Once again annoyed and posting about this elven vampire's canon sexuality because I'm getting increasingly sick of people being willfully ignorant of it...
Astarion is PANSEXUAL. This is CANON.
He is not a asexual. He is not simply gay, either.
I have not played the game, but I have literally watched so many videos and clips that I know enough of his backstory. Neil himself, the actor who played Astarion, has outwardly confirmed that Astarion is, in fact, pansexual.
When romancing him in game, yes, he expresses that he doesn't want you or anyone else to see him in terms of sex--because he is healing from that being all he ever was. Astarion was a prostitute while under Cazador's command. Take note of him mentioning entertaining Cazador's guests in a specific room, one which has a large bed with what looks to be silk sheets on it in the middle of it.
He talks about being confined to the pleasure chambers. If you visit the drow twins and proposition them, there's a chance for dialogue in which he literally outright calls himself an elven prostitute ("You have a type, don't you? Elven prostitutes? Again? It's rather embarrassing, dear.") He also says he's never been on the paying end of a brothel.
His dislike of being sexually objectified comes from a place of trauma that he is trying to heal from.
But wait--there's more.
Because he does eventually heal enough that he desires sex. Specifically with your Tav. Whom he loves. Genuinely.
He brings it up on his own, and wants to act upon it. This occurs in the graveyard, directly on top of his very own grave. This is him taking back his bodily autonomy. Making sex with your Tav special, and his own, and something he wants.
This want will occur regardless of your Tav's gender. Astarion expresses sexual interest in your Tav. He is not asexual.
And for the record, here's the textbook definition of asexuality: adjective--experiencing no sexual feelings or desires; not feeling sexual attraction to anyone. Noun--a person who experiences no sexual feelings or desires, or who is not sexually attracted to anyone.
But Astarion does experience sexual attraction and desire. For your Tav. And it is wildly maddening that people keep finding ways to erase his pansexuality.
Hell, I'd accept panromantic demisexual as a take, considering the fact that yeah, he really doesn't have a preference regarding gender, but his sexual attraction is focused on your Tav. But to pop off saying he's asexual or solely gay is a stretch, and whether you mean for it to be or not, it is pansexual erasure.
Don't get me wrong, headcanon how you want, but don't go blatantly spitting opinions as if they are fact, when his canon lore says otherwise.
Y'all keep spouting about "respecting the character," but then, by disregarding his actual sexuality and preferences end up directly disrespecting the very character you demanded respect for.
"It's rather embarrassing, dear."
Edit: Just to be clear, this doesn't mean I have anything against people who are asexual or gay. Everybody is free to be who they are and have their own preferences, and I love and respect that! This is simply in regards to the character Astarion specifically, because we have been given canon lore and answers in regards to his sexuality, and people have been willfully and blatantly ignorant of it just because of certain aspects of him that they choose to hyperfixate on, which in turn completely eliminates all other aspects of his character and it is extremely disappointing to see happening when we consider how loved this character has become and how many people have resonated with him.
I made this a long time ago but for some reason never posted! It is my quick guide to protecting yourself against burnout as a person with ADHD and ASD.
Of course it is all about meeting your support needs at the end of the day, which are completely individual and may vary over time, but this could function as a guide if you have a hard time figuring out where to start! 🫶🏻 💙💙💙
Here’s a mostly accurate self portrait sadly my binder doesn’t have the flags :((( and I don’t have elf ears- lmao
But yea
I’m kinda gay in all the ways :)
Fool
So
There has been a running gag that on of the characters in the dnd game I’m in is Glamrock Freddy. Here’s why
Characters
Darya: swashbuckler rogue white tiger Tabaxi
My character
Makoto: rogue black dragon borne in the beginning
Now a barbarian
The pc in question
Salvera aka Salsa: bard aarakocra
So this started when it was just me and Mak’s pc and of course the dm
One day Mak’s pc wasn’t there so it was just me and the dm
We were in a dungeon and our dm forgot that Mak was a thing
So I was going down
AND THEN
He remembered
So he says Darya hears the Freddy Faz Bear running from security breach as Mak then proceeds to smite everyone in the room
So it eventually became a thing that we would laugh at when Mak wasn’t there or when he got back
Fast forward to now
Mak’s PC hasn’t been back in a WHILE
So it’s me Salsa’s pc and of course our lovely dm
WHO
HAS DECIDED TO EXPLAIN WHY MAK IS ESSENTIALLY BECOME BRAIN DEAD
So we fought the arch angel Gabriel and Mak got light poisoning
Which essentially in a year
Will turn him into an angel
But he specifically got it in his soul
So he still fights and everything but there’s nothing back there (for now)
This led to a class change and lots of emotions from Darya but most importantly
THUMP THUMP THUMP
Is even more accurate and cannon
Mood
Darya stood staring at her mother who she had looked up to her entire life.
This wasn’t right.
But she knew it was the truth.
And so…
She said to her
You’re no captain.
And I should have seen it long ago.
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My dnd character last session and something close enough to what was said :D
Holy—
This has been a wild ride
We’ve hit the two year mark on the game I’m in and wow
And the next session will be the final one
In the dnd game I’m in yesterday we discovered something amazing
My friend sent me this after saying something without context and I felt like I needed to share it
The characters
Dm: dungeon master
Darya (Rogue Fighter (Pirate) Tabaxi): my character
Salsa/Salvera (Bard bird): my friend that did this
Makoto/Mak/Mac n Cheese/Freddy Faz Bear (Chaotic ass barbarian dragonborne)
The player/friend that’s been gone so he’s turned into Freddy from security breach
God/Caius (unarmed fighter): NPC we dragged along
So we stepped into basically a boss arena in these super cold icy mountains
Darya rolled stupid high on history and investigation a 31 and nat 20 with a total of 34
She finds a symbol of Tiamat in the floor
(And some other things but what matters is the symbol)
(We have dealt with Tiamat and Asmodeus before when Mak accidentally released hell)
AND OUT OF NO WHERE
MY GOOD PAL
THE PC OF SALSA AKA SALVERA
“Tiamat is Cotten eye joe”
We all started dying
And I was sent this
I LOVE BEING MORE FEMININE!!! AND IF YALL DONT LIKE ARTISTS DRAWING ME THAT WAY I DONT CARE!!!! I ALSO LIKE BEING MASCULINE AT TIMES!!! I FLIP FLOP!!! IF ANYONE CROSSES A LINE I WILL SAY SOMETHING!!! WHO CARES LETS ALL BE SILLY!!!!
An idiot who manages to keep a menace to society and a horseThey/them/he/him
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