Notlycan-this - Not Lycan This

having a degradation kink is so insane. i was having a hard time verbalizing what i wanted because he called me a “poor little thing” and instead of letting me recover, he doubled down: “god, i can’t believe you like being talked down to. that’s pretty fucking pathetic, only sluts like to be treated like this.” and then istg my eyes glazed over and i was GONE

A brief lesson on why relying on generative AI for sex ed is harmful:

Okay Google, what the fuck is this?

This is so concerning... The Google Gemini AI overview is clearly so confused by the existence of trans men.

I'm not sure if it's better or worse that Gemini isn't even trying to answer the same question, but rephrased.

The phrasing "some straight women may be looking for something they don't have" rubs me the wrong way. Also, separating queer women from women in general is upsetting.

I'm conflicted on whether or not we should help Google with training Gemini, but considering how many people rely on Google for information, I've come to the conclusion that--for now--it is worth it to always hit the "thumbs down" icon underneath the generations that turn up poorly and describe in detail what's wrong with the result. 👎

After all, when we tell people not to ask offensive questions to transgender people, the usual advice is "Go Google it!"

As distrustful as I am of Gemini's results, most people that I've met are more than willing to accept its responses at face value. At the very least, the average user seems to accept it for a quick and easy surface level response.

The HRC and PFLAG have much better resources on LGBTQIA+ identity and how to support your loved ones.

don’t get me wrong i love ftm puppy subs so much (i’m one myself) but can we talk about the big ftm dog doms?? the doms who growl and howl in your ear as they’re fucking you. the doms who whine whenever you clench around them. it’s a dream to have one

Y'know, when cis people pull the 'All trans men have to do to pass is throw on a hoodie and cut their hair.' It's like... Right. That's dumb, but you're cis, and you will never understand the lived trans experience.

It bothers me more when trans women say it. Because it's like? You know things aren't that easy, you are trans.

Trans women get shoulder dysphoria from feeling like they're too wide, hip dysphoria from feeling like they're too slim, chest dysphoria from feeling like it's too flat, voice dysphoria from feeling like it's too low, height dysphoria from feeling too tall. And no one will suggest to them that these feelings (and subsequent perceptions and hate from cis people) will be solved by growing out their hair and throwing on a dress.

What makes them think trans men don't experience the exact same things but in reverse? Shoulders that feel too narrow, hips that feel too wide, chest that feels too big, voice that feels too high, height that feels too short.

If you experience dysphoria, know dysphoria, and know how awful it can get. And you also know that cis people will use these things against you in order to misgender you. Then I do not understand why you would pretend another party in the same category would not have these issues whatsoever.

And I feel the need to clarify, because this always happens when someone makes a post about trans men's struggles. This is not a dig at trans women, this is not transmisogyny. This is about a very specific group of trans people who downplay the issues of trans men. If you are not part of that group, good! Then this is not a dig at you.

“Fiction influences reality, but does not directly cause reality” is … not something I ever imagined would be controversial, and yet here we are.

also yeha because i just saw someone else mention this: forcemasc IS transgressive for kink spaces because trans men & mascs are frequently infantalized , feminized and forced into submissive roles. and its not just an old issue, i see it on here every day. ppl love to reduce trans men to their (assumed) pussies and then get mad when we try to have any sexual agency

the craziest thing about being transmasc or a trans man is that people LOVE to say you’re gonna look ugly, gonna turn ugly etc. and personally for a while i bought into this nonsense. but one day i decided fuck it, decided to transition and you know what happened? i still retained the most handsome parts of the person i was before. but i looked happier. i looked more beautiful, more handsome, prettier, stylish, hot. because i finally looked like me & so much happier and confident. anyway, this is just to say - go transition dude, if you’re hesitating. you will only look even more handsome & beautiful, fuck their propaganda.

that's... not how it works. you can't guarantee that your work definitely won't squick anyone. what do you think you're saying?

buzzcut forcemasc is all fine and good but what about metalhead forcemasc. maybe you’ve had long hair all your life, maybe you haven’t, but then you meet a guy who teaches you how to grow it out. how to take care of it. he shows you how to talk loud and headbang and take up space, and when your hair is all grown out he runs his hands through it and drags you by the roots to stand tall in front of a mirror. this is who you are. doesn’t it feel good?

partially inspired by this post

If you're holding back on being masc because you think you need to be a skinny white man to pass, give that the fuck up. Be big if you're big, be brown if you're brown, be assertive, take up space, be whatever the fuck kind of man/masc you are and stop waiting. Stop trying to diminish your power out of fear.