The Pleasure Is Simply Too Much

Does an older gentleman making you put on nipple clamps with little bells on them while you rub and edge yourself silly for his amusement sound hot to you?

hihi!

my daddy isn’t all that into ddlg stuff and some of the bdsm things that i myself am into

however he’s interested in sex and mostly sex he’s not interested in the emotional side of bdsm purely the sex and pleasure for him

it upsets me that he doesn’t want to explore kinks with me but i can understand most of the time

i was wondering if you had any advice

The short answer here is “it depends”.   It depends on multiple factors.  Perhaps your partner is just selfish and does not care all that much.   More likely, your partner may just not be super comfortable with taking the dynamic further and doesn’t want to feel embarrassed… like they don’t know what to do. Rather than risk looking/feeling stupid, they avoid taking things further and may even claim they are not that “into it”.    Fear generally and fear of something so personal as sexual embarrassment are quite potent motivators to overcome.   If he doesn’t care enough, that is another story altogether.  

However, if they care about you, you may be able to convince them to explore more, but it will take some work to make them comfortable with it.  

 In anon... I can only offer some general advice on how to get an intimate partner to explore more things with you.  Every relationship is different, and what works for one may not work for another. Therefore, I encourage you to communicate openly, honestly and respectfully with your partner about your desires and expectations and listen to their feelings and preferences.  The biggest key to deepening your relationship this way and reaching your goals is empathy.   It is the most powerful thing humans do.   There are ways to help this, but that is a bit deeper and would likely require direct messaging rather than anon.  Or if you like I can point you to some resources on it.

Feel free to reach out more if you like.  Either way, I wish you all the best.

Real-Life Experience

Sir loves watching football. He also loves watching me torture myself with pleasure. Last night, he had me strip naked and lie in front of the television with my legs spread. During play time I had to be touching myself. I could edge, rub my clit, fuck myself with my fingers, whatever I wanted- except cum. During halftime I was on no-touch. Sir made me crawl over to him and use my mouth to pleasure his cock and balls, pussy denied and dripping, until he came deep in my throat. I swallowed every drop, like a good slut should. Then back in front of the television to edge through the second half. When the game was over, he asked me if I wanted to cum now. I was so horny and desperate after nearly two hours of teasing. I ached for that orgasm.

“Yes, Sir… PLEASE. Please. I want it so, so badly. Please let me cum, Sir.”

“Well, you’ve been such a good girl all evening… fine, you can cum.”

“THANK YOU, SIR.”

“-but! You have a choice. You have permission to cum however you want, as hard as you want. You won’t get in trouble if you cum properly. No punishment. But it would make me so very happy if you’d ruin it for me.”

My clit was throbbing with the built-up pleasure. I wanted that orgasm so badly. But I wanted to make Sir happy too.

“But, sir… please. Please, I edged so good.”

“I know, and you can cum. I love watching you cum. But I love watching you ruin it even more. Can you think of a better reason to cum properly than that your ruin would make me happy? Don’t stop touching while you think about it.”

I kept slowly rubbing my clit.

“No, sir… I want to make you happy… but… I want to cum… so much… god…”

“Your choice, princess.”

I struggled so hard, feeling that orgasm build, right on the edge… the orgasm that would take me over, would feel so incredible… maybe the last orgasm I’d be offered for days… yes… yes… yes… I tipped over the edge. And then I ruined it. Hard. For him.

I pulled my hands back to my thighs, screaming at the feeling of my pussy spasming and twitching as all that pleasure slipped away, ensuring I’d stay horny and desperate all night.

He came over then and wrapped his arms around me, kissing my forehead and telling me all the things that make the denial and frustration worth it. “Good girl. I’m so proud of you, princess. You made me so happy today. You’re so perfect like this.”

And then he said the hottest, most perfect, cruelest thing of all.

“Now give me another ruin.”

I love him so much.

You know

That fantasy you drift to in your mind when you want to  touch yourself.  You’re not sure if you want to  touch yourself  now but you  keep thinking about it  .   You know when you  think about will you  edge yourself,  it always makes those thoughts stir deep inside you.   They stir when you think about how edging makes you feel and what that means for your satisfaction.  Edging is exciting for you, good for you and fun.  Learning this is exciting.  We all have memories of things we’ve learned, and maybe you can even remember your very earliest memory of learning, when you learned what it was like to learn. Maybe you were with a group of people or with someone older, but in that moment, you knew what it was like to learn, and everything seemed right. It sounded true, and it felt real. In a lot of ways, it’s like  this voice  a voice of experience and support. So when you think about what it is you’re going to learn, and you listen, you can hear  this voice  … and if you listen… really listen… you can hear  this voice  right now… speaking to you, right from the very center of who you are. This is your voice of experience and support. I have a voice like that, and you have  this voice  too… and even in the quiet moments of your thoughts, you can always  hear this voice … guiding you, protecting you and keeping you from harm.

Oh is it too much, princess? You're gagging too much? You can barely breathe? But this is what you wanted, isn't it? You told me you wanted to please me, and fucking your throat like this is what pleases me. So I won't have any more out of you about it. Don't complain. Just shut up and gag until I'm finished.

You enjoy being mindlessly horny… You enjoy being close to the edge… You enjoy needing permission…

Embrace it.

