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At the risk of sounding anti-intellectual, I think that college should be free and also not a requirement for employment outside of highly specialized career fields

“One small push, and you can do so so much.”

Believe in yourself

I need Coffee for help.

At times it’s really relieving to hear words like these

It’s very important to always have hope. No matter what anyone says. It doesn’t matter if a thousand people are surrounding you and desperately telling you that everyone is shitty, and nobody cares about you, and the world is horrible, blah blah blah, and that you HAVE to hate everyone and distrust everyone. Don’t listen to them. You are allowed to still have hope. You are still allowed to see the good in the world. You are still allowed to put out into the world what you want to see. You are still allowed to be who you want to be.

And you are still allowed to be kind, even if it seems hopeless, even if you feel like you’re out of options, even if some people are mean when you try to spread kindness or be kind to them. Do not be discouraged. There will always be people like that in the world, there will always be all kinds of people in the world because the world is diverse and complex, but there will also be one or two people who will feel hopeful because you were kind to them. That is what matters. That is what will always matter.

Tips

“Video game soundtracks can help with productivity since it’s made to keep you focused and concentrated”

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Understand why you’re doing what you are doing.

procrastination

things i’ve learned: 

procrastination is an pain-avoidance response. predicting that the task is going to be painful triggers your coping mechanisms and you do whatever you can to avoid the task at hand. 

your emotions can’t be pushed away or ignored because your animal/emotional brain is trying to protect you from threats to your physical/mental health. if the task you’re doing is painful, you have to acknowledge those feelings. find the source of your anxiety and how you expect yourself to feel doing the task. then use dbt skills to help regulate emotions, actions and expectations.  

things have to be broken into smaller tasks. ask yourself: what’s the next action? what’s the next task? break it down into steps that are manageable. focus on what you want to achieve in the moment. no need to worry about the “bigger picture” when you’re directionless.