Not That Anybody Asked, But I Think It's Important To Understand How Shame And Guilt Actually Work Before

Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

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3 months ago

it must suck ass to be an in-universe fan of Rantaro Amami in DRV3

like, imagine you spend a whole killing game rooting for your favorite character and they manage to make it to the end, only for them to end up participating in the next killing game

so you think "okay, he's a smart guy, he already survived one killing game, we've all seen that. surely he's gonna survive again"

and then he's the first one to fucking die


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3 months ago

opinions on a device that would squeeze someone's testicles? it will not be using generative ai to achieve the squeezing.

Well, I'm sure someone would enjoy that. I'm not sure how generative ai even would do squeezing. Also, I think that exists.


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4 months ago
Redrew That One Comic

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6 months ago

hi niviiiiii . nivilus…. nebula? nivvvvvvv-virus :3

i dunno how much time you spend with these types of concepts. but do you have any danganronpa character fursona assignments in that head of yours :3 if you do i wanna know ‘em ^_^

Oh boy. Rubbing my hands together, okay, okay. I'm not really a furry, actually, so it isn't something I think about much. I will think hard about it right now.

Komaeda can be a hare, obviously. Lucky rabbit's foot. Or you could consider a lizard, lizards can be lucky as well. He does give lizard-like impressions, but I think he fits a hare better with that hair and his personality overall. I also like the idea of him being a praying mantis regardless of whether it makes sense. I love praying mantises.

Hinata is, I know this seemed like a joke, boar-like to me. He could be a deer, as well, but I also feel he might just be a dog, a classic. Yeah, he's dog-like.... I think Naegi is a small mammal, like a chinchilla. Maizono is definitely a bird like a swan, in my opinion. Byakuya is either some type of bird or a lion... Ishimaru is a goat... Nanami is a sloth or a cat. She could also be a koala, considering they sleep a lot, too. Sonia seems like a horse. Saionji is a weasel, maybe?

I would want Enoshima to be a bear simply because of Monokuma. Oh, Enoshima and Ikusaba would be a black and a white bear. That's clever, isn't it? I'm not sure which would be which. Likely Enoshima would be the one with white fur, and Ikusaba would be the one with black fur.

....Would it be cute (and a good visual) if Monaca was a bear, as well?

I don't know how to anthropomorphize animals, really. I will think about more later.


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3 months ago

it rly is weird how theres this culture in progressive spaces where like you can be as mean, as CRUEL even, as you want as long as youre not being explicitly bigoted towards any marginalized group of people and still be seen as a really good person with good morals who nobody is allowed to have beef with bc theyve never done anything racist or homophobic


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4 months ago

How it feels seeing people mischaracterize Rantaro by making him a womanizer, asshole, abuser, or cheater:

How It Feels Seeing People Mischaracterize Rantaro By Making Him A Womanizer, Asshole, Abuser, Or Cheater:

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