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"i don't like it" sub x "don't worry i'll condition u to" dom

you know you cant stop

Feels too good

Edge Addict

by Chaos Doll - https://www.patreon.com/chaosdoll

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Edging 101 - Why You Should Edge

This post is in response to a few questions I’ve received on my blog. I’ve taken inspiration from a great post @littlemisssubshine made on orgasm denial, which is well worth reading. As I focus more on edging rather than denial, I think there’s room for both posts. If you’ve ever wondered why you should try edging, read on..

What is Edging?

Edging is where you’re deeply aroused and close to cumming, but you hold back before you orgasm. It can be done physically with fingers/toys/another person, or mentally, with porn/audio/erotic stories. The idea is you overwhelm yourself to the point of near sexual release, without going over the edge and experiencing any refractory period, drop in pleasure or sensitivity, allowing you to build and build your excitement and enjoying your constant arousal and lust.  To enjoy an edging session, you’ll have to let your arousal wind down a little after reaching the edge before bringing it back up again. There is no hard and fast rule as to how long you should take between edges. You can wait seconds, minutes, hours (going about your day before continuing), or just maintaining your level of stimulation to keep on the edge, without tipping over and accidentally cumming.

Edging broadly be broken down into:

Soft Edging 

Holding back at the first hint, or “Echo” of an orgasm, by removing all stimulation. This is better for those who have tried edging before and struggled to stop themselves from accidentally cumming. Depending on how well you know your body, you might not be able to feel the signals that you’re getting too close, and stopping at the first sign will allow you to build back up after.

This isn’t a bad thing, as this means you’re clearly in touch with your body and know how to give yourself pleasure, which is very important later on. Starting here and learning to edge like this will let you learn to listen to your pussy and allow you to change how you play, knowing when you can play for longer to increase your pleasure, or when you’re too close and risking tipping over. Every woman I’ve taught how to edge who struggled at first, started here, and all have been able to progress to hard edging. 

Hard Edging

Letting yourself continue well beyond that first tremor, right up until you feel like the slightest extra rub will send you crashing into an orgasm, and holding back at that point. This is better for those who have edged before as being at “The Edge” can feel like walking a tightrope, where the slightest misstep can send you over. After edging a few times, you have a greater sense of what your body is telling you, and that tightrope becomes a plank, which over time becomes a field, allowing you more room to play, to know precisely how much you can enjoy.

This is the method for how you’re able to fully explore every corner of edging and how much stimulation you can give your body, and how people who REALLY enjoy it, get so much pleasure out of it. 

Why do people who like it, enjoy it so much?

This is the question I’ve been asked the most since starting this blog, from people who can see edging/gooning blogs with posts about how “Dumb”, “Blank” and “Edged” the owners are, babbling about how good they feel.  1 - When you edge for a while your body releases dopamine, the feel-good endorphin. While you’re rubbing and squirming away, your brain starts releasing this in anticipation of the orgasm it doesn’t know you’re not-ready-to-give-it yet, and this is where the “Dumb/Blank” feeling comes from. Imagine the feeling when you’re close to cumming and your whole body is in desperation, and you’re about to tip over, but stretched out for as long as you want it.. The longer you spend on the edge, the more dopamine is released, leaving you swimming in this blissed-out feeling. If you’ve ever had mind blowing sex where you’re left unable to think afterwards, just floating there, ready to drift off and sleep, THIS is that same feeling x 1000, as you’re able to control how intense it is and how long you can experience it for.

2 - You’re able to incorporate as many toys and parts of your body as you enjoy playing with. If you enjoy a plug in your arse while getting fucked, but only masturbate with a rabbit vibrator, imagine how good it would feel edging with your plug in at the same time, that fullness bringing a new dimension to how it all feels, increasing the sensitivity of your body. It can also be fun to see how overstimulated you get without tipping over, with a toy in your arse, your pussy, on your clit and even on your nipples. However, just like you wouldn’t masturbate by immediately putting you wand on your clit on the highest setting and need to nurture and build up your pleasure, over-stimulation doesn’t get you as satisfied and deep in that edged headspace as other things can.. As there are simple ways of building up separate orgasms at the same time using different toys on different parts of the body, building to the edge of those different orgasms at the same time and edging them together brings an even GREATER dopamine reward, which feels even better due to stimulating mulitple erogenous zones at the same time. This is what my posts on Stacking Edges cover.

The Biggest Reason you Should Edge at Least Once

3 - It makes your orgasms MUCH more powerful. The biggest misconception with edging is that it’s all about denial, and never cumming again. I disagree. For me, edging is ALL about the orgasm. Edging makes your eventual orgasm feel better with much harder contractions, due to your clit being all swollen and sensitive due to playing so long, your pussy being so wet, and the psychological factors of teasing yourself, all coupled with that dopamine reward. It’s true that edging regularly and not cumming after will let you get even deeper into your edged-out headspace every time, but this isn’t for everyone, and doesn’t mean that those girls who love to cum should be deprived. When you’re ready to cum, the orgasm will be far more intense than a regular orgasm. Even reaching the edge and holding back once before allowing yourself to cum will result in a better orgasm. But, trying all these new ways to edge and letting yourself cum after each one results in bigger and more intense orgasms, so what have you got to lose?

Next time, I’ll give some edging tips.