If You’re Not X Group, You Don’t Get To Tell X Group Shit About Themselves. I Can Assure You, We

If you’re not x group, you don’t get to tell x group shit about themselves. I can assure you, we trans-mascs are aware of the privilege we have over trans femmes, but that doesn’t mean we aren’t oppressed. Do not tell me what my experiences are. Do not pretend like you know our experiences better than we do. Also, as a white LGBT, I apologize on behalf of my ignorant brethren.

honestly there are like...so many parallels between being transmasc and being mixed race. which is why it feels so dang familiar when people on here talk about how "transmascs have privilege over the rest of us" in the face of very real lived experiences to the contrary.

like some of us who are mixed race are white-passing. some of us are not. but sometimes it depends on the culture we're in, sometimes it's literally just a matter of who we're perceived by and whether they know enough to identify that we're different. I remember stretches of my existence where I assumed everyone saw me as white and then suddenly a strange white man comes up to me alone in the park and says "I've always found asian women attractive" and I'm like. oh. right. I will always be the Other to some people.

but then you date an asian person who suddenly tells you "you're white, 100%, white girl, nobody in here sees you as asian" and, sure, not that day, not in san francisco in a vietnamese restaurant. but there's a specific, unique experience of walking that tightrope every single day, wondering how you'll be perceived then, in that room, by that person who has more power than you.

I feel like so much of my life I have dealt with being Othered by white people and simultaneously regarded with suspicion in asian spaces as an outsider, that this whole discourse around "you transmascs can fit in with cis men, you dont need the LGBT community and it doesn't need you" reeks of such bullshit from people whose identities have always neatly fit into a particular box.

and even guys who pass 100% of the time, wherever they are? even completely white passing mixed race people have different lived experiences that continue their whole lives. experiences of being raised by a parent from a minority race/culture, of being with extended family, of observing traditions that are not observed by the majority, of speaking a different language--that to simply defer to their outward appearance is a denial of their familial and personal history.

like. I am absolutely tired of people who are not party to a particular experience deciding that everything about that experience is fine and not as bad and therefore not even deserving of the acknowledgment of its existence. white LGBTs who are spouting this bullshit, your words are very familiar to me and now I know how you'd feel about my race as well. 🙃

Too tall

You: My boyfriend is too tall for me to kiss him on the lips. What should I do?

Tony: Punch him in the stomach. Then, when he doubles over in pain, kiss him. Simple.

Steve: Tackle him.

Natatsha: Dump him.

Thor: Kick him in the shin.

Loki: NO TO ALL OF THOSE. WHAT THE FUCK MORTALS? JUST ASK ME TO LEAN DOWN.

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ohlookitsrex

4 years ago

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ohlookitsrex

4 years ago

Tony dies:

Marvel/Russo brothers:

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ohlookitsrex

4 years ago

Theo, my girl, my idol, my star, my main bitch, I gotta read about the first time that Loki is seen out and about after he's been released pleeeaaaasseeeee (and some sexual tension wouldn't hurt)

part 18 of predating idiots, in which you speak with that idiot for the first time since…everything happened. (he hasn’t exactly been released, but close enough ;))

warnings: long ass chapter with blood, injuries, pain, alongside some denial and awkward moments :))

Life without a fake-boyfriend has become rather, well, quiet.

Keep reading

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ohlookitsrex

3 years ago

SFW PROMT LIST

please specify readers gender when requesting or it’ll be GN <33

i can do the same prompt twice with a different character :)

1. “sure the fireworks are cool, but the sight in front of me is much better.”

2. “well, i heard you singing this song when i walked past your room one day, and everyday since it’s been my favourite song.”

3. “you’re scared of the dark?”

4. “i can’t always think of comebacks.”

5. “when are you going to quit the pick-up lines and ask me on a date?”

6. “who said a bus ride can’t be romantic?”

7. “yoga?”

8. “you left your book in the library so here.”

9. “i’ve been watching you for a while. not in a creepy way or anything i just really like you-“ peter maximoff

10. put together on a project

11. “you’re the most annoying person i’ve ever met in my life.”

12. fake dating/turns to confession and or falling for each other

13. “i hate you so much i think i’m in love with you.”

14. “stuck in this airport too, huh?”

15. “i don’t like heights that much.”

16. reader takes peter to their hometown (please specify what country/town/state/etc you’re in if you want to request this)

17. “i think the train is stuck.”

18. “can i copy your notes?”

19. “is this seat free?”

20. “my pet ran away, can you help me find it?” (if you want it to be the readers pet, please specify what pet you have/want it to be)

21. “come back to bed” peter maximoff

request something here!

i’ll add to these later on <3

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ohlookitsrex

3 years ago

I want to be more masculine so how can I change the way u act to be more like a guy. I remember one time where passed but people found out I was afab because I was more feminine. So how do I come off as a boy, I hope ysll got some advice <3

- A trans

Binding

Clothing

Facial hair

Masculine makeup

Getting short hair / Masculine long hair

Lowering your voice

Passing as male

FTM Guide

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ohlookitsrex

4 years ago

You know, I love the Marvel movies, but they're doing something wrong that the comics did right. The movies are erasing important, distinctive parts of the characters.

Hawkeye is disabled/deaf in the comics, but not in the movies

Loki is genderfluid, yet we've only seen him as male in the movies

Wanda is Jewish and Romani in the comics, but she's played by a white person (don't get me wrong though I love Elizabeth Olsen and think she's doing a great job) and in Captain America: Civil War, Wanda had crosses on her wall in her room, which are clear Christian symbols

Joe Russo played the MCU's "first openly gay character" in Avengers: Endgame and the representation was so small that it was kind of insulting. Now, having said that, this means Marvel's taking a step in the right direction, but given their track record, I'm afraid they're going to straightwash Billy and Tommy Maximoff (if they grow older than children) like they did with Ayo (Black Panther), Mystique (X-men), and Valkyrie (Thor: Ragnarok). Plus, Billy, at least, isn't just a minor gay character. He and his husband are like THE LGBT icons of the Marvel Universe. They have a whole comic line just dedicated to their wedding.

(Plus, back to the Wanda being Jewish thing, you can clearly see Billy wearing a kippah at his wedding in the second picture, which is a Jewish cap. They did, in fact, have a Jewish wedding in the comics. She raised (or rather didn't????) her kids to be Jewish like her.)

I'm sure there are probably several other characters that have characteristics that are being overlooked that I haven't listed here, but these are just the few that I could think of. All I'm saying is I want more than just Tony's PTSD represented. Because that was also a real problem and I'm not ignoring that Marvel did do a good job of showing that. But I want more than that.

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ohlookitsrex

4 years ago

This needs to be shared