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body neutrality will always be more important than body positivity. you don't need to expand your definition of beauty to include yourself. you have a nose for breathing, legs for walking, and eyes for seeing. you don't owe "beauty" to anyone. learn to be comfortable in your body without having to be seen as 'attractive". confidence does not mean attractiveness

“Female-assigned intersex kids’ vaginal canal size is also assessed by doctors, to ensure that it’s long enough to fit a penis inside of it. Doctors might surgically construct or re-construct vaginas, which can result in a host of health problems and necessitate multiple, multiple surgeries. This is especially the case since most intersex kids have these surgeries very young, and when their bodies grow into their adult forms, more surgeries are necessary to keep their vagina size in proportion. Non-surgical methods are also used to increase or maintain vaginal length by regularly using medical dildos to stretch the vagina over months and years. (It’s kind of like braces for your vagina, but much, much worse.) Just like there are no standards for how long a clitoris “can” be before it’s classified as a penis, there aren’t absolute standards as to how long a vagina is for it to be of “normal” length. I had a dilation procedure performed for almost every exam I had with intersex doctors from the time I was 8 until I was 16, so that they could check how long my vagina was as I grew. I absolutely hated these procedures. I mean, imagine a man as old as your father or your grandfather, who you don’t know, inserting a medical dildo into you each time you saw him, knowing that you can’t question the doctor’s orders and just accept that you have to undergo these uncomfortable procedures for your health. Imagine a decade or so later, realizing that these procedures did nothing to track your health, and had everything to do with grown men feeling good about the fact that you could fuck some dude someday like a “normal girl”. That all those traumatizing procedures weren’t actually medically relevant at all, and it actually was within my right to refuse those examinations. I didn’t know any of that at the time. I also had no idea that I wouldn’t want to ultimately have the kind of sex they assumed I’d be having, adding yet another layer of this-was-totally-unnecessary/messed-up to my history. Other kids shouldn’t have to go through this. Other adults shouldn’t have revelations some day far into the future that what was happening to them WASN’T okay, and their traumatic feelings ARE valid, and the whole system of how intersex people are conceptualized and “treated” IS entirely fucked. And it’s gotta change. We’ve gotta change it.”

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—-Claudia at Autostraddle

I just read this article and was reminded once again how invisible the intersex community often is… we need to signal boost this shit to let people know that this kind of “medical treatment” is NOT okay.

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Felt straight-up ill reading this. This is the institutionalized rape of children. It’s beyond unconscionable that procedures like this are normalized and considered “treatment”.

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jfc

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Revolting and repugnant.

See why intersex folk don’t like their medical issues being used as a rhetorical gotcha?

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Intro ig:

Patch (not my irl name, for safety reasons)

Adult

Lesbian (I dislike gender stereotypes but for the sake of being understandable I’d be considered gnc

South Indian born, raised in the US

18

This is a sideblog for my political opinions, non political opinions, and everything in between. If you disagree with me that’s fine lol, I’m always willing to have respectful conversations in DMs or asks.

Politics under the cut: Note that these aren’t 100% super detailed descriptions of every one of my political beliefs, feel free to ask for clarification

I consider myself a leftist, not a liberal

I disagree with a lot of liberal feminism takes, though I used to be one

It was not a great space for me, so I left

Feminism, Radical Feminism, Liberal Feminism, oh my!

I don’t label myself as anything other than a feminist, do not put labels on me. If I tag something as ‘blank’-feminism, it’s for the algorithm

Sex is why women are an oppressed class, gender is the reinforcement of that oppression.

Patriarchy harms everyone, but women should always be centered in feminist discussions

Also, it is not women’s responsibility to deal with male on male violence

Single sex spaces are important, but excessive cruelty towards transsexual people is largely unwarranted, and only alienates possible allies within other oppressed communities

Men are not innately bad or evil, but they are socialized to be oppressors of women. Misandry is not an axis of oppression Radblr has an issue with demeaning heterosexual women, and borderline racist extremism. Insulting the appearance or orientation of *anyone* is not activism. It’s assholery.

Pro-abortion, Pro-divorce, Pro-sex *worker* (Decriminalize, but never legalize. Pimps and Johns should be prosecuted as rapists)

Anti-makeup, Anti-cosmetic surgery, Anti-pornography, Anti-prostitution

Kink-critical, gender-critical, adoption-complex (I’m an adoptee myself, don’t come at me)

I’m a lesbian, so obviously I’m pro-homosexuals.

Bi women and lesbians are each other’s biggest allies, and we need more solidarity.

Lesbian means woman loving woman *exclusively*. Sapphic means non-exclusively loving women as a woman Butch/Femme are terms that rely on gender stereotypes and need to be re-examined by the community

Gay men should not be allowed to get away with rampant misogyny like they are Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, etc are not definitionless terms. Sexuality is not fluid. Pansexual and its offspring are the same as Bisexual

Stop normalizing slurs and “reclamation”, that goes for “qu—r” too.

Trans people…the million dollar question

I believe gender dysphoria exists, and that there are transsexual individuals who genuinely believe themselves to be a different sex

However, most people who call themselves trans*gender* and do not have sex dysphoria simply reject gender roles

Therapy should be required before any medical intervention, and absolutely no medical or legal changes for minors, including self ID on driver’s licenses, medical records, etc

I suffer dysphoria myself and am in therapy for it. I do not consider myself transsexual, nor am I pursuing any type of transition, but I understand the struggle. I was at my worst mentally when I was active in the trans community

I can respect trans people as human beings without agreeing with their politics

I’ll add more as I think of them.

Note: I don’t believe in DNIs for my blogs. That is how echochambers are created. I will respect someone else’s DNI. Also, never put a list of your triggers and discomforts on the internet. Anyone can interact, if it’s in bad faith I’ll just block you lol

hey so it’s march now aka the beginning of endometriosis awareness month and i feel obligated to remind you that debilitatingly painful periods are not normal. if you or someone you know is ending up sick or bedridden every month, you are not crazy and deserve medical attention from someone who will take you seriously

biological differences between men and women are inherently neutral. they do not indicate male superiority over female people. to suggest so is inherently sexist. to complain when female sports cater to female anatomy - such as the smaller balls in the wnba because women tend to have smaller hands - is what sexists do. they want women to be forced to prove ourselves according to standards designed for men because they want to see us fail. it is sexist to argue that women who wish to compete on their own terms are pronouncing themselves as inferior. nobody said that but you. because you’re a sexist that hates women

Important

One of the best things about going to a single sex girls school was that they gave us a series of classes on female specific self defence incase we were attacked by a male.

I remembered some tips I thought would be useful for women to know

I don’t remember everything but here are some tips I do remember

- often times male perpetrators will cover their groins so don’t focus on the crotch, instead focus on places like the eyes and knees.

- if you’re really in a dire situation where a man is straddling you then try and snap his legs apart very quickly with yours, because this can disable them very quickly.

- you can also impact on the under side of the nose to kill a man if you really need to. Useful to know.

- they’ll try and disable your hands, and if this happens use your feet or your head. Women have biologically less upper body strength so these are also effective at making impact.

- avoid men doing a stupid walk with baggy trousers on. A lot of the time this means they have a knife, and if it doesn’t then they’re stupid and you should avoid them anyway.

-if you’re stabbed avoid taking the knife out, because it acts as a plug to stop you from bleeding out.

- In terms of prevention, it’s helpful to basically always keep friends around you, but also to go to establishments you know will care if you’re being hurt. I personally have been spiked before in a club that didn’t care at all, and it was horrible - do your research before you go out.

These are obviously limited tips but I enjoy this channel as a means of learning self defence - https://youtube.com/@empowered8083?si=lU2YEI89phKXgEJi

YouTube

Empowered

Ma'am Cheryl Sanders and Master Jonathan Field of Empowered strive to help women and young girls build confidence and find their inner stren

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Some devastating facts about abortion rights in Europe:

Polish abortion laws lay out that the rights of a foetus are more important than those of pregnant persons.

In Malta, women are sent to prison if they get an abortion.

In Austria, abortion is written into criminal code - this means it is considered a crime if it is not carried out as by the law. Doctors in Austria use papayas to learn how to perform an abortion.

Women in Hungary are forced by the law to listen to “the foetal heartbeat” before they can have an abortion.

The current law governing abortions in Germany was accepted during the Nazi regime. It is still referred to as “the Nazi law” by some movements.

In Italy, 80% of doctors refuse to perform an abortion. Plus, the government is financing movements that enter abortion clinics and harrass women who want to get an abortion.

Abortion rights in Europe are fragile. Sign our initiative to make abortion safe and accessible to everyone in the EU.