), which my professor is legally required to wear and help me with. I mean, how cool is that?! These are the sorts of accommodations you can ask for when you try to make your case! For a while I had been thinking about dropping out because going to class was so hard, but man, nothing is stopping me now! PhD., here I come!
Those of You Who Are Home-Bound: Even if you can’t stand being in a classroom for any reason, there are many options as far as online school go. Here are 50 online high schools and 542 online colleges and universities! Here are some online programs for those in the UK needing to complete sixth form. I personally know at least one girl with misophonia who is doing online school here in the U.S., and it seems to be working for her :)
Rights As An Employee: Disability laws also protect us in the work space! As far as Section 504 in the U.S. is concerned, an employer is required to accommodate a disabled employee within reasonable means. In the U.K., the Equality Act of 2010 says, that an employer has to make ‘reasonable adjustments’ to avoid you being put at a disadvantage compared to those in your work space who do not have disabilities. In Australia, their anti-discriminatory law says that it is against the law for an employer to act in a discriminatory way towards your disability. Ireland’s Disability Discrimination Act says it is illegal for employers to discriminate against people with disabilities for any reason related to their disability, in all aspects of employment, unless it can be justified. I didn’t quite understand New Zealand’s Disabled Persons Employment Promotion (Repeal and Related Matters) Bill, but you can visit this page for more information if it would be helpful to you!
Ideal Jobs: Basically, I’ve learned that if you have a job where you can control your environment or work alone, it is possible for you to work a job as a professional. Ideal jobs would be things like being a teacher, working from home, owning a business, being a doctor or a counselor, being an electrician, doing work in the field, working in a controlled office, ect. I currently work at my dad’s office, where I am mostly on my own. The secretary I work with knows about my condition and helps me out in any way I need! To be honest, I’m kind of scared to get a job working in customer service because my triggers are so bad, so I additionally raise cows, whom for the most part, don’t bother me yet. Plus, they pay for my textbooks!
Places to Find Online Support: These blogs: confessions-of-a-misophonic, adventures-in-misophonia, misophonia–sucks, misophonia-isnt-fun, living-with-miso, misophoniachicago, misophoniaadailyhell, and misophoniaandme!
These Facebook groups: “Misophonia Coping and Solutions”, “Misophonia: Selective Sound Sensitivity Syndrome (4S)”, and “Misophonia-Parents of children with misophonia”.
Websites: Misophonia Online, the Misophonia Association, and Haunted by everyday noises.
Conclusions: I really stand by the fact that even while you have misophonia, you are still able to live and interact with the world, and you are also able to make a difference! The Internet, in this way, is a beautiful and wondrous tool that allows us to come together as a community, share ideas with one another, and encourage each other. I don’t know where I’d be if I didn’t have you all for support! I’d encourage you all to think of the talents you have been gifted with and maybe think of ways you can use them to further raise awareness and help other misophonics in our community. Like, if you’re going to be a misophoniac, be a damn good one, right? If you’re a musician, maybe write songs; or if you’re an artist, create ways for others to visualize what we have; if you’re confident, make videos, talk about what you have, and share them with the world; and if you’re not too bad at writing, speak out and communicate! I mean, that’s how this ridiculous blog got started. I just thought I’d share a few ideas and then it kind of bubbled over and came to life! It’s one of the best decisions I ever made.
You all have voices and are important to the world, make something of yourself that you can be proud of! You won’t regret it.
I’m sorry, I shouldn’t have done that, I’m going to go bleach my eyes